From b6ad71dcf24ccd4d5acb23ac05c03150918a3946 Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: IKIGAI LABS XYZ <128307722+IkigaiLabsETH@users.noreply.github.com> Date: Sun, 10 Nov 2024 01:28:23 +0100 Subject: [PATCH] gm --- knowledge.json | 854 +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ 1 file changed, 854 insertions(+) create mode 100644 knowledge.json diff --git a/knowledge.json b/knowledge.json new file mode 100644 index 0000000000..82bf786eea --- /dev/null +++ b/knowledge.json @@ -0,0 +1,854 @@ +{ + "documents": [ + "Title: What’s a rich people thing that rich people don’t know is a rich people thing?\n\n\nComment 1:\nText: Spontaneity. They can randomly decide to do things without much planning, knowing that money will not be an issue. This applies from random fancy dinners to major trips out of the country\nUpvotes: 23679\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I had a client who is an accountant that told me this phrase (we live in Argentina):\n\n- So last week we heard that Radiohead was playing in Tokyo, so we said: sounds like a plan!”\n\nAnd she brought me a keychain, which was kind of nice :)\n Upvotes: 8434\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: This. Couple that with solutions to problems always being \"simple\" when they have that money on hand. I hate whenever someone offers a solution like \"Why don't you just go get a...\" or \"You gotta call someone to come...\" or \"That's why you get...\" \n\nPeople can't just \"get\" things. Even if they NEED it.\n Upvotes: 1219\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: THIS!!!! I once had a rich kid I attended highschool with say to me (because I’d made the mistake of vocalising my envy, and stating that my family was so poor we’d never even left the state) that **“travelling the world isn’t about having money, it’s about having courage”.** Which is not only probably some cheesy quote her mother had hanging in their house or something, it’s also completely untrue lmao. Like, what, am I gonna show up to a resort and they say “that’ll be $2000 please!” And I respond with “oh, no sorry, I’ll be paying my tab with courage!” 🫠🫠🫠\n Upvotes: 988\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 2:\nText: I dated a guy whose folks were really rich. At one point, we were all riding around on his dad's speedboat, on the lake where they had their million-something second home. \n\nWe passed a big house that was somewhat bigger than the big house his dad and step-mom owned. His step-mom sighed softly and said, \"I wonder how the other half lives. It must be nice.\"\nUpvotes: 18014\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This is the best comment in the whole thread lmao\n Upvotes: 4920\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: My in-laws have three houses, all paid for, and millions in the bank. When my mother in law says this (which she does frequently), I tell her “well mostly we stress about paying for our kids’ college tuition.”\n\nWe do just fine, but Jesus the lack of perspective.\n Upvotes: 3283\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Talk about being blind to how privileged you already are. \n Upvotes: 854\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 3:\nText: If you grow up rich it's pretty much everything. Essentially it's **atmosphere**. My aunt's family was very well off. Her husband had a blue collar background. The first time he saw her was the summer after his junior year of college, when he was part of a crew doing lawn work at her parents' house. They \"dated\" very briefly but they had nothing in common.\n\nHe busted his ass, got a few lucky breaks, and ended up with a very, very lucrative job. A few solid investments later he was actually worth more than my aunt's whole family. Eight years after they first met he asked her out again.\n\n**To hear him tell it, he took her to a really swanky restaurant with a long wait list, that he managed to bypass thanks to a friend who knew the owner. As soon as they sat down he said to her \"I always wanted to take you to a place like this.\" My aunt looked around the room, she looked at him, and she said \"a place like what?\"**\n\nTo her it was just a restaurant.\nUpvotes: 15698\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: 😭 This man busted his ass for almost a decade and she didn’t even notice.\n\nAnd what do you mean they “briefly dated?”\n Upvotes: 6237\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I know a guy like this. Went from doing road work (also as a summer job, during college) to filthy rich in less than a decade.\n\nI don't know how the hell they do it. Can't figure out if they're just insanely smart and a little lucky, or a little smart and insanely lucky.\n\nEDIT: I'm happy your uncle got the girl in the end though.\n Upvotes: 369\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I agree with \"pretty much everything\". I went to the beach with my ex once and she was astounded to learn that bungalows where you chill in the shade and have drinks brought to you are, not only not on every beach, but a privilege you had to pay for.\n Upvotes: 20\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 4:\nText: Parents who know how to do things. Who help you fill out college applications, who guide you into lessons, the right classes, how to rent an apartment, invest, etc. etc. Upper middle class kids have no idea how many things working class kids have to figure out for themselves because their parents have no experience in that stuff — like the parents don't even know what it is that they don't know.\nUpvotes: 11175\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I come from parents that immigrated here to the US, that didn’t know much English. Oh boy lol no one taught me how to fill out University Applications or FASFA. I had to figure out myself. That wasn’t the hardest part. The most wide eye opening/jaw dropping was realizing that parents did a lot of the above for them (my college classmates). Parents paid for their college, housing, apartments, monthly allowances, credit cards for spending, investment knowledge, providing them with huge down payments for their first house purchase, trust funds, they had jobs lined up at their parents firms, already knew about medical school because their parents were surgeons, Etc. and most of them were out of state, too.\n Upvotes: 2014\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Having a mentor or guide through the really rough phases of life is sooo key or you'll get clobbered in this mean world.\n\nMost drown in the complexities of modern life.\n Upvotes: 568\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I grew up somewhat rich, a lot of my friends (and even my wife) didn't. There's a lot of financial advice I end up having to give out so people don't fuck themselves over or get surprised by. When my wife was trying to get her first apartment and we weren't married yet, I had to cosign the lease because she quite literally didn't have a credit score. She's saved up loads of money, enough that we could go years without working and still be fine and on top of all our bills, but without a credit score it didn't matter.\nI also had a job for years where my whole \"thing\" was knowing how to walk people through getting the things they want or need done. Taxes, college applications, loan applications, job interviews, disability services, therapy appointments, credit cards, bank accounts, rental agreements, apartment inspections, ordering a pizza over the phone, first date etiquette, pet adoption paperwork. I was the full time \"guy who knows how to do shit with paperwork\". \n Upvotes: 510\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 5:\nText: Booking a flight day of or so close to date, without a second thought.\nUpvotes: 10510\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: \"Sir, you don't need booking for your private jet\"\n Upvotes: 2599\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Depends on where you are in the world really. I can fly to like 5 different countries for $100 one way even when I book same day. Booking ahead it can be as low as $50 but the flexibility is worth the difference.\n Upvotes: 360\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Or changing their return to a different time or day, again without a thought\n Upvotes: 190\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 6:\nText: Telling their parents they want to be a musician or artist and the parents don’t ask if there’s a backup plan.\nUpvotes: 9160\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I dated a woman who had lived off grid in a survivalist community where they built their own shelters and stuff. She said it took her a while to realize that the reason most of them were so care free was because they had wealthy parents and trust funds and at any point if it got too tough they could just leave and catch a flight home. She didn't have the same options as them. \n Upvotes: 4213\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Or any venture. Bill Gates dropped out to found MS but if it hadn't worked his family was wealthy enough he wasn't going to end up living under an overpass.\n Upvotes: 887\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: LOL - that was my friend. She tried being a dancer for about 10 years out of college (that her father paid for). She had a part time gig here or there just for something to do. However, she lived off funds from her father and a trust fund her grandmother had left for her. She quite literally had NO idea how privileged she was.\n Upvotes: 100\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 7:\nText: I have one that nobody ever thinks about, but friendships!! \n\nWhen you move in wealthy circles, maintaining a circle of friendships is much easier. They have the time, energy and money to prioritise trips away together. They can meet their girlfriends for dinners because they have access to childcare and don’t have to be up at 5am 5-7 days a week. They can outsource their admin, they don’t have to be calling the electrician or spending the day taking their car to a mechanic. \nThey have access to a high level of medical care so may spend less time chasing medical issues around. \nThey have the freedom to pursue these friendships.\n\nWhen you’re working class, you and all your friends are working their assess off just surviving and keeping on top of their responsibilities. We’re all busy and exhausted, so maintaining friendships takes a lot of work and sacrifice. \n\nIt’s why we always see wealthy people with like 40 close friends and we have like 2 close friends we struggle to make time to see.\nUpvotes: 8167\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This is actually mind blowing to me. It dovetails into “rich people have time” in general, but what a positive consequence.\n\nMy parents in law are wealthy. Like on cruises all the time wealthy. And they have SO MANY friends and you just helped make this click.\n Upvotes: 2455\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Yes. My nephew recently married into “society,” and one thing I learned is, say your kid is graduating high school, you might throw him a party. In my nephew’s in-laws’ hood, you throw your kid a party. But then the neighbors throw him another party. And you might throw their graduating kid a party. It’ll be a summer of everyone throwing everyone a party.\n Upvotes: 733\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Yeah, it‘s even small things like:\n\n*Haven‘t seen you in a while, me and the girls are going to brunch tomorrow, if you want to join us?*\n\nSorry, I have to work.\n\n*Me too, just leave for an hour or two.*\n\nNot everyone has an *I leave for an hour, or two to go brunching* kind of job.\n Upvotes: 456\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 8:\nText: A friend of mine is a trust fund baby. She decided she wanted to hike the AT, so she quit her very comfy job, bought all the gear, and flew to Virginia. She only made it a few weeks and got bored. Came back home and her dad found her another very comfy job. Hasn’t been hiking since. I was floored by this. Another friend decided she wanted to be a dairy farmer, so she bought a farm in Kansas and got some cows. Then she had to hired a farm hand after two cows died because she didn’t know they needed minerals. They just act so flippantly without care or thought\nUpvotes: 6044\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: \"They were careless people. . . They smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money . . . and let other people clean up the mess they had made. . .\" (F. Scott Fitzgerald  - The Great Gatsby)\n Upvotes: 2858\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: My girlfriend used to work at a blueberry farm in the area. It was started back in the 50’s, handed down generationally, until it was purchased by her boss back like 10 years ago. They built it up, formed a respectable social media presence and poured their hearts into the place. They decided to sell a couple years ago, as they were approaching retirement age. Sold it to a couple trust fund kids from Seattle, mid 30’s siblings. Within a year, the barn burned down, they laid off over half their staff, and looks to have stopped pruning their blueberries. From the looks of the place and the social media sleuthing I’ve done, they pretty much lost interest in the venture and just went back to their previous lives. It’s crazy how these rich kids could decide one day “it would be nice to have a blueberry farm”, buy one for 2mil, fail, and then just move on.\n Upvotes: 2031\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Yeah. My mom's friend did an Eat Pray Love style life change and wrote a book about it. Then she asked me in complete bewilderment \"why doesn't everyone just do what they love? Life is so short.\" I was like \"um... bills? Being too disabled? It's not that easy for everyone\". She really didn't get the concept that not everyone can just do whatever they want to be happy. \n Upvotes: 258\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 9:\nText: This was a new one for me, but hearing this girl say she had a personal driver and then after my astonishment declaring it was pretty standard where she lived.\nUpvotes: 4742\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Be honest Victoria!\n Upvotes: 1802\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Depending on the country having a personal diver, maid and gardener can be very normal for middle class families. This is usually because a lot of the population has little to no formal education and so your job prospects are either be a small scale farmer, factory worker or provide a service to a more well off family.\n Upvotes: 466\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Thailand. Most middle class families had a maid and a handyman woking for them, who would double as nannies and drivers.  \n\n\nThe problem is that Thailand has a tiny upper and middle class compared to the population than any other country.  \n\n\nMiddle class Thai people think it's normal to own a condo they don't use on top of their home while they walk past open air shacks of supposedly not homeless people.  \n Upvotes: 308\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 10:\nText: Their social networks. Small example: “my son just graduated college with a degree in blah blah, and my good golf buddy owns a blah blah firm. I’ll ask if he has a summer internship opening.”\nUpvotes: 4003\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Yeah, this is the real one. What rich people do better is network with other rich people. Even if they never give their children a trust fund, they’re setting Junior up with a high-paying job using connections.\n\nWhich isn’t to say middle class people don’t also do this - it’s just that their network is typically also middle class, so Junior’s resume is landing on the desk of someone hiring for a 50k/year job.\n Upvotes: 1678\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: This is actually what private universities are very good for. Reddit loves to hate on college and the debt that they come with, but private universities are essentially giant networking opportunities. \n\nI'm in my mid 30s now and every guy on my floor in my 1st year dorm is now on a partner track in whatever field they ended up in, accounting, law, doctor, etc. They all had internships throughout college and graduated with multiple job offers lined up.\n\nA couple hundred thousand dollars of debt means nothing if you get to trade it for a multi-year head start at whatever firm you end up at. \n\nObviously this doesn't work as easily if you go to a state school or community college.\n Upvotes: 7\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: ugh we had one of these dipstick interns at my last company. there had been no internship advertised, we didn't need an intern, and even if we did he had no useful skills for the work and was just a time drain. come to find out his father is besties with the ceo \n Upvotes: 6\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 11:\nText: Buying a house as an investment, rather than a place to live\nUpvotes: 3584\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This one kills me. I was complaining to a coworker about how my property taxes had gone up so much, and he was like \"hey, that's a good thing! It means your property value is high\".\n\nI'm like ??? but if I sell my house, where will I live? Are people like selling their houses and getting an apartment instead or something? If I only have the one house, how am I supposed to profit off its value going up?\n Upvotes: 1427\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I was sitting around drinking with some friends and one of them said \"Hmm. Maybe I should buy a house.\" and a month or so later he had a house. He didn't grow up rich but rather became rich as an adult. It was still wild to see that.\n Upvotes: 438\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I have a customer who casually told me the other day that she bought a plot of land down the hill from her house. I said, \"oh, an investment?\" She said, \"no, they were going to develop it and put 5 townhouses on it and it would block my view, so now it won't be developed.\"\n\nJust casually dropped hundreds of thousands of dollars.\n Upvotes: 29\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 12:\nText: The VP of my company once asked me why I don't get a maid and laundry service when he overheard me mentioning about not having enough free time.\nUpvotes: 3465\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: The CEO (multi millionaire) of the \"startup\" I worked at in NYC got so confused when my coworker, who was her own department, had to take a day off because her kids were sick.\n\n\"Why doesn't she just let the nanny take care of them?\" She wondered.\n\nWe were making 40k, in NYC. I often had to choose what bill to skip so I could eat that month\n Upvotes: 2028\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: One of the execs my wife worked with heard that it was my dream to live in the country and have some land for lots of animals, like a hobby farm. Pie in the sky idea. He sent her a bunch of “affordable” listings- all around 4-5 million dollars. We’re doing quite well financially but these people are just in a totally different sphere.\n Upvotes: 435\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: The owner of a company asked me why I didn't just a buy a house in his area while he knew he paid me 8% of what he makes per hour. \n\nLiterally told him he would need to increase my income by 6x and still require my wife to work full-time so I can afford a million dollar home next to him.\n\nShortly after he also said hey you're smart you should work for this company. I applied and used him as a reference and got a job paying 3x what he was paying me at the time as my starting wage and he offered to double my wage on the spot but it was too late\n\nAt least he didn't sabotage my application and helped me advance my career so there's that.\n Upvotes: 104\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 13:\nText: Refrigerators that look like cabinets.\nUpvotes: 2681\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: That's actually a decent answer to this. Good kitchen design in general would be a big one. A well designed kitchen is not cheap, but once executed also doesn't seem like a big deal until you experience a kitchen which wasn't designed well.\n Upvotes: 832\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: [deleted]\n Upvotes: 33\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I’m not rich but my appliances are integrated. It’s normal where I live. Fridge and freezer. Dishwasher and washing machine.\n Upvotes: 20\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 14:\nText: I've ate at some fancy restaurants before, but I'd like to know who those wine lists are made for lol. I could fund a few months traveling with what it appears to be just the drink with an evening meal for some folks.\nUpvotes: 2398\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Business expense accounts\n Upvotes: 1522\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I talked with a manager of a 3-star michelin restaurant. There are people that are saving for a year or more, to have a meal at their restaurant. He said you can tell by the way they are tasting every bite instead of slobbering it all in. They are his and his chef's favorite customers.\n Upvotes: 14\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: A friend’s mother owned an high class restaurant and when you order an expensive wine, you pay for the whole bottle. People accepted it with no further questions. What she did with those opened bottles was very sweet. Every week there were people who came and it was an highlight for them. They saved up for it or/and it was a special occasion or something. Those customers were never able to taste such high quality wines, do they were invited by the restaurant to taste a glass of what they had open. It was incredibly appreciative by everyone and some money heavy patrons did occasionally ordered a bottle just to have one glass. Just do there was always an open bottle.\n Upvotes: 13\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 15:\nText: Not checking prices of things/throwing anything and everything in their basket and paying without looking.\n\nOh how I wish to one day go shopping without having to walk around the store with my calculator app open.\nUpvotes: 1332\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This is my exact bar. This is why I consider myself wealthy. I don’t make extravagant meals or anything, but I don’t look at price tags when I shop for food. Another rich person thing (I went from poor to rush when I married into a rich family), is cooking. Rich people (in my experience) rarely buy highly processed foods. They get produce and fresh meat and cook well. My mother in law spent a ton of time traveling in France and Italy and just cooks coq au vin and soups and things like that. Meals for 4-8 for under $40, usually. And it’s still super fancy feeling.\n Upvotes: 530\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I never check prices at the grocery store. I'm just middle class. \n\nIf I'm at the mall I'm def checking prices.\n Upvotes: 187\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I used to do this, but I started paying a bit more attention recently. I’ll still buy whatever I want, but I’ll think about whether or not it is worth it first. I don’t mind spending money but I hate wasting it.\n Upvotes: 12\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 16:\nText: Not needing to or thinking of saving up money to buy something or for a holiday.\nUpvotes: 1289\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Tbh this is more like a \"things poor people think is a rich peoples thing but they're just poor\" thing\n Upvotes: 317\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I have an aspect of that that I really think fits OP’s question. I have always been super anxious around travel/vacations/trips and it drives my husband crazy. I’m stressed out packing everything, wanting to get to the airport super early, he thinks it’s just an irritating quirk of mine but I realized about a decade into our relationship why I do it - when I was growing up there was no fallback plan if things went wrong. We never took vacations but to us a family camping trip every four or so years was a huge deal. Really going anywhere together as a family was a huge deal. If something went wrong though there was no contingency plan. My dad once borrowed an old RV for a camping trip which us kids were SO excited about. About 45 minutes out of town something went wrong mechanically and I remember waiting at an auto shop for a good three hours in the summer heat then my grandad picking us up to take us back home. We were so disappointed but something must have broke on the RV that was too expensive to fix so trip was just canceled. I didn’t realize fully even until now typing this how much stress that caused me. And another time we drove to the next state for my uncle’s wedding and stayed at a hotel with a pool (my grandad booked our room) but here I didn’t even know hotels had pools and I didn’t bring a swimsuit only my wedding clothes so I just couldn’t swim. It was so sad, all my brothers and cousins were swimming and I had never even been in an in-ground pool at that age (10ish). With my husband’s family if anything went wrong, if anyone forgot anything, money solves all. I remember my husband’s sister missed her flight home for Thanksgiving from college one year and all flights were sold out to get her in on time, so my FIL CHARTERED a plane for her to get home. They all miss flights all the time and when I’m stressing over our travel plans my husband is like “what’s the worse that can happen? We just get another flight!” but I cannot adapt to that way of thinking because for poor people mistakes can’t just be solved by throwing money at the problem.\n Upvotes: 259\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: That’s more of just good money management. I’m not rich, but i can go on a trip on a whim.\n Upvotes: 27\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 17:\nText: The safety net. Normal people can't fuck up as much as they like and it not be a problem.\nUpvotes: 1138\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This is a HUGE one.\n\n\nBecause large life changing rewards only come by making high risk gambles.\n\n\nAnd you can't do that if you have zero safety net.  If the gamble is \"If this doesn't work we're homeless\" nobody takes it.\n\n\nIf the gamble is \"this doesn't work we start over\" then most people would\n Upvotes: 100\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: One thing about the safety net that we often don’t talk about is that is how we learn: from foaming milk to running a business. Is the lesson going to cost you 5 gallons of milk or 2 coffee shops?\n\nOf course just having the opportunity to fuck up doesn’t mean you’ll learn, but not being able to afford failure makes it way harder to get good at anything.\n Upvotes: 53\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I saw a post about Donald Trump’s numerous failed attempts to start a business. A large number of comments were praising him for not giving up as if he didn’t have millions from his to fall back on if things didn’t work out.\n Upvotes: 24\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 18:\nText: Having their clothes tailored. The truly wealthy are never flashy about it, as it makes them a target, but they will often wear decent clothes that have been fitted for them specifically.\nUpvotes: 1101\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: You guys need to walk into a tailor and see what it actually costs. You think all those tailors in shitty strip malls are only servicing rich people?\n Upvotes: 498\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Been there done that. They are so much more comfortable. \n\nAnd it’s really not that expensive, I usually pay only 10-15% of the shirt’s cost for the tailoring!\n Upvotes: 139\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Tailoring is surprisingly inexpensive. \n\nIt's actually better to shop at a thrift store in a size or two up, but good brands there and go to a tailor to get them fitted ($20 - $50 to get it fit to you).\n\nThen you have good quality clothes that aren't going to wear out and look like shit in 6 months.\n\nThere's a lot here in this list that is just people's assumption that things are rich people things that 'normal' people can't afford, that actually aren't, and are more cost effective than the alternative, but has a bias so no one even thinks to price it out.\n Upvotes: 15\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 19:\nText: ITT: People listing obvious things that every rich person understands is a rich person thing.\nUpvotes: 969\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: my thoughts too, i was thinking more along the lines of “having a fridge that dispenses water” or “being able to have a consistent shampoo/bodywash choice” but then again those might just be a middle class thing…\n Upvotes: 383\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: ITT: poor people thinking being rich is just not being poor..\n Upvotes: 22\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: There is such a wide range in what people consider a rich person thing haha. I'm seeing everything from \"being able to grocery shop without using a calculator\" to \"owning a yacht that you can land your helicopter on.\" Just shows how much people's individual socioeconomic class and upbringing changes what they consider rich.\n Upvotes: 8\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 20:\nText: Paying other people to do their housework; laundry, house keeping, grocery shopping, cooking, yard work, etc. many assume everyone does the same, probably why so many of them think you should work longer hours/ not have much time off. Just us normal peoples housework alone is like having another job.\nUpvotes: 935\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Getting a laundry service has been great. It's only $10 more than doing it myself, and they even fold it for me. Now that I have a spare $10, completely worth getting that time back.\n\nEdit: I use Poplin, and here's a referral code for $10 off the first order: https://gopoplin.com/?referralId=p18VMRe8lWuaHz5qZHmM\n Upvotes: 112\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I knew someone barely making more than minimum wage but had been careful with her money her whole life (she was around 60). She paid for very simple yardwork and simple housework. The person ran the vacuum, mopped, and did her laundry 2x/week. The yard person mowed and edged. She said she was no good at keeping up with that stuff and it was her little luxury, made her feel like she had done ok, and gave her a little more free time.\n\nGranted this was probably a decade ago and I wonder how she’s doing now.\n Upvotes: 91\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: My ex-fiancé’s family had “lawn elves.” He said that phrase to me like it was normal. I didn’t know much about his family’s finances at the time so I asked in a kind of surprised way, “your parents pay people to mow their lawn? Like habitually?” He looked confused, thought about it, and said “huh, I guess we must pay them.”\n\nI should’ve left him on the spot.\n Upvotes: 48\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 21:\nText: Yesterday, I was explaining to someone that I’m paying too much for a one bedroom apartment and had to move soon. They started talking about professional packers and movers that they recommended.\n\nLady, I’m getting the cheapest U-Haul possible and doing everything myself, like I have done the last 7 times I’ve moved.\nUpvotes: 873\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Hey everyone, look over here a Daddy Warbucks with a Uhaul. Thinks he is too good to straps couch on top of his car.\n Upvotes: 309\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: This is why I'm working on going super minimalist. I have had to hire movers bc of back issues and I don't want to deal with that, and I don't want to bug friends for help. I just want a couple suitcases and a tiny amount of family memorabilia.\n Upvotes: 6\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I think she didn't quite listen when you told her about the *1 Bedroom Apartment*\n Upvotes: 3\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 22:\nText: $10 bananas.\nUpvotes: 808\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: It's one banana, Coygon, how much could it cost?\n Upvotes: 388\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: There is always money in the bananastand\n Upvotes: 180\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I love that these references are 20 years old.\n\nI love that I still recognize them every time.\n\nI love that they still make me smile every time.\n\nNO TOUCHING!\n Upvotes: 9\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 23:\nText: Being given gifts. My car broke down shortly before Christmas once and I had no money to fix it. A friend said ‘why don’t you just ask everyone to give you money towards the bill for your Christmas present?’. \n\nGirl, who is ‘everyone’? Ain’t nobody giving me gifts, let alone do I have anyone I could request money from in lieu of 😆\nUpvotes: 792\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Even if people gave you gifts of money regularly, that just sounds tacky to ask for it!\n Upvotes: 159\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: This reminds me of the time my mom went to a jewelry shop to sell a diamond bracelet that she had inherited, likely worth upwards of $2,000. She ended up not wanting to sell to that specific store, but before she left, the appraiser told her \"If you're not interested in selling it to a store, why don't you just sell it to a friend?\" She said \"What friend?? None of my friends can afford a $2,000 bracelet! We're all broke!\"\n Upvotes: 15\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I had a friend in college that was from a rich middle eastern country but going to school in the US. I was poor at the time. She asked me if I wanted to go out and I said I couldn't because I didn't have any money. She said, no problem, we can stop by the ATM. I said I don't have any money in the bank. She said call you family and ask them to put money in for you. Um, my family didn't have any money either. She did not understand that I would not have any money until after my waitress shift at Pizza Hut.\n Upvotes: 12\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 24:\nText: Buying things that last. Rich people can afford much higher quality products. Think furniture, clothing, accessories. Hell I'm sitting on a probably 30 year old couch that we inherited from my in-laws, who I would describe as on the high end of middle class. But this stuff also gets spread around. When you move into your own place your dad's old friend might have a dresser for you, or an old TV that still works, or what have you. \n\nAnd over time, the smart rich people spend less money than the poor. They can afford the up front investment in higher quality products that last, while also enjoying the better quality of the products over their lifespan.\n\nAnd yes, for those in the know, I am reframing the Samuel Vimes Boots Theory. But it works here!\nUpvotes: 611\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Thank you for sending me off to find out about the Samuel Vimes Boots Theory! I can't believe I've never run into it before. I'm a lower middle class person who sometimes says, \"Buy once, cry once.\" \n\nMy reservation about the theory is, it explains a small multiple, but not a large one. So, going from badly made boots to expensive boots is a factor of 2 or 3, but living in Manhattan and having a love of adventure travel is a factor of....well, more fingers than I have. (lol) To put it another way, wealthy people today are in a stratosphere above Samuel Vimes, or me.\n Upvotes: 22\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Keep in mind though, not everything that lasts is more expensive than things that last shorter. Eg: Toyota/Lexus SUV vs a Range Rover.\n Upvotes: 19\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Poverty charges interest\n Upvotes: 11\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 25:\nText: Rich hobbies. My girlfriend’s family is well off, and has a cabin by the lake. Was talking to a friend of theirs one night over drinks and it came up that I (30+M) have neither golfed nor been water skiing. And the guy goes “I don’t understand, what did you DO as a kid then?” Didn’t even know how to respond, growing up I never even knew anyone who had *tried* either because no one could dream of affording it\nUpvotes: 595\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Had a similar experience, except on a race track. I was talking to some guys about how I wish I could've started racing when I was younger. I could've been something. Dude asked why didn't you... Told him that I was so poor we couldn't afford a fucking soccer ball. Had to play with an empty milk jug on the streets. Lol.\n Upvotes: 112\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Bro I skied the first time at 33yrs old… my wife’s family is sick of it and has had their fill and I literally just tried it lol.\n Upvotes: 12\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: A woman I knew was completely stunned when she found out my son (maybe 12 years old at the time) had never golfed. When I say stunned, she could not wrap her brain around it. I never looked at her the same way again.\n Upvotes: 9\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 26:\nText: Telling others “you should travel more to widen your horizon”. \n\n“Have you been to this Michelin star restaurant that opened last month?”\n\nGiving obnoxiously expensive gifts and not realising why other people get uncomfortable. \n\nBeing known by random people and getting much more polite service. \n\nHaving good understanding and generally being interested in investment opportunities and global trends. \n\nThrowing things out easily, when you just want to replace something.\nUpvotes: 593\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Michelin star restaurants can't open last month because they have to earn their star. Checkmate.\n Upvotes: 458\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: The billionaire I know gives exceedingly humble gifts for baby showers etc. Think like $40 outfits.\n Upvotes: 98\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Shit...\n\nGive me an obnoxiously expensive gift. I'll accept it gladly. No reason to feel awkward. If this random rich person couldn't afford it, they wouldn't give it. Moreover, I'm sure they're fully aware of your/my complete inability to reciprocate in equal measure, and are ok with it. Otherwise, they wouldn't have given it.\n Upvotes: 9\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 27:\nText: [removed]\nUpvotes: 474\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Having a guest house. Period.\n Upvotes: 471\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Or any form of second home. When a huge amount of people cannot afford one.\n Upvotes: 10\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: [deleted]\n Upvotes: 6\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 28:\nText: Having a garage fridge and gushers. Or that’s what my 10 year old self thought 😂\nUpvotes: 448\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Gushers are for the kids who live here only!\n Upvotes: 31\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: nobody really buys a garage fridge - just move the old one out there when you decide to upgrade in a decade or two\n Upvotes: 19\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: My garage fridge cost me the $7.32 I pad to rent a furniture dolly to move it out of some old lady's basement.\n Upvotes: 16\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 29:\nText: Having \"a guy\" for everything. Need a contract - I'll call my lawyer, Need a suit - I'll call my suit guy, want to buy an investment property - I'll call my realtor.\nUpvotes: 446\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Realtors are for poors. Ultra wealthy have an in house team of real estate professionals who deal with the realtor.\n Upvotes: 12\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Or you just live in miami (There is a guy for everything for cheap in Hialeah)\n Upvotes: 5\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I got a mechanic guy but that’s about it 😂\n Upvotes: 2\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 30:\nText: Going to college without having to worry about how your tuition is being paid.\nUpvotes: 364\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Thats only a US rich people thing\n Upvotes: 215\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: This absolutely floored me in college -- I went to one of the most expensive colleges in the country, but came from a modest background. I was so stressed about financial aid, how I was possibly going to pay, etc., especially because my parents couldn't really help.\n\nThen later I found out that over 50% of the student body didn't get any financial aid. Of that group, almost all of them (98%) didn't even *apply*. I was so shocked, and felt like I had been lied to -- these people really *weren't* like me. I knew that they mostly had more money than I did, but damn.\n Upvotes: 7\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Going to college and having additional food to eat besides what is offered in the meal plan.\n Upvotes: 7\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\n", + "Title: What is the most rich thing you've seen wealthy people say/do casually\n\n\nComment 1:\nText: My friends bought a house in Palm Springs but the renovation was taking too long so they just bought a second house in Beverly Hills to live in during the renovations. They kept both\nUpvotes: 9367\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I rented a little apartment in a nice, brand new complex a few years ago. \n\nThe lovely family upstairs that lived in the $3+ million penthouse bought it as they were renovating their $10+ million house nearby and didnt want to rent during the process.\n Upvotes: 1769\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: A relative bought a house in Malibu Colony (right on the beach) to live in while their Palisades home was being remodeled. Then they told me they kept the Malibu home because it was just easier than driving back to the Palisades after a day at the beach.\n Upvotes: 1087\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Friend's mom owns a building in one of the most expensive areas in one of the most expensive cities in Europe. 99% of these types of buildings are split up by floor (4 floors) into separate apartments. She lives in a whole building. Anyway, she was remodelling the whole thing and it would take 3 years or so, she bought a similar building across the street and sold it when remodelling was completed.\n Upvotes: 581\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 2:\nText: Was at a bar with the multi-billionaire ceo of the company I worked for. He made fun of Oprah for only having one jet, then went on to tell me to never buy helicopters because they are built by the lowest bidder - planes are the better choice.\n\nBob, my car didn't even have air conditioning...\nUpvotes: 8794\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Larry, I’m on Ducktails.\n Upvotes: 2476\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: >never buy helicopters because they are built by the lowest bidder - planes are the better choice.\n\nAaaaaand completely untrue. Money doesn't buy brains.\n Upvotes: 892\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Sir this is a McDonald's.\n Upvotes: 290\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 3:\nText: So I work part time at a strip club and we have some very rich clientele. Some of them come in all the time and we get to know a lot about them, they get to know a lot about us. Well, one of our security guys died of a sudden massive heart attack. One of the rich clientele just called the funeral home and paid for everything.\n\n\nLike there was no second thought. We were all taking up a collection to help a bit and he just dropped the whole bill just like that! I mean I see a lot of really rich behavior... But that one was just so mind-blowing. \nUpvotes: 5745\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: That was surprising wholesome\n Upvotes: 1955\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Alao one of the most kind examples here. \nRIP to the security guy. Probably a hard job to stay healthy in. \n Upvotes: 1890\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: That’s not typical rich person behavior, but it should be.\n Upvotes: 356\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 4:\nText: My dad knows a billionaire who had a french chateau disassembled and reassembled in the US. He acted like it was just a normal as building a house. My dads been there a few time and said it’s an insane property with a huge man made lake and huge sprawling lawns. \nUpvotes: 4033\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I went to a guy's house one time that has been a church in the UK. Apparently it was going to be torn down so he had it shipped to the US and then built a modern house around it. Stunning home.\n Upvotes: 1137\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Hugo Drax?\n Upvotes: 113\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: >insane property with a huge man made lake and huge sprawling lawns. \n\nUnless that lake was made from a disassembled French lake and the water was shipped over, that's just cutting corners.\n Upvotes: 12\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 5:\nText: Going to their apt in the city so they have a place to hang out in between shopping at stores. Their apt is only for that purpose.\nUpvotes: 3931\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: There's also a bougie name for it: pied a terre\n Upvotes: 1478\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Private bathroom! Clean too\n\nThey probably have a housekeeper\n Upvotes: 464\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Now this is one I’ve never heard of. Holy shit. I’m in the wrong business.\n Upvotes: 249\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 6:\nText: I used to work at a jeweler and the stories are endless. Clients would talk about how they just got back from a months long trip on a yacht or some exotic island. I’m just like cool I put in 60+ hours this week and have worked every day of the week lol. The shit that I wouldn’t get at all is the watch guys. I had a client come in one time and ask for the cheapest watch we had, so he didn’t have to worry about it on his trip. He ended up going with a $800 watch (not the cheapest) and while I was checking him out, he said he was going to throw it away after the trip. I tried talking him out of it and just said return it afterwards , but then he seemed insulted. Other watch guys would pay $1k every year just to get a little scratch on their Rolex that only they notice buffed out. Id explain to them that they’re shaving precious metal off every time and ruining the integrity of the watch, but they dgaf because their egos are so massive. We’d hold private events and encourage clients to bring their friends and itd always turn into a dick swinging contest of who can spend more. Absolutely wild environment and I was absolutely burnt out after 2 years. Most money I ever made, but most miserable I’ve ever been.\nUpvotes: 3587\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Insightful because those people consider even expensive, luxury items totally disposable\n Upvotes: 1086\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Sounds like new money. Most wealthy people Im around are cheap as fuck and would return that 800 dollar watch without you having to tell them and prolly would have annoyingly haggled you down to 750.\n Upvotes: 360\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I worked at Coach as a seasonal employee back in college. We had someone come in saying they were shopping there that day because they didn't want to go to Louis Vuitton. I was really put off by that comment, and realized years later they were full of shit and just trying to seem more rich and important than they actually were.\n Upvotes: 259\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 7:\nText: I worked in a sporting goods store in my early 20’s and got absolutely screamed at by an old man for not knowing who he was when I asked him for ID. \n\nApparently he owned like half the town and others at the store would kiss his ass. At $9 an hour I wasn’t paid enough to kiss his ass even if I cared who he was. \n\nI wasn’t from there and had only seen him come in a few times to buy random shit. But either way, the federal fucking government requires you produce ID to purchase a firearm and I was doing my job. \n\nIt’s been over 20 years and my husband, who has heard the story, will randomly look at me and bust out “you seriously don’t know who I am?!”\nUpvotes: 3014\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Ha ha ha! I work the front door at a strip club and I will get people coming in all the time trying to not pay the $20 to get in! My favorite is when they say do you know who I am? And I say No sir. Will the be cash or card? And then they usually say sometime like \" I can't believe you don't know who I am!\" I always reply with I'm sorry sir that information is probably in your wallet on your identification if you've forgotten. \n\n\nOh and the ones that scoff when I say its $20 and they say do you know how much money I have? And I say then you should be able to afford $20. Lol\n\n\nLuckily my boss doesn't care that most of us have quite a smart mouth!\n Upvotes: 1304\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Honestly, boomers hate showing their ID. I was a bank teller for years and would get yelled at when asking for ID when they wanted to withdraw cash from their accounts. I DONT KNOW YOU.\n Upvotes: 414\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: It was Ronnie Pickering!!\n Upvotes: 117\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 8:\nText: I once stayed at a place that was $10,000 a night, amenities included. Luckily my health insurance paid 90% since I’d met my deductible.\nUpvotes: 2708\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I see you too have stayed at hotel AH -SPEH THAL\n Upvotes: 454\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I ran up an $8000 bill for just a 20 minute chat with someone who worked there.\n Upvotes: 264\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: 🤣😉\n Upvotes: 69\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 9:\nText: It was from an 8-year old! My very wealthy friend got remarried and her son said he wouldn't mind staying with me while they went on their honeymoon. As we took our seats on the plane, he looked so confused. He sheepishly asked, \"Who are *all these people* on your plane?\". Oh, my little dude...\nUpvotes: 1936\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Interested in how the rest of his visit went!\n Upvotes: 434\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: That’s crazy😂\n Upvotes: 2\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: You were going on their honeymoon with them?\n Upvotes: -11\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 10:\nText: I once saw Jeff Bezos pay $100,000 to get a guy off the stage at an auction event. The guy on stage wasn’t going to leave until he reached his goal, and Jeff was tired of listening to him. Bye Felicia. $$\nUpvotes: 1827\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I completely misread that.. you once saw Jeff Bezos pay $100,000 to get a guy off?\n\nStory checks out\n Upvotes: 946\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: In other words, you saw Jeff Bezos give $100k to charity?\n Upvotes: 284\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: To him that was probably the equivalent of throwing a 5$ dollar bill at a homeless person harassing ypu for money\n Upvotes: 8\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 11:\nText: Pay USPS to keep the local branch of their post office open (it had been selected to close) so they didn’t have to drive as far to go to the post office.\nUpvotes: 1675\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: That's more along the line of calling the Congressman you own and getting a few strings pulled.\n Upvotes: 620\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I like that though, cos it also benefits other people and post offices are a net good.\n Upvotes: 44\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Thats borderline philanthropic. \"For the people\"\n Upvotes: 26\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 12:\nText: Someone once asked me where I summer 😭😭 never felt so poor than saying um… here ?\n\nUsing summer as a VERB, is a sign we are not in the same tax bracket\nUpvotes: 1252\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Yeah I'm lucky if we even get to take a 4-5 day vacation in the summer. We don't every year. \n Upvotes: 131\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: \"So where does everyone summer?\"\n Upvotes: 77\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Omg I tell my husband all the time that “we’ll know we’ve made it when we can use summer as a verb”😂😂\n Upvotes: 19\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 13:\nText: I had a friend of mine casually ask if I wanted to go to Dubai for a week to do some skydiving training in a couple of weeks. My response was \"no, I have to work for a living\". Blew my mind when they asked me like it was no biggie to duck out for a week and blow $15k.\nUpvotes: 1132\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Casual, spontaneous international travel really is a Hallmark of the super rich.\n Upvotes: 383\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I mean, you don’t have to be rich to take a week off like that. Dropping 15k on it is a different story though. \n Upvotes: 160\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: When I was in my early 20s I worked with someone my age whose parents paid for everything except her holidays. So she'd work for 3 months putting her entire wage in her holiday fund, go on a one month holiday, come back and work for another 3 months, go on another holiday.... she could not seem to understand that I couldn't do the same thing because my money was going to rent/bills/groceries etc., and my parents couldn't afford to fund my life, even if they'd wanted to.\n Upvotes: 10\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 14:\nText: I photograph luxury homes and architecture for a living. There’s a neighborhood I do a lot of work in called Silverleaf and it’s probably the most exclusive neighborhood in the valley. The bottom part of the neighborhood is your typical wealthy people's homes. Doctors, lawyers, business owners, etc.. extremely nice houses but still attainable for anyone who wants to put in the effort to work those types of careers.\n\nAs you drive towards the back of the neighborhood you start heading up a mountain that's divided into two parts. Upper Canyon and The Summit. There are probably 100 houses up there. The houses start close to 15 million, but several are over 20-30. One of the builders I work with is developing a house he’s asking about 60 million for.\n\nI work Upper Canyon every month or two and even though all of the houses are owned, half or less are lived in. For some, it’s a vacation home they might visit for a few weeks or months of the year, and for others, it’s an investment and a place to park their money.\n\nI photographed a 15-million-dollar house there a few years ago. The owner was selling it because he bought a 29 million dollar house literally 2 or 3 lots up because he liked the views more. He’s a Canadian business owner and spends maybe a few months of the year in the valley if that. \n\nI’m used to it now but for a long time I couldn’t wrap my head around how much money some people have…..\nUpvotes: 1116\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: See this is what I mean when I say I wanna be rich and am sad I’ll never get there. People always respond saying something like “just invest and in 40 years you’ll have a million dollars!” Or “the truly wealthy people drive Toyotas and shop at Costco!” That isn’t rich, that’s well off. In my opinion, if you have the money but can’t spend it however you want, you’re not rich. Rich is “I want that lot for the views and don’t know or care what it costs”.\n Upvotes: 652\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: This reminds me of something Dad always preached to us kids that \"we need to learn the value of a dollar\"\n\nHe was referring to people who struggle financially and spend on frivolous things that they don't need, like lavish holidays, gucci handbags, a car that's show-offy but outside their price range to purchase/maintain while having crippling debt and overdue unpaid bills.\n\nAs I've learned as an older man, the same can be said about the ultra wealthy. They do not appreciate the money that they do have. No person should ever have nor need the amount of money they have.\n\nI do alright for myself but am far from calling myself a wealthy man, I still struggle as a home owner of 1 that I live in plus am just over six figures, so it makes me very concerned for the people who aren't as fortunate as me. I won't be surprised nor against the inevitable 'eat the rich' day that's coming. Not a matter of if, but when.\n Upvotes: 7\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Hey there's a Silverleaf in my town too! Except our Silverleaf is a middle income neighborhood along a road of the same name where semi trucks park behind a furniture store.\n Upvotes: 4\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 15:\nText: Get stressed from a true crime podcast and book a tropical getaway to decompress.\nUpvotes: 1109\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I day dream about that kinda stuff 😳🥹\n Upvotes: 218\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Vacation is only \"rich people\" behavior if that's literally their only source of stress\n Upvotes: 17\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Had a boss who had a kitten that died, and his teenage daughter was so \"hearbroken\" that he took her on a month long trip to Europe to cheer her up.\n Upvotes: 11\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 16:\nText: My millionaire aunt scoffing at the idea that my single mother taking care of me and my younger brother couldn’t find a place to live because $3,000/month is “easily affordable.”\n\nEdit: $3,000/month being the average rent in the area.\nUpvotes: 1032\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Jesus, can’t wait to be looked down upon once my sister and BIL receive a huge monetary gift from a family friend. Not my friend but my BIL became friends and he ultimately became the old man’s beneficiary. We’re talking $40 million. I know deep down I’ll lose my sister to this wealth and I’m not looking forward to it. Wealth changes people and it’s never for the better. I’m a single mom too and I was chastised for not having a lot of money, for getting divorced and for spending money on my girls at times outside of my means. Tell your mom she’s doing a wonderful job and all that money doesn’t mean shit if the wealthy person is an asshole.\n Upvotes: 431\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: She should have helped you and your brother fiancially then.\n\nI dislike how many people in some cultures think that only the parents should take care of the kids, and no one else. \n\nIn a properly functioning family, every adult who is physically able to do childcare and has the time to do so should help. Every rich aunt, uncle, and grandparent should financially support a child with poor parents.\n Upvotes: 57\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: My coworker asked why I don’t have kids and I said I can’t afford it. She was surprised to hear that. I was making 20k a year at the time and spending 8k a year on tuition leaving me with 1000 a month for all my living expenses.\n Upvotes: 5\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 17:\nText: I know an almost billionaire who is very very sweet. He kept his oceanfront condo for his mother in law to stay at for like month a year, and went to it every day to feed the stray cats who lived around it. The place is paid off mind you but has high fees, a paid parking spot, utilities ect cost almost 20 grand a year.\nUpvotes: 833\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: > and went to it every day to feed the stray cats who lived around it\n\nThis is actually how I judge rich people. When you have hundreds of millions, paying for things really isn't that generous even if they're expensive and seem lavish by normal standards.\n\nNow time.. time is another thing. Nobody has ever managed to spend any amount of money and get more time in a day than anybody else. \n\nA rich guy that spends time feeding stray cats to make someone else feel better is a nice guy.\n Upvotes: 438\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Good guy!\n Upvotes: 44\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Feeding the stray cats every day....This made me melt! But I hope all of those cats are safe outside.\n Upvotes: 40\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 18:\nText: There is a large liquor store near me, they have VERY expensive bottles in the back room.\n\nOne Xmas I was standing in line. The man in front of me, had one case of wine, 12 bottles of various variety. \n\nThe checker said..... OK that will be $27,455.\n\nWtF??! Guy hands over his Credit card.\nFollowed him out, Drove away in a Bentley.\nUpvotes: 741\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Still wasn't very nice of you to steal that guy's Bentley!\n Upvotes: 588\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: My credit card will not even let me spend 27k. \n Upvotes: 18\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 19:\nText: [deleted]\nUpvotes: 721\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I had a friend whose parents obscenely wealthy. Like, she’d pay $100k every year to bring her horses from Canada to FL for the summer to ride at the stable I was working at, and her horses were worth $300k+. She offered to bring me back with her to Canada to take care of her 3 horses full time lol.\n\nShe’d always take the free stuff and pass it along to me. It was awesome to use- I never could have afforded it otherwise. I had no idea how much they got!\n Upvotes: 517\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: They probably want them to advertise for free. Be seen wearing their shoes or hat. Like an influencer among their rich friends. Like when liquor brands give out free tee shirts.\n Upvotes: 29\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: [Not this guy.](https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/3a095a58-be75-41dd-b47d-9d8c993e3c4a/gif)\n Upvotes: 18\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 20:\nText: Friend’s wealthy parents were going to give me a set of furniture for free—until I wound up moving cross country; couldn’t accept it.\n\nBefore I was to take it, I asked for the manufacturer so I could take measurements for my house, to make it all fit.\n\nThey responded, “oh, we’re not sure, it’s pretty old.”  Here I thought it was maybe from the 70’s.\n\nYes, it was from the 70s. The fuckin 1870s, from France, and it was all handmade Louis XV pieces.\n\nWhen I showed my home decor-obsessed mother, she appraised it all. Some were north of $5000, just for a small hallway desk. \n\nWe’re both upset about it to this day. \nUpvotes: 707\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: You sure about that date? Louis XV died in 1774, maybe they meant Louis Napoleon?\n Upvotes: 165\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: The Keno brothers would've had fits..\n Upvotes: 13\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: > The fuckin 1870s, from France, and it was all handmade Louis XV pieces\n\nthat'd be 1770s. 1870s was Napoleon III\n Upvotes: 13\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 21:\nText: I live not far from an old (now abandoned) castle in France. It was bought decades ago by a Chinese couple, they had the staircase taken out and shipped to China and just left the place and never returned. It’s been neglected since.\nUpvotes: 628\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Wow I’d love to know which was it what an insult\n Upvotes: 159\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Now that's selfish out of touch wealthy behaviour on a ridiculous level. Bought just so they could flex on people that their staircase is shipped from France or like... what\n Upvotes: 62\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: that literally made my lungs deflate. that’s devastating on so many levels\n Upvotes: 51\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 22:\nText: Had one of the outside salesmen drop in and we were talking about clothes for some reason. He said he donates his clothes to charity every year so he doesn't buy the \"very expensive shirts\"... his shirts are $300 each. Then he tells me he does buy \"decent\" shoes though. He showed me a company online where most of the shoes cost more than my car. How do we work for the same company and live that differently?\nUpvotes: 597\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Ever wonder how important sales is to your company? Don’t.\n Upvotes: 335\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I have, quite a few times now, found Saville Row men's shirts and tailored pieces that were not fake and I always wondered \"Who is donating this tailored stuff?!\" and now I know.\n Upvotes: 13\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Could he donate the shirts to you?\n Upvotes: 6\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 23:\nText: Contactor here. lady did not like the shape of the pool at the new house.Gets the job to change the shape. Does the job. So I tell her we can guarantee the workmanship for 5 years, but not any longer. She says cool, we are only here for 3\nUpvotes: 545\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Stupid question for people who know more about house prices than my poor ass: \n\nDoes wealthy people moving houses every few years impact the market? Because rich people moving into middle class or poor regions do fuck up the local market...\n Upvotes: 9\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: lol that’s similar to a gag on Silicon Valley of a tech guy speedrunning wasting his money, where he buys a house & moves the pool a few feet but then realized it looked better before & moves it back.\n Upvotes: 3\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 24:\nText: When being surprised that airlines will allow a larger-looking backpack in the overhead, he said \"Oh, it's been so long since I've flown commercially, I had no idea.\" \n\n\nHe said it in such a shy manner like he was embarrassed to say he flies privately. This is a 75 year old that looks like he's a regular middle class Joe and gives off no hint that he's extremely wealthy.\nUpvotes: 532\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: THIS is what I’m used to seeing in the wealthy people I know. This perfectly sums them up in two ways: \n\n1. They are often embarrassed by their wealth (the wife of a friend of mine made him sell an exotic car he had just bought because she thought it was to “show-off”. They would also correct their kids anytime they would let it slip out that they had a private jet or homes in other countries.\n2. They are often out of touch when it comes to things that most people experience (like riding commercial). When I was in college, I would see this almost every time I interacted with a good friend’s parents (they had a net worth in the low hundreds of millions)- his mother point out that my car tires were starting to bald and then would be completely shocked when I said that I didn’t have the money to replace four tires. Another time they invited me to go on vacation with them and she couldn’t wrap her head around the idea that I didn’t have money on hand for plane tickets to Europe lol.\n Upvotes: 417\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Is it also possible he just hasn't flown in so long ? Finances could go the other way...or just doesn't like flying.\n Upvotes: 38\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: “What do you mean we have to take off our shoes?”\n\nThis was someone who traveled every month or two, and when airports had been requiring it for over ten years. They simply hadn’t even thought about commercial flights in all of that time.\n Upvotes: 6\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 25:\nText: In 1994, I watched the CEO and founder of my employer, with an estimated net worth of at least $100 million, drop a twenty-dollar bill and other bills on the sidewalk. He glanced at it and then kept walking.\nUpvotes: 461\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I've done the same with a penny on a busy sidewalk, so I understand *perfectly*\n Upvotes: 486\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Let's say an average person would pick up a quarter if they saw it on the sidewalk. For Bill Gates, a similar sum would be $45,000. If you wouldn't bend over for anything less than a quarter, you would expect Bill Gates to not bend over for anything less than 45 grand.\n Upvotes: 166\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: That's trickle down economics in action baby\n Upvotes: 101\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 26:\nText: A guy I served at a bar paid me to let him keep drinking at the bar after close while he waited for his ride.\nUpvotes: 444\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: As an attendee of a dinner paid for by a boss, after closing the staff drove a big group of us to our next stop of the evening -- in their personal cars -- because taxis and uber weren't a thing in that town. I felt a little bad about it, but the boss paid them well.\n Upvotes: 173\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 27:\nText: Well, this may not be a \"rich thing\", I don't know, maybe an unexpected rich thing, but it was memorable. One year about 15 years ago, I was taking some vacation days right before Christmas. I took my AR-15 down to the Scottsdale Gun Club shooting range, which is a pretty public range that also rents guns.\n\nSo I'm in my lane with my AR and a few handguns, shooting away. Next lane to me I notice two elderly guys, one in a suit, one dressed more casually. They're shooting a pistol, like a .38 or 9mm. I can't help noticing the guy in the suit looks familiar. 10 minutes later, I realize who it is, it's the self-made billionaire founder and owner of Discount Tire company. I know him because my wife worked there and I'd seen him at their annual company Christmas parties. Super nice guy, first name is Bruce. Basically the richest person in Arizona.\n\nSo when I next have a chance, I get his attention, and he's all smiles because he's a nice guy, super friendly, shakes my hand, etc.\n\nLike an idiot I'm trying to talk to him and tell him my wife works there, etc, which is silly because we're in an active shooting range with hearing protection on and he's like 80. Anyways, I notice as he's addressing me, he keeps kind of peeking around me, into my lane. I notice he's eyeing my AR, which is picatinny'd out, has a bipod, and looks badass. Noticing this, I step aside and gesture to him if he'd like to hold it. I give him a quick runthrough of the magazine operation, trigger, charging handle, and safety. He's watching and grinning. Then I hand it to him, and hand him a mag and show him how to load it. By now the other guy he was with has stopped shooting and is now watching us.\n\nMr. Billionaire steps into my lane, squeezes off about 10 rounds at the paper target, his smile increasing with each one. Then he turns, puts down the rifle and turns to me with a huge smile, clasps my shoulder and gives me a vigorous handshake. I give him a quick salute and he goes back to his friend, they zip up their gun and head out of the range area back into the main showroom. So I finish my session, I'm there for maybe 20 more minutes, then I pack up and get ready to leave.\n\nAs I leave the range area and exit back into the main showroom, I find that the other guy is now there waiting for me. He shakes my hand and starts thanking me profusely, saying \"Mr. Halle really enjoyed that.\" (Mr. Halle is what everyone called him.). He pulls out a small notebook and asks me for my name, my wife's name. So I say, \"sure\" and give him that info.\n\nI then stop to ask him what happened, what was he doing there? What was that all about? He tells me that this is an annual tradition for Mr. Halle. His wife hates guns, and won't let him own one, but once a year, he's allowed to go down to the range and rent a pistol, and fire it, and this was that time. (meanwhile this dude could afford to buy the building we're in 100 times over.) He thanks me and tells me again how much it meant to him, I say, OK, cool, and then we part company.\n\nI go home and that evening tell my wife the story, she's like, \"That's cool.\" but doesn't think too much of it.\n\nA few weeks go by, and one day she's at work, and her phone rings, it's Billionaire's assistant. \"Are you at your desk? Mr. Halle is on his way down.\"\n\nShe's frozen with panic and like \"WTF?\" There's like 2,000 people at that office and why is he coming to see her? So 2 minutes later, he shows up, and he's got a big box of stuff with him. He starts by greeting her and begins telling her the story about me and the shooting range. After she stops panicking, and relaxes, he comes into her cubicle and, pulls up a chair and starts chatting her up about the photos of our kids, starts asking about me, photos from vacations, cruises, etc. and various other stuff. He tells her again how glad he was he ran into me.\n\nThe box he brought is full of gifts for our kids, toy cars, books, stuffed animals, and other tire-related stuff. Nothing real fancy, just some thoughtful gifts. He clearly had done research because he knew we had 2 boys and he knew where to find her cubicle, so he'd checked it out before he approached her.\n\nAnd that's my story. I guess it goes to show money can't buy everything and sometimes even billionaires could use a little kindness, and appreciate it.\nUpvotes: 428\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: That's a great little story! You've made that old man's year, something he'll think back to regularly. Kudos to you...\n Upvotes: 49\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I have many great stories about Mr. Halle as well. I was with them for 25 years until recently and probably know your wife. There’s a lot of negativity towards billionaires but he was cut from a different cloth.\n Upvotes: 31\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: TY for posting this🥰 I’m logging off reddit for the night on this happy note!\n Upvotes: 24\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 28:\nText: Think that a banana costs $10.\nUpvotes: 410\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: There’s always money in the banana stand.\n Upvotes: 161\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Underrated show and everyone should watch it\n Upvotes: 27\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I have an aunt who is a multimillionaire. When my grandma died, she dispersed money to the family members to cover the costs of making it to the funeral and hotels and all that. For plane tickets and hotel rooms for 2 nights for my dad, my brother and I, she asked “Is $20k enough?”\nIt reminded me of that line.\n Upvotes: 7\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 29:\nText: My soon-to-be mother in-law asked me and my fiance, her son, if we knew that some people don’t have reliable transportation to get to college, which causes them to miss class and/or show up late. Apparently, her most recent appointment as the chair of a teacher education program at a university has been very eye opening for her.\nUpvotes: 390\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Oh lord. This is not going to end well.\n Upvotes: 50\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Obviously there are many real challenges with limited solutions that cause this. But, I wanted to share one slightly funny example that is not like the cases...\n\nSomeone in my family is a professor and they had these three students who were continually 20-30 mins late for class. After several classes, they enquired about the issue.\n\nApparently, the students thought it would be a good idea to get an apartment near the beach and then take an uber to class every day. They didn't realize that when they googled the commute time on the weekend that they were apartment hunting that it would be a much longer and unpredictable commute during rush hour traffic.\n Upvotes: 24\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 30:\nText: Years ago I helped coordinate an event in the Cayman Islands for my job for the companies main clients. I worked closely with a small business that sets up events. Not only did they make my work infinitely easier, but they offered us discounts on several events. Really good people that would work around the clock to make sure everything was getting set up properly. \n\nOn the island, right before we were going to one of the events, my boss's wife tells my boss (and me indirectly, always got the feeling she did not like talking to me) that we need to get a discount on the upcoming event. She was not involved in the setting up process and didn't even know any details or the costs involved. She just wanted the discount. It was a private catamaran tour which ended with swimming with the stingrays for a few hours and it was for about 20 people. \n\n I had to call the company and ask them for the discount while apologizing profusely. The boss's wife wanted to knock $4,000 off the total. After a lot of conversation and back and fourth I got the discount. I was disgusted with the look on her face after I told her we got the discount. For the rest of the trip I stayed away from her, as I knew that she would continuously ask for me to fight for discounts, just because. \n\nWhen she passed, I looked her up and found out that not only was she rich, she was Texas oil baroness rich. Money edging towards the billions. $4,000.00 is nothing to that family, like finding pennies in your couch cushions. My boss and his wife had kids who felt neglected and the oldest would, without fail, destroy something expensive. I was in the room when a secretary told the wife that her son had destroyed another antique roadster (the boss collected them). She barely shrugged her shoulders. \n\nI think she just wanted the discount because she was such an empty person, maybe the power trip makes them feel something.\nUpvotes: 371\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: My mom always responds to stories like this with “how do you think the rich stay rich?”\n Upvotes: 89\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: > maybe the power trip makes them feel something.\n\nyeah that is definitely a thing, especially among the inherited non-working rich\n Upvotes: 8\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: So sad for you having to experience someone like that. Probably why some stay so rich, by being so tight with their money #entitled\n Upvotes: 2\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\n", + "\nTitle: What is a \"rich person thing\" you would be totally into if you became rich\n\nComment 1:\nText: Going on multiple vacations a year\nUpvotes: 24152\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Summering\n Upvotes: 8313\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Traveling in general - are they vacations if it's a lifestyle?\n Upvotes: 418\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: You can do that if you live in Europe without being rich\n Upvotes: 151\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 2:\nText: Secret passages in my home.\nUpvotes: 19354\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: And a fireman pole.\n Upvotes: 2655\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I saw a video recently of a house with a big hidden door that opens up on one wall of their living room and their huge Christmas tree slides in there when it’s time to put it away for the year. No undecorating, no boxing it up. Literally 30 seconds and it’s gone until next year. Your comment reminded me of that.\n Upvotes: 1470\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: My friend used to own a house with an unfinished basement. He turned the basement into an entertainment room.\n\nIn this entertainment room we're two bookshelves, one of them acted as a hidden door.\n\nHe kept his safe and other valuables hidden in this secret room. I thought it was pretty cool.\n Upvotes: 646\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 3:\nText: Retiring early.\nUpvotes: 15458\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: My friend's ex-wife inherited several million dollars when her father died (which was after they divorced) and retired in her mid 40s. She was running her own (small) business at the time and sold the business, but she also owned the building the business was based in and leased it to the new owners of the business. So she now has that income on top of her millions of dollars. My friend doesn't know the exact amount she inherited, but says he'd be surprised if it wasn't at least 5 to 7 million.\n\nMy friend said she remodelled her entire house after getting the inheritance as well and paid off the remaining mortgage. That sounds like a pretty sweet situation to be in.\n Upvotes: 2092\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I did this. Retired at 40.\n Upvotes: 1934\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Exactly. I like my job, but if I didn’t need the money, there lots of things I would enjoy more and would do more of if I didn’t have such a large amount of my waking hours consumed by work.\n\nI know there are folks saying “I wouldn’t retire early even if I could.” From conversations with people with that perspective, they seem to mostly fall into a few categories: define themselves by their job; define themselves by the amount of money they make; lack interests outside work (often in conjunction with one or both of the first two); lack imagination or awareness of things they could do besides work for money; genuinely love what they do purely for the work itself (pretty rare). There are no doubt some who just don’t really care for their home and/family and would rather spend their time at a job than spend more time at home. And there may be many other reasons, but my experience says most fall into the first four groups (or combinations thereof).\n Upvotes: 266\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 4:\nText: Hiring a personal chef\nUpvotes: 13296\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Oh that's a good one! \nI was gonna say buying food, but why stop there when you can also have someone cook the food!\n Upvotes: 1920\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: If I were legitimately suddenly rich, my sister has a culinary degree. She learned that she hated working in a restaurant kitchen but I know she loves cooking and she's a good cook. I would probably pay her to cook for us 5 times a week or something. Give her a good job without crazy hours doing what she enjoys without the constant stress and pressure of a restaurant.\n Upvotes: 1136\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Bingo, hire someone to handle the shopping and cooking/meal planning. Along with a housekeeper who comes and tidies up every day, it'd be freakin awesome.\n Upvotes: 516\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 5:\nText: Paying people to do all of the \"chores\" of being a grown up: scheduling appointments, paying my bills, cleaning my home, cooking my food, running errands, buying clothes, maintaining my home, etc.\nUpvotes: 11380\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Yes. Someone please just take the mental load.\n Upvotes: 2708\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Personal assistant. Ooooo❤️❤️❤️❤️\n Upvotes: 655\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: My husband just retired last year. He’s 15 years older than me. I still work FT in critical care, so I’m tired all.the.time. Anyway, since he’s been home he’s like, “wow, there’s a lot to deal with in running our lives.” 🤦‍♀️ \n\nI’m trying not to be resentful. He’s one of the good guys, but sometimes out to lunch.\n Upvotes: 44\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 6:\nText: The giant kitchens with an island in the center and high-end appliances.\n\nIt's not like I like cooking. I just love giant kitchens.\n\n​\n\nEdit to add: I'm having so much fun conversing in the replies, you guys made my day! Let's all gather in my big fancy kitchen when I get it and have an all-out *feast*\nUpvotes: 11338\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Same. A new Viking stove and all top of the line appliances.\n Upvotes: 1189\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: The real rich usually have 2 kitchen, one to show to the guests, one used by thestaff\n Upvotes: 193\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Same but I do love cooking!\n Upvotes: 75\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 7:\nText: Spa days!\nUpvotes: 6791\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I've done this once! Didn't think of myself as a spa guy... I definitely am. Saving money to do it again this year.\n Upvotes: 1168\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Why is everyone too lazy to say the whole term? It's \"spaghetti day\"\n Upvotes: 372\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Spa…? Spaghetti? Are you talking about spaghetti days?\n Upvotes: 248\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 8:\nText: Hire a stylist. I still dress like a hungover college student as a functioning adult.\nUpvotes: 6175\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I would be cool with just being able to shop at boutique clothing shops instead of target\n Upvotes: 856\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: This is me. I would kill to have someone help me figure out what to wear. And it wouldn't hurt to have someone do my hair, nails, feed me a proper diet, and help me stay in shape. \n\nA team of people to help me look like I got my shit together. All of that please.\n Upvotes: 435\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Feel that. Although I kinda think we don't really need a stylist, considering that most fashion influencers I see are just some sort of joggingpants and oversized coats + an unholy expensive designer bags. Maybe we just need a verrrrry expensive bag.\n\nEdit, because autocorrect mixed languages.\n Upvotes: 189\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 9:\nText: Not worrying about money. That seems so nice\nUpvotes: 5899\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Right? I don't need chefs and msids- I just wanna go to the grocery and buy whatever I need for the week AND make my car payment! Lol\n Upvotes: 976\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: You don't have to get to \"rich\" for a taste of that. I found that I didn't really change how I lived from when I made $50k to when I made $100k+ and once I hit $100k, I wasn't really fretting about money anymore. \n\nWe can go on a couple of vacations a year without worrying about saving for it. We can go out to eat/drink about as often as we would like. We can do fun things when we want that cost money. And none of it is a worry. \n\nSure, I absolutely know we could be living much better with more money, but I'm not worried about money.\n Upvotes: 81\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: It is nice, I grew up poor, was poor all thru college, often having to scrape together change for some ramen or mac n cheese at the store. Now I just buy what I want and don't worry what it costs...actually not quite true, if its fresh fruit or something (like I want strawberries and its Feb) I don't give a fuck i'll just more. But if its choosing between store brand which is 1/2 the price of the name brand and its the same shit? I buy the store brand every time, why spend money you don't have to?\n Upvotes: 20\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 10:\nText: [deleted]\nUpvotes: 4872\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: > packing PBJ sandwiches in my pockets, etc.\n\nGet one of those backpacks with the built-in spine protector. Perhaps not inkeeping with the poor person style of skiiing, but it's all the storage you need to avoid expensive on-slope food, plus a bit of extra safety.\n Upvotes: 874\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Ever skied a private club? It’s a next level experience. Got to go to one for an alumni event through my university and it was amazing but the initiation fee is $60k\n Upvotes: 306\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: The poor way is the way - you’re rich already my friend\n Upvotes: 130\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 11:\nText: Getting massages and self care days.\nUpvotes: 2604\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: No question here. I have chronic back pain in my 30s. I’d get at least two a day in between PT with a trainer.\n Upvotes: 258\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: My husband and I have very little disposable income, but we still set aside some money for massages once a month or so. I'm a student (meaning I sit like an idiotic shrimp in front of the computer or my books all day) and my husband is a chef so we deemed it necessary to spend money on even though it's so expensive. Totally worth it!\n Upvotes: 10\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Massages are where it's at, for relaxation and physical pain relief. I got to go a bunch a few years ago and I'd kill to have massages be part of my weekly routine.\n Upvotes: 8\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 12:\nText: Hiding appliances. Fridge in the walls is peak rich ppl shit\nUpvotes: 2407\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Fridges, dishwashers etc. with cabinet fronts are standard in Europe and anything but fancy. Even a cheap rental would have a built in oven and fridge inside a cabinet.\n\n\nIt's just that north america seems to be obsessed with stainless steel appliances and considers it a feature to be put on display. The attitude in Europe is the exact opposite, no one wants to see their appliances\n Upvotes: 830\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: See my dumb ass would get super high in my ridiculously lush smoke sess room and forget what wall is my fridge. Lol\n Upvotes: 23\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Nah, peak Rich is: **You don’t know where the fridge is, and you don’t care; you just know who goes and gets stuff from it.**\n Upvotes: 5\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 13:\nText: Tailored bespoke clothing.\nUpvotes: 2383\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: You're halfway there using \"bespoke\" in a sentence. Stay classy.\n Upvotes: 1016\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Bespoke is tough, but tailored can totally be done. It's not uncommon for me to buy second-hand/upcycled and then take it to my Tailor for adjustment, and I still pay less than off-the-rack.\n Upvotes: 137\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I own a business that does pretty well and I periodically do nice stuff for myself. I recently met with a tailor who made me a suit, a sport coat with matching trousers, and four dress shirts, most of which was done in his shop by hand. Absolutely a game-changer for me, I feel so confident and comfortable in these clothes. No labels either, just subtle, personalized touches like my initials embroidered on the cuffs and colorful silk linings in the jackets. 10/10, highly recommend if you’ve got the funds available.\n Upvotes: 10\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 14:\nText: Generosity. I'd love to be the person who could afford to give every server, every delivery person, a huge life-changing tip. I'd love to be able to donate to charities and homeless shelters and women's shelters. The only thing I'd like more is if they didn't need such generosity in the first place.\nUpvotes: 2341\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This… I always said if I hit one of those mega lottery, the first thing I would do is give each co-worker money. We are a small company and we all talk about our struggles and I would love to ease the burden of them all. We aren’t all friends but we all do get along. \n\nPay off mortgages, pay for someone’s child’s tuition, just give them straight up cash, whatever it is that would help.\n Upvotes: 333\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Imagine being so rich, that instead of doing drunk Amazon orders you just browse Gofundme for funerals and healthcare or a new bike for someone\n Upvotes: 26\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: This was the first thing I thought of too ;-; after that luxury stuff like going on vacation or being able to spend on myself would also be nice aha but it would be amazing to see the stress melt off my friends and family’s faces after helping someone w mortgages, college loans, medical bills etc \n Upvotes: 9\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 15:\nText: maid at home.\nUpvotes: 1854\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: [deleted]\n Upvotes: 1090\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Cleaning services are surprisingly cheaper than most people think. I thought my wife was batshit when she suggested it, but we have someone come once every couple weeks for like 120/visit. It's not pocket change but it's not insane like I thought it'd be. And for us, keeping the house tidy is something we're both bad at and is a constant source of tension, so the tradeoff between dollars and QoL is worth it. Ymmv of course.\n Upvotes: 220\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: It’s crazy that in India Even a Middle Class Will have a Maid , Cook and a Driver .\n Upvotes: 21\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 16:\nText: Preventative healthcare. \nUpvotes: 1739\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Dental work. I can finally get all those caps I need and can't afford.\n Upvotes: 530\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Tell me you're American without telling me you're American...\n Upvotes: 40\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: There’s people that have private on call doctors for $100,000 a year. The doctors have hospital privileges and only need a few clients to be super rich.\n Upvotes: 20\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 17:\nText: Go to different countries, then stay and eat at luxury restaurants and hotel\nUpvotes: 1644\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I'd do that but also hire someone to take me around to thr best street food and local spots. My partner is Dominican. We always have a guy who drives us around. We eat the best food because he knows where it's at.\n Upvotes: 170\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Get there by private yacht. Fly inland on a helicopter. Luxury hotel optional.\n Upvotes: 4\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: This is it!!\n Upvotes: 3\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 18:\nText: I was dating a guy, in college, who came from a pretty privileged background.\n\nWe were having lunch and, when he took a sip of his OJ, he immediately spit it back out into the bottle, pulled my bottle from my hand and said “don’t drink it, it’s gone bad!”\n\nIt hadn’t gone bad, he had only ever had fresh squeezed OJ before, so Tropicana tasted like rot to him.\n\nI could definitely get used to that.\nUpvotes: 1279\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: 😂 It was sweet of him to try and “save” you from the Tropicana too.\n Upvotes: 804\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Tropicana does kind of taste like rot compared to fresh squeezed juice tbh. Doesn't have to be expensive either if you live somewhere oranges thrive and just squeeze them yourself.\n Upvotes: 230\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Wow. I can’t even imagine the kind of upbringing this guy must have enjoyed.\n Upvotes: 10\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 19:\nText: All bills set to auto pay\nUpvotes: 1262\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I made a bill “escrow” checking account, it has been a game changer. I sat down and made a list of all my recurring bills and worked out how much I spent on each over a year, summed it all up, and then worked out how much per paycheck would get me that amount. I padded it out a tiny bit, and seeded the account with a bit more so it can get started. I asked my boss to direct deposit that amount into the account, and the rest into checking.\n\nNow all my recurring bills get paid out of this account on auto pay and I hardly ever think about it. Every year or two I redo the math and adjust what I pay into the account, but otherwise not much is needed. It is a huge stress relief. My checking account now shows me exactly what I have left to spend till the next paycheck. And I never have to worry about making rent. I’m surprised this is not more common\n Upvotes: 720\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: You don't have to be rich to do this. You need to have a budget and live on self control.\n Upvotes: 235\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: How do your bills work? Mine have been direct debit since I was a teenager, I don’t think I’ve ever manually paid anything.\n Upvotes: 56\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 20:\nText: Swimming in my money bin and never letting my nephews swim in it but I would allow them to have free reign with my pilot and plane.\nUpvotes: 1245\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Hahaha the duck tails fantasy!\n Upvotes: 134\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Fun fact… i once had the chance to plunge my hand into a massive jar of coins (mostly pennies) and let it “swim” like Scrooge McDuck. The reality of my fingers _SMASHING_ into what felt like a solid block of concrete made me lost a real part of my childhood innocence. \n\nAlso, i once heard someone say that only Scrooge is able to swim in the money like it’s water because only he “deserves it” so it works differently for him. It’s a giant metaphor that the rules are different for the wealthy. 🤯\n Upvotes: 86\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: You Scrooge.\n Upvotes: 26\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 21:\nText: Understated expensive. No tacky brand labels, no loud or ugly branding. Just beautifully tailored pieces.\nUpvotes: 1178\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: With a knowledgeable dresser/tailor to help pick pieces that fit and compliment my figure.\n Upvotes: 256\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I like the whole idea of \"stealth wealth\". Having high quality stuff that isn't gaudy or flashy. Like \"if you know, you know\"\n\n\nThere are high end gshock watches made of titanium that cost several thousand dollars,  but if you didn't know watches you would never look twice \n Upvotes: 22\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Yeah I live in London and in the proper Uber wealthy areas like Holland Park, Knightsbridge, and Belgravia they obviously look super rich but there is no brand name stuff. It’s like how they dress in Succession.\n\nMy grandparents are rich (like no more than 5 million), and also I know some other rich people with the same amount of money. A lot of the clothes they wear aren’t particularly expensive. Just good quality stuff without flashy branding for the London types, and my grandparents live in the country and have horses etc so just wear normal clothes. \n(I’m very poor and not hugely close to my grandparents so I doubt I’ll be inheriting all their money). Most rich people just look well put together. The expensive stuff they do wear you wouldn’t necessarily know except it’s well fitted and is made of better quality material. They don’t buy into trends and tend to buy things to last. \n\n\nI myself am poor sadly but when I buy clothes I try to buy things that are more classic, or at least not hugely trendy. I still inject some personality so it’s not all beiges but I focus on - does it fit well, will I still love this in a year’s time rather than is it just for this season, and how can I style it to go with what I already have? \n\nIf I was suddenly rich I’d carry on doing the same but it’d be actually super good quality. I’m sure I’d buy some cool interesting pieces but not all the time. Maybe once a season. You could focus on buying from small local designers you knew didn’t use sweat shops.\n Upvotes: 12\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 22:\nText: Patron of the arts!\nUpvotes: 991\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Same. I love seeing theater and symphony performances, but I'd absolutely get better seats, donate to organizations, and sponsor tickets for people who can't afford to go. \n Upvotes: 88\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Those artists would eat well if I was blessed with money.\n Upvotes: 22\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I would love to be one of the $10k a year donors to the San Diego zoo\n Upvotes: 17\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 23:\nText: I’d get all personally made bras. Perfect comfortable no slip or movement, just for me, 100% every bras made for my body.\nUpvotes: 787\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: That sounds amazing. I HATE bras\n Upvotes: 99\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Whoa. That’s like my dream. Maybe sewn on to all the tops, so you don’t have to take off two things separately.\n Upvotes: 85\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: 100% this. The closest I’ve gotten to this was getting properly measured at a mall and realizing I actually have massive cups but a small under-boob circumference. Suddenly the bras I started buy became properly supportive. Changed my life. If you’re in the uk/Europe Belle Lingerie has loads of sizes…\n Upvotes: 29\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 24:\nText: A personal trainer\nUpvotes: 756\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Might not help your motivation but I am a 400lb man who bought 20 lb dumbbells today off Amazon delivered to my home and I'm going to just try YouTube trainers for dumbbells until I find one I enjoy and just know that I might not like many of them but will eventually find one I enjoy the content of.\n\nIdk, you do you but they are out there for that purpose, ultimately.\n Upvotes: 37\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Literally this, maybe doubles as a dietician? \n\nSomeone to help though...\n Upvotes: 19\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: PT shouldn't be too expensive, and you don't really need them for a long time, just a month or two, twice a week, to show you how things are done. I've had one like that because otherwise I wouldn't even know where to begin with, and they'll often have diet advice :D\n Upvotes: 5\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 25:\nText: Travel.\n\nETA: I got kids y’all. Stop recommending cheap travel when we all know kids in a car, hostel, motel, anywhere public is not cheap. Even if you’re an adult living in a van down by the river, it gets expensive fast not being able to store things for future use.\nUpvotes: 612\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: [deleted]\n Upvotes: 45\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: We do one international trip one year, then a domestic one the next. Hiring a petsitter is surprisingly expensive.\n Upvotes: 9\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Probably not what you were thinking when you said travel, but hitting the road with all your kids and some camping gear and visiting national parks or something is one of the cheapest and funnest ways to travel within the US. Would be difficult with very young children though. Although tbh hotels could possibly be cheaper if you cram everyone into a single room and pack sleeping bags. \n Upvotes: 7\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 26:\nText: Owning dozens of classic/old cars\nUpvotes: 611\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Triples makes it safe.\n Upvotes: 164\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Unlimited budget would get me an airplane hanger sized shop with separate mechanical, electrical, welding/fab/engine rebuilding, & machining areas, all with separate matching snap on toolboxes with specific specialty & diag tooling for which area in the shop it's in. Then I could still not have enough time to build my current project cars but it would look fucking sick while 4 vehicles sit on jackstands lol\n Upvotes: 15\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Facts I need a 1970 challenger in plum crazy\n Upvotes: 6\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 27:\nText: Owning a very very VERY large plot of land\nUpvotes: 568\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Huuuuge tracts of land\n Upvotes: 114\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I once did some work for a very wealthy person who was building a new house on a large plot of land. They couldn't effectively pull enough water from public services to irrigate their land, so they created three large ponds that they could draw from and act as a buffer. Well, they decided that they'd like to be able to swim in these ponds too, so they installed ozone aeration systems and filters, then had them all landscaped with spots to jump in and climb out, but integrated in so they looked well cared for but not unnatural.\n Upvotes: 106\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Or, as I like to call it in my own personal real estate pipe dream, \"Fuck Off Estates\".\n Upvotes: 12\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 28:\nText: A secret room. I’d love a bookcase leading to a bourbon room that had a pool table, a dart board, big screen tvs, leather furniture & musical instruments, \nUpvotes: 506\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: One of the best parts of this would be sneaking in there and playing music when someone was in the adjacent room who didn't know about the secret room, and they'd wonder where the music was coming from.\n Upvotes: 14\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I want a small library, where one of the shelves opens to a path that leads to the actual library. \n Upvotes: 7\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I've always wanted a house with \"fever dream\" style architecture. Mismatched weird styles, non-sensical features. Hidden doors and passageways. Odd angles, colours and textures.\n\n\nI recently met a dude who is renovating his place into one by slowly adding lots of weird features to an already odd layout. They have little tv nooks, lofts, a fire pole, indoor verandahs, lots of weird comic book styling. It's wild\n Upvotes: 7\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 29:\nText: owning a house\nUpvotes: 453\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Damn, this hit every Millennial and Zoomer in the gut. \n\nEspecially when you're Gen Z and you lived in a suburban home, but grew up when everything was getting expensive and had the lingering sense of doom that adult you might not be able to afford the same sort of suburban home you grew up in.\n Upvotes: 83\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Owning a house \\*outright\\* even. Not having to even make mortgage payments would be incredible. \n\nNow if we could just get rid of personal property tax for people who only own one property.\n Upvotes: 12\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: not even a house tbh all i want is to own a small condo unit :( and even that is completely out of reach\n Upvotes: 6\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 30:\nText: A chauffeur. I HATE to drive.\nUpvotes: 440\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Ridiculously rich people stuff: lobby for nice public transit. \n Upvotes: 63\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I'd be making midnight snack runs to Wawa in a chauffeured Rolls Royce and still come out ahead with all the money I'd save on uber eats fees!\n Upvotes: 14\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Can I be your chauffeur? I LOVE to drive. And also believe I am pretty good at it\n Upvotes: 9\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\n", + "Comment 1:\nText: That rich people can afford to do things that save them money. Better health insurance and car insurance with lower deductibles. Higher quality food that keeps them healthy. Gym membership preventing future health incidences. Prompt car maintenance to avoid big repair costs down the line. Higher ed for better paying job….. the list goes on and on.\nUpvotes: 12506\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: “Being poor is expensive.”\n Upvotes: 4881\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: It’s like the story of the boots. Poor man buys a pair of boots for $10 because that’s all he can afford; rich man buys a pair of boots for $75 that are better made. Poor man’s boots wear out after three years, causing him to need to buy another $10 pair - that’s all he can afford. The rich man’s boots last him for 25 yrs. Poor man ends up spending more money than the rich man in the long run, because he cannot afford the nicer pair of boots that will last longer.\n Upvotes: 2019\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Prompt and preventative car maintenance is a HUGE thing it seems like nobody talks about. Losing access to a vehicle can be life-ruining for so many poor people.\n Upvotes: 499\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 2:\nText: The freedom it provides.\n\nFreedom to not spend hours mowing their lawn, laundry, cleaning their own car, grocery shopping... Freedom to eat healthy, freedom to prioritize exercise, endless list..\n\nThose of us that don't enjoy this freedom sacrifice our few hours on earth performing these mundane tasks.\nUpvotes: 10943\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Time is the ultimate luxury.\n Upvotes: 3624\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Also the more money you make the more freedom you have at work.  \n\nYou can roll in whenever you want.  Take off early.  Extra long lunches.  \n\nAs long as your work is getting done you won’t have any consequences.   Even if your work stops getting done you’ll have weeks before anyone cares. \n\nWhere as the employee making $18 an hour will get written up for being 10 minutes late.  \n Upvotes: 1053\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Finding pleasure in the mundane is the way though. Mowing the lawn is literally zen for me.\n Upvotes: 487\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 3:\nText: I'm not rich by any stretch of the imagination, and it might not be a shock to others. But going on vacation. When I was a kid we just stayed home every summer. Never went anywhere, stayed generally within the same 200km radius of where I live. We didn't have a lot of money.\n\nNow I go on vacation twice a year and I've been all over the world. 17 year old me would be in awe.\nUpvotes: 5897\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: definitely this. traveling for the first time was a surreal experience.\n Upvotes: 756\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I remember being in secondary school and in 5th year all students would go on an international schooltrip. My parents worked so hard to be able to pay for me, because this was a 'once in a lifetime opportunity'. I went to London for a week (from The Netherlands). \n\nNow in my late 40s, not rich but comfortable, and I've been throughout all of Europe.\n Upvotes: 640\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: This hurts so much to read rn. I'm a single mom, my daughters are 6 and 9 and we've never been on vacation. It was less noticeable in kindergarten, but now I notice the shame and sadness when my oldest answers with a shrug when we are asked where we are going this summer. We never go anywhere. \n\nGod, pray for me that better times will come soon.\n Upvotes: 361\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 4:\nText: Read “Limbo” by Alfred Lombrano. Its a sociological look about “Straddlers”- people who grew up poor/blue collar and make it to the upper middle class/upper class. I am one of them. It talks about the strengths and weaknesses these people have. If you own a business or organization- you want these people working for you because they're always “hungry” for more and seeking out new ideas and opportunity but concerned about taking on too much risk. It also talks about how these folks have a lot of issues. Being a straddler you might find it both difficult to go back to your blue collar roots- finding it hard to relate to family and childhood friends because education, money, and experience have evolved your world view. While at the same time you’ll never fully fit in to the new upper class world you’ve worked your way into. Minor things like you didn’t grow up golfing so you can’t get in with the richer folks socially as easy, to bigger things like code switching accents or vocabulary, to suffering from constant imposter syndrome.\nUpvotes: 3716\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Thank you for this - I'd never heard of it but this described my path from rural SC poor kid into very comfortable tech exec in a way that helps me understand why I still can't figure out how to dress as elegantly as the other women in my strata. I will be reading this asap.\n Upvotes: 860\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Ok, scratched my way to middle class, slightly upper. I can’t get to the next stage in my career, and I think it’s because of that. I was interviewing for a CEO position (of a non profit, mind you), didn’t get it, was told post mortem that I had too much focus on the employees. That was the first I had heard that, and sorta glad I didn’t get that one. I would have probably been let go as I likely would tangle with the board. The board was filled with high level business owners and senior leadership. \n\nI can’t get past the empathy I have for people in the front line jobs, as I was one of those folks for some time. I was one of working poor, but only had to worry of myself at the time. I can’t imagine trying to provide beyond that at those wages. I was a VP of a division within a larger agency for 12 years, and longer in the same role lacking the fancy title.\n\nI gave up and opened a consulting firm. I have been offered countless jobs since, however none at the top level. I am doing fine, but in my heart I know I could create an environment that supports the agency, the staff, and those we serve.\n\nSuch is life.\n Upvotes: 420\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Reminiscent of Ruby Payne's Framework for Understanding Poverty...in order to \"jump\" classes, you not only need the income, but also social \"guides\" to show you the ropes.\n Upvotes: 323\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 5:\nText: More like lower-middle class to upper-middle class, but it blew my mind when I realized many people I know now frequently pay to have their house cleaned, and grew up thinking that the cleaners being over was just a routine part of life. I was probably in my late 20s the first time I ever paid someone to clean. \n\n\nSame with things like moving, painting, house maintenance, stuff like that. I'm at a place where it makes more sense to save my time and pay for many of those things, but anytime I talk to my mom and mention it she assumes it's something I'm doing myself, because it never would have occurred to her to spend money on that and for most of her life she couldn't afford it.\n\n\nIt's a pretty interesting divide just between the strata within middle class. \nUpvotes: 3435\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Also, when your house is made of nicer fixtures it cleans and stays clean easier. You can’t clean something enough if the material is just old and low quality so it has worn out :(\n Upvotes: 1236\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: \"afford\" is such a weird term when you make more than your parents did. \n\nYou could literally spend the money and not starve, but it takes a while for your mindset to open to things that seemed frivolous/extravagant back home.\n Upvotes: 248\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: being able to afford movers... game changer\n Upvotes: 159\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 6:\nText: You know someone is really rich when they start emphasizing their humble roots. On their way up, they often try to hide it.\nUpvotes: 2805\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I'm reminded of Victoria \"Posh Spice\" Beckham trying to claim on camera that she came from humble beginnings, only to have her husband David barge in and force her to admit that she was driven to school in a Rolls Royce. \n\n'Humble' indeed.\n Upvotes: 1155\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: The British comedian David Mitchell spends the entire first chapter of his memoir explaining how he's not privileged because his parents were not wealthy the first ten years of their marriage. \n Upvotes: 611\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Truer words were never spoken.\n\nI grew up in the fields of Uttar Pradesh and the slums of Mumbai.\n\nI spent my whole life trying to somehow prevent people from finding that about me. It would have been mortifying.\n\nNow I make big bucks, comparatively, in finance in London. I am surrounded by people with Ph.D.'s, people who went to Oxford or Cambridge or Harvard or Stanford.\n\nI now proudly proclaim my roots from the rooftops.\n\nI will even show them my house in the village or the slum tenement I grew up in on Google maps\n Upvotes: 273\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 7:\nText: Money makes money.\n\nWe're buying some land that has a waterfall. We could build our dream house, airbnb it, and it could potentially pay for the house within 10 years.\n\nThe money to buy the land came from \"diversifying\" our assets, our financial portfolio.\n\nWe would take on some risk to build this house, getting another mortgage. But theoretically, if everything works, we wouldn't have spent anything but would get a free dream house, and more. For what? For almost nothing.\n\nIf we fucked up and lost our investment, burned the entire property down or what not, it'd still be fine. It wouldn't be life-ending. It'd be unfortunate but survivable.\n\nWhen I was growing up, my mom would make ramen for a special family meal, and she would use 3 ramen packets for our family of 4. She would add rice to the ramen broth after when we were still hungry.\n\nOnce we used something, it would disappear. So we were frugal.\n\nA financial disaster meant starving, losing your home, etc. I spent my $10 for the week wrong? I can't afford lunch anymore and gotta starve for a week.\n\nI could have never imagined that once you get enough money, it just makes more money.\n\nEinstein said that compound interest is the world's eighth wonder.\n\n\"He who understands it, earns it. He who doesn't, pays it.\" \n\nYou know when you're playing the Sims and in the beginning, you have to be careful about every dollar you spend? But after a certain point, when you're rich enough, it doesn't matter anymore, it's just numbers? That's what it's like for the most part. \n\nAnd you know how the game gets boring after you've bought everything in the game? \n\nThe trick to getting rich life is that there will always be more expensive things that you can aspire to. Like I felt pretty good until I watched Owning Manhattan and was like hmm that Bad Bunny penthouse sure looks nice. \n\nBut the key is to appreciate the things that money can't buy. Literally life, health, people, relationships, our planet, etc. \n\nGratitude is a muscle, use it or lose it.\nUpvotes: 1522\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I need an IRL “rosebud” cheat code\n Upvotes: 128\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Great insight. Thank you.\n Upvotes: 107\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: On buying the land: this. My family was pretty well off when I was a kid, but my grandfather literally, I mean LITERALLY, grew up in a shack with a dirt floor, no running water, and my great grandmother decided to marry my great grandfather because they had a pump and she no longer had to walk a quarter mile to the creek to get water. \n\nThat was THREE generations ago. THREE. My grandfather went into the Navy, used the GI bill for college, joined a steel mill and eventually became president of one of the largest in the country. He taught my dad and his siblings how to save, how to invest, and my grandparents were pretty damn frugal in the early days. My dad and his siblings never wanted for everything and they did some awesome things (ski trips, boat ownership, trips to the cape) but it wasn't until my grandfather retired around 55 that they became really well off.\n\nGenerational wealth is extremely helpful. When my grandfather died I took my inheritance and invested it. \n\nMy wife and I own a home, are looking at adding a deck and hiring a landscaper to make our backyard look amazing so we'll spend more time in it, and are considering buying a gorgeous Victorian in either NE or California. \n\nWe're NOT what would be considered ultra high net worth, probably not even high net worth. But because my family took the time to show me how to invest, we are far better off than we'd be if I didn't know. Investing should be a high priority for anyone who can save a little.\n Upvotes: 83\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 8:\nText: While not rich rich .\n\n\nI still see everything as min wage value.\nA can of coke ? Shit thats like 1/5th of an hour no way I'm buying that.\n\n\nEating out ? No way in paying 4 hours to eat.\n\n\nIgnoring the fact I earn way more than few times over min wage..can't get myself to spend stuff.\n\n\nFunny is that people who never came from poverty don't seem to value  money as much. \n\n\nI had a guy going out to lunch at work .\nHe grown up in a home with a private swimming pool.\n\n\nH  ordered a meal at lunch in a resturaunt..took one bite and said..nah I'm not hungry.. and paid the bill and we left..\n\n\nBlew my mind.\nUpvotes: 1208\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: When I was in college I worked at UPS unloading the semi trailers in the mornings. It took one hour to unload a full semi with packages stacked tight in every square inch. I was being paid $8 an hour at the time. \n\nFor the longest time, every purchase I made was in Semi Trailer trucks. Like if I saw a shirt for $24, I would ask, \"is this shirt worth emptying 3 entire fucking semis?\" Definitely made me frugal.\n Upvotes: 505\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I considered myself successful when I had enough money to go to Taco Bell and order anything on the menu without considering the price.\n Upvotes: 192\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: why do you see things in relation to minimum wage when your time is worth way more than minimum wage?\n Upvotes: 13\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 9:\nText: The richer you are, the more free stuff you get. Your account balances are so big that maintenance and overdraft fees are waived, and you occasionally get large bonuses simply for transferring some of your money from one account to another. Companies that are eager to do business with you provide you with free samples or even trips to their exotic locales.\nUpvotes: 1065\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Fuckin Bezos came to my chorus’ concert one year. We sold holiday socks with our logo to fundraise at the Christmas concerts. They ran out and gave him like five pair for free and I was like wtf he’s literally the richest person on the planet. And I who make $15/hr had to pay for my pair???\n Upvotes: 429\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Yes! I grew up poor and made good, and it’s so much cheaper not to be poor. First investing in things that last is cheaper than replacing yearly, but also now my employer pays for my phone and accountant and gym, my credit card company gives me perks for no reason and waives any fees, etc. It’s so much cheaper not to be poor.\n Upvotes: 267\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: And you dont even have to be THAT rich.\n\nBecause I travel for work I have the highest elite status with Marriott. That in turn gets me the second lowest United status. Even that little bump in status gets me no charge economy plus, no charge checked bag, United Club access free once a year, Club access at a discount, and more. \n\nI just booked a room at one of the more expensive Marriott properties for a mini vacation. I got it at half the normal rate because of a \"thanks for being you\" offer. Thats on top of my 5 free nights and 5 room upgrades. \n\nLast time we were on a mini vacation we had a last minute change in plans. \"Can I get a late checkout?\" \"Absolutely, what time?\" \"4pm?\" \"Dont worry about it, just let us know when you leave.\"\n\nCar rental? National Emerald Club. I walk out and pick my car. $44 a day flat. \n\nThrough my job I came into contact with Million Air flight services. Long story short, I had a long (6 hour) layover coming back from Afghanistan at a relatively barren airport in Indiana. I walked over to the General aviation terminal and went to Million Air and handed them a card I had been given. \"Right this way sir\". Refreshments, sleeping chairs, TV, newspapers, power, internet. \n\nTravel gets a whole lot less sucky with even a slight upgrade.\n Upvotes: 154\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 10:\nText: They almost have a very different understanding of how the world works (and often more accurate) comparing to ordinary people.\nIt's like the world is a game. And they simply have a far better understanding of the rules and hacks.\nUpvotes: 1027\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This is going to get so downvoted but it’s a refreshing take\n Upvotes: 135\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Here’s the dark second part of this: they know, and they don’t care that the game is rigged in their favor. The ultimate divide and the reason why meaningful change won’t happen unless we take a bottom-up approach is that the wealthy of this country, while they may not state this outright, believe they are better than other people. For many of them, they see poor people as almost a different species, and that it basically isn’t worth helping them because poor people are too stupid or selfish to know how to help themselves properly.\n Upvotes: 103\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: That presupposes \"ordinary people\" want to play the game. A lot of people do not want anything to do with that bullshit.\n Upvotes: 67\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 11:\nText: Ok so I got a job as a software engineer, I didn't win the lottery or marry into old money or anything, but: \n\nThe first few years of working in a well paid career, I felt like I was going insane. It's hard to relate to your new co-workers when your hobbies are watching tv shows with friends and writing songs on a guitar your mentor gave you, and their hobbies are international travel, credit card hacking, and investing. \n\nMy former boss once mentioned off-hand that she pays all the travel costs for her family and then her husband pays her his half once a year, and they had traveled a lot that year and he was sort of shocked to find out that his half for that year was FIFTEEN THOUSAND DOLLARS. Which he did have available to pay her. \n\nAt that time I'd been in tech for 6 months and was very proud that I'd scraped together a $2k emergency fund for the first time in my life. \n\nAlso, you get so much stuff for free as soon as you don't need it. My job paid for my monthly bus pass, my health insurance, even my morning coffee. That first job, they had a coffee shop in the lobby with two full time baristas that was totally free. Honestly, some of the best espresso of my life, and even when I had no money I was a coffee nerd. Two of my coworkers bought coffee at the coffee shop down the street every day anyway because they liked that coffee shop a little better. It was infuriating to be given all these perks that would have been life changing the second I was also paid enough to afford them without it being a struggle. \n\nSomething worth noting: if you work in a well paid field like that, watch out for the people transitioning out of poverty. They were massively underpaying me and I technically knew that, but it was still so much more than I had ever made in my life that I couldn't bring myself to believe the actual numbers for entry level tech jobs. If it weren't for the unofficial women in tech group, who did a salary sharing spreadsheet and helped a ton of people advocate for raises and eventually got salary bands implemented, I would never have been brave enough to ask for what I was worth, and since raises are percentages that can impact your pay for the rest of your career. I try to pay it forward now.\nUpvotes: 925\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Also build up your emergency savings. I am not saying you have to ignore retirement investments but there are options that allow you to to tap funds in case of emergency.\n\nIf your well paid job is your only source of income - income interruption can be catastrophic, more so when you have a family.\n Upvotes: 129\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: What’s the women in tech group you joined if you don’t mind sharing? I’m about to get into tech and come from a family of immigrants so I often think I’m leaving money on the table\n Upvotes: 28\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: “You get so much for free as soon as you don’t need it” is SO real.\n Upvotes: 9\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 12:\nText: ITT: people who don’t know what they’re talking about\nUpvotes: 481\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: People hate the idea that someone can be more successful than them without cheating. It doesn’t apply just to money. It applies to fitness, dating, etc. \n Upvotes: 179\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: thats this whole website. bunch of 14 year olds playing grown up.\n Upvotes: 22\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: This thread sounds more like people commenting about what they think rich people are like.\n\nI grew up lower middle class. Married into a very wealthy family. Multiple homes, jet airplanes, things like that. Biggest shock is how absolutely normal they are. You wouldn't know they were wealthy if you met them, and even then, besides the plane, none of their things are actually as luxurious as you would expect. They are quietly philanthropic, planning to donate tens of millions to universities upon the condition their name is never mentioned. Dress normal, act normal, expect for the fact just incredibly successful in business and created a lot of wealth.\n Upvotes: 11\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 13:\nText: Shock is a strong word, but I didn't realize the social safety net rich people have. Growing up poor, we lived absolutely paycheque to paycheque (more accurately we lived borrowing against future paycheques) and it felt like we were never far from homelessness. One job loss, one prolonged serious illness, and we would not have been able to pay the rent and would have been evicted. All of my parents' family and friends were similarly struggling, so if we needed help, they would not have had much to give.\n\nNow, as an adult with more money than my parents could have imagined having, we not only have substantial personal savings, but we also know so many people who could help us if things got bad. If worst came to worst, we have multiple friends with vacation properties that they barely use that we could move into. Not that I think it will ever come to that, but life is dramatically different never having to worry financially about a job loss, illness, unexpected car expense, etc.\nUpvotes: 435\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Everything just seems different when the constant threat of something disappears. I could even go as far as saying I'm bored without the chaos of a debt collector letter or eviction or loan agent (who I thought for stupidly long was a whole ass relative who just visited every week because my family screwed payday loans to all hell for 20 years) popping up every few days...\n Upvotes: 45\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: That’s a good point. I rage quit my job and chose to not jump back into working so that I could get a surgery (tubes tied) I’d been wanting. It was no big deal to just stay unemployed for 3 months. We didn’t eat when that happened as a kid.\n Upvotes: 34\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: This is so true!! I grew up poor. My husband did not. His siblings and relatives are all very well off too. \nHes moderately successful compared to them, and he’s not hurting. I’ve done well as an adult and am happy with my career goals. \n\nAnyways…. \nWe recently had a warning that there was a local wildfire and we may need to evacuate. \nThree of his siblings called and offered a place to stay. The family cabin in the woods? The family condo closer to the city, that hasn’t been used in 6mo? \nOr the guest house in his oldest siblings backyard!! \n\nWe wouldn’t even have to stay with relatives. We’d have our own space to wait out the disaster miles and miles away. \nWe checked our insurance? And yep. Insured up to 100% in case of total loss due to fire. Husbands dad insisted he pay the extra $100 a month for that when we bought our house. \nPoor people can’t always pay that extra $1200 a year, and would have to take what they were insured for. \nI was touched they reached out immediately with solutions to our possible problem. \n\nAnd blown away. I realized had that happened to my parents when I was growing up? We’d have had to go the local gym evacuation point and wait and hope we had a home with something to save. \nMaybe could’ve had a room with a relative and shared one toilet for a few weeks. Nothing like a whole other home to occupy while we decide what to do next. \n\nPretty incredible the security and freedom money can bring to a life.\n Upvotes: 13\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 14:\nText: Rich people eat a different meal for every meal and just like, throw out leftovers. Growing up, my mom would make a giant pot of tomato sauce and we ate it until it was gone. Breakfast lunch and dinner.\nUpvotes: 301\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This makes food waste a lot more insidious.\n Upvotes: 48\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Apparently in the “new money” neighborhood near where I grew up people wouldn’t do their dishes, they’d buy target dorm cutlery and just throw em away after dinner\n Upvotes: 18\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I don't respect anyone that throws away leftover food.\n\nI do admire the folks that have made it to the point there is leftover food though.\n Upvotes: 16\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 15:\nText: I see very few people actually answering OP’s question. Probably because people who grew up in poverty and are rich don’t spend a lot of time posting on Reddit or advertising their wealth online. However, I’ve been around two people in my life that started out as lower middle class (not necessarily in poverty) and ended up rich. They were both very driven, smart, and had an inexhaustible supply of energy that they dedicated to the ongoing growth and success of their businesses. In general, they are “on” or working from the time they get up until they go to bed. Always entertaining clients, potential clients, or doing something else related to the growth of their company. I have no desire to sacrifice myself to a company in that way. I prefer to have more time to spend with my family and friends.\nUpvotes: 266\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This isn't answering OPs question. That, or you've misunderstood it. It looks like you're implying that rich people work insane hours. On the whole this isn't true. At least not when you account for the fact that their personal lives and household chores are done for them by other people. Rich people only work longer hours on paper. But they typically have far more autonomy and flexibility in how they arrange their time, which is a massive boon in and of itself. With cleaners and personal assistants they can work 80 hour work weeks because all their other everyday human tasks are taken care of.\n Upvotes: 31\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Exactly! They might become very rich at 40-50, but they’ve sacrificed their prime years that they will never get back, rather live entire life comfortably, than shit for 20 years and amazing for 40.\n Upvotes: 8\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 16:\nText: Most, not all, are absolute cheapskates.\nUpvotes: 219\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: My mother, who grew up poor but died boomer rich, absolutely panicked when she had to call a plumber, electrician, etc. She'd just cope with things being broken. For example, my parents had a shower that was broken. My mom told me she'd had a plumber out to look at it and it would be too expensive to fix. Once she died and I started working on their house, I had a plumber out. He fixed it in half an afternoon for a couple hundred dollars. My mom just never wrapped her mind around how much money she had. \n Upvotes: 182\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: I have several wealthy friends. Whenever someone in our large group of friends is collecting for a charity, selling raffles, or collecting optional dues (to cover costs) for our social group, this one guy NEVER pays. Ever.\n Upvotes: 24\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Except in cases where their generosity will be publicized!\n Upvotes: 7\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 17:\nText: How boring it is to be wealthy.\n\nAfter a while everything becomes dull. 3 Star Restaurants, elite travel, parties, etc. it’s amazing at first, cause everything you dreamed about as a kid comes close to true. But over time, the parties are the same, travel just means you’re bored but in a new location, and that new plate with morels and asparagus foam isn’t even worth a second glance.\n\nIt’s so easy for your life to lose purpose. There is no work relying on you, no family you need to be the breadwinner for, no house to fix up, no lawn to take care of. You have no goals. You simply exist.\n\nSome turn to golf, some to drugs, some to the arts, some to politics, some to philanthropy. Anything to fill the days and not think about the void.\n\nThis isn’t a complaint, nor should you respond with “the let me have all your money lol”, cause I get it. Of course, it is better to be rich and bored. What a luxury.\n\nBut it was surprising to me.\nUpvotes: 201\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I'm curious about this because it seems like this would be a fairly common feeling, so why aren't there more people volunteering or going back to work? Is it purely because they don't have to? Or have they tried and it just doesn't give them any purpose? I know you only have your experience but are there others that feel the same as you that didn't get lost in drugs or something \"bigger?\"\n Upvotes: 35\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: My wild theory is that those people are living these lifes for real, enjoying life to the max, total freedom and unlimited options in their whole lifes. And the rest of us are just NPC’s that is needed to make it all work… including slavery, starvation, wars, poverty and so on 🤷‍♂️\n\nAnd even if you don’t think we are NPCs, we are being treated as NPCs wether you like it or not 🙃\n Upvotes: 12\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: That's just such an utterly foreign concept to me. I've got enough hobbies now that I could easily stay busy without work - I was off for nearly four months recovering from a shoulder surgery several years ago, and even with the physical restrictions that placed on me, I never got bored. And I've got a mental list of stuff I'd like to get into if I had the money.\n Upvotes: 6\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 18:\nText: [deleted]\nUpvotes: 161\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Lifestyle Creep is the real killer for folks who make good but not unfathomable money (upper middle class typically). You have to have very defined financial goals and be pretty laser-focused on them to avoid it.\n Upvotes: 81\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Very similar situation to you but scaled back just a little. Our household monthly spending is around 7K. Having lived off a 25k annual salary for many years, this number would have given younger me a heart attack. No kids so I imagine if we had those, it would be closer to your number.\n Upvotes: 15\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: A written budget will really help with this. I personally use YNAB but there are many systems and all of the big ones are good.\n Upvotes: 3\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 19:\nText: When we had our first children (twins) we were poor. We went through the process and had two healthy boys.\n\nA few years later I had a stable job with medical insurance when we had our third child.\n\nEverything was nicer. They didn't push us out of the hospital so fast. All the basic care was the same, but I was shocked at how much better we were treated with insurance.\nUpvotes: 155\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: > shocked at how much better we were treated with insurance.\n\nThe sad truth.\n Upvotes: 47\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: why did you have kids when you were poor?\n Upvotes: -5\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 20:\nText: They are not unusually smart. The ones I have interacted with (and dated), could not tell you much about science, philosophy, arts, than your average person. Their intellect is limited to career knowledge.\n\n\n\nMost don't have too many passions in life outside of maintaining their lifestyle, as in acquiring wealth and hoarding it. This includes spending less and finding good deals.\n\n\nOf the families that I have interacted with, many of the children never develop the same drive that their parents had that led to their success.\nUpvotes: 151\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: This makes sense. Wealth earned via luck or hard work. No time for interesting courses or hobbies.\n Upvotes: 35\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: If anyone learns how to teach drive, I'd pay for that course. \n Upvotes: 16\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: The ability to delay gratification is not the same as the ability to solve puzzles and match patterns. Together they can do amazing things but one doesn’t need to be a genius to work hard, save the extra, and invest over decades. \n\nCompound interest over 25 years is the REAL miracle. But you have to put in early to get later. By the time many people figure this out it’s too late for them. \n\nBut even if they do they won’t put their kids in league with time either, perpetuating the state another generation.\n Upvotes: 5\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 21:\nText: How casually they talk about money, it's like discussing the weather\nUpvotes: 134\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Tbf, this is one less talked-about reason people who have money have it. While other people spend lots of time talking about sports or TV shows or whatever, people with money are talking about how to make more money. They share information with each other and help each other out.\n Upvotes: 75\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: This could be cultural too. I find it odd Americans are so reluctant to chat about money\n Upvotes: 7\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 22:\nText: I grew up pretty poor. My wife insanely rich. In my house, your car breaks down, you fix it, or, take it to a mechanic to fix it. In her house, they would buy a new car. This dawned on me when our washing machine broke and I ordered the part on Amazon and an hour later saw she had ordered a new washer from Lowe’s. She’s gotten better, but her first impulse is just to buy a new one of whatever is broken\nUpvotes: 116\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: My husband is like this too. To a point, our $300 vacuum nozzle broke and he just ordered a new vacuum. \n Upvotes: 3\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Comfort brings laziness\n Upvotes: 2\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 23:\nText: That most of them are nepo babies..\n\nMy hippy-dippy ex owns several houses in a beach resort town.. she was an ESL teacher for 10 years and now teaches the occasional yoga class..\n\nAt one time when we were dating I asked her about our lifestyle..\n\n\"Oh I bought a house in Seattle. And then it doubled in price when I moved to another place.. I bought a house there in that place doubled\" \n\n\"As an ESL teacher how are you able to buy a house in Seattle?\"\n\nOh my dad..\n\nShe also has a sister who's never worked and lives a upper middle class lifestyle in Brooklyn..\n\nShe was always vague about how she's able to do it..\n\nAfter 10 freaking years did she finally admit that they both got a huge inheritance from their grandfather..\n\nI would go with her to the yacht club and talk to some of the other members. About 95% of them are all nepo babies whose family owned a business and they were born into a senior executive position..\n\n\nEvery single one of them feels they deserved it because they work hard..\n\nI know two people who made it organically.. both of them are in tech.. both of them are worth a hundred plus million.. they're both super generous and getting back to the community..\n\nBut the arrogant dipshit yacht club member who's draped in Louis Vuitton that was born a millimeter away from home plate and thinks he hit a home run is active in local politics and always trying to screw over the poor.\nUpvotes: 114\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: You know two ppl worth 100m+? Did they found their own companies? Even mag7 tech mid level leadership it's tough to get there. I am self made multi millionaire and work with wealthy ppl but might only know 1 worth 100m+ who ironically was a farmer lol\n Upvotes: 18\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 24:\nText: That rich people think bananas cost $10.\nUpvotes: 95\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Lucille Bluthe has entered the chat.\n Upvotes: 35\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: There’s always money in the banana stand.\n Upvotes: 5\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: I don’t think a banana costs $10, but my SIL was complaining about the price of chips and I honestly didn’t know how much they were. If my housekeeper doesn’t get our groceries, I just grab whatever and pay at the end without looking at the price of each item. It was a real wake up call.\n Upvotes: 2\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 25:\nText: Not. I'm not \"rich rich\", but my husband and I make well over a half million a year. That sounds like a lot until you learn that we live in Mountain View, California. He works at Stanford and I work for \\[social media company here\\]. We do well, we have no kids, and we save a lot of our income. I grew up super poor on and off until I was a late teen. Like, my father hunted for our protein and my grandma mended my brother's hand-me-downs for me. My husband grew up reasonably upper middle class, maybe bottom level of wealthy. \n\nThe biggest things I've learned?\n\n(1) That \"the desire to be rich one day\" is itself a religion. A kind of religion. It's a dogma that we say prayers to. There are rituals around it. There's this almost spiritual believe in an \"I'll be rich one day\" afterlife of imagining one's post-scarcity paradise. In reality, once you get rid of all the things that drive you (by occupying much of your time and energy) you are left with your own demons. I'm a gay guy from one of the poorest parts of Ohio, and from a right-wing, Pentecostal family. Under normal circumstances, my needy kids, a job, a wife, and the stuff of life would keep my mind occupied. Freed of that, I've had time to unpack an incredibly painful childhood, which has not really been the paradise I hoped for. \n\nUntil I arrived at this place, this myth about \"one day I'll be rich and happy when I have X amount of savings\" was a lie. It was myth. It was like a religion that kept me working and kept driving me forward. One day, I reached the promised land and discovered that it's mostly sophistry. Happiness is the pursuit of happiness, it is in belonging to others, and in having a purpose to those we love. \n\n(2) Miserable people are mostly miserable no matter what. Happy people tend to be happy no matter what. There are exceptions. Below a certain amount of income, the circumstances of life drain and destroy you. If you earn enough to \"buy back\" all that suffering (waiting in lines, crappy healthcare, clipping coupons, worrying about rent), what you're left with is a space where you can thrive. People born to be miserable cunts will be miserable no matter what. People who would be happy but can't because of poverty may probably thrive. And those who are happy will just be happy no matter what happens. \n\n(3) Rich people, I mean REALLY rich people, really are different. Since I'm surrounded by SV wealth and have a few friends with 8 and 9 digit worth, they just are different. I have a friend in the 8-digit range. She is utterly obsessed with her \"earthiness\". \"I'm just like everybody else.\" We were strolling down the street in San Francisco after lunch. She went on and on and on about how she's not disconnected from reality. Then, in one moment, she took a call from her husband, \"Okay, well, just call 'Bob' and have him charter us a jet. We can get to Las Vegas in like an hour.\" I was like that Indian football coach meme staring at her. \"Scuze me 'Marsha'. That statement was not a 'just like everybody else' statement. Next to nobody else ever says the words, 'Well, charter a jet' when getting to Vegas in under 4 hours becomes so inconvenient that they don't want to drive.\"\n\n(4) No matter how rich you are, you are out of touch with some one struggling at a less entitled position as you. I'm not rich, but the luxuries to which I've become accustomed are hard for me to live without. (My husband works at a hospital and we have great \\[tech worker\\] insurance. So when we go to the hospital, we just go in and any doctor will see us. We fly mostly business class and anything other than that is quite literally painful.) Maybe you can't afford those things, but if --say-- you live in the US and have a house, food, clothing, and not much else, there's someone far worse off than you, somewhere on Earth. They're suffering. You're not. And the hardest thing about our reality is that there is only so much of our time and energy any one of us can spend thinking about it. \n\n(5) The greatest joy you get from having money is the freedom from worry that it buys and the ability to do really great, kind things for your loved ones. It's nice being able to afford doing stuff for our friends and family. It's nice being able to not have to do so many of life's super annoying things. It's nice getting time away to go on vacation. Buying stuff? Not worth it for me. It's all about the time I get with my husband.\nUpvotes: 95\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I’m truly moved and grateful for your lovely insights. And also, I hope this doesn’t seem weird but can we please be friends 🤗\n Upvotes: 5\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Thank you for sharing.\n Upvotes: 5\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Beautifully written.\n Upvotes: 4\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 26:\nText: It's expensive to be poor. Much cheaper to be rich.\nUpvotes: 94\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 27:\nText: When I married a doctor from a wealthy family, I thought the large family would be intellectually challenging and fun.\n\nI quickly discovered that the main topics of conversation focused on keeping people from getting their money, and stain removal. They loved to talk about stain removal!\nUpvotes: 79\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: 😂😂😂😂WTF stain removal from what?\n Upvotes: 6\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: So it looks like they failed ???\n Upvotes: 4\n\n Reply 3:\n Text: Keeping people from their money?\n Upvotes: 2\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 28:\nText: If there is one thing redditors love, it’s talking about growing up poor\nUpvotes: 78\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I think this is an American thing (although I am sure not exclusively). But my UK friends say their rich acquaintances don’t feel the same need to justify themselves.\n Upvotes: 3\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 29:\nText: I'm not rich, but I spent the first half of my life working class poor, the second half destitutely poor, and now am comfortably middle class (wow that is wild to think).\n\nMany upper middle class and up folks genuinely believe they are working class or middle class or just getting by. I've had people getting 50k kitchen renos done by interior designers tell me they're poor. Or people with brand new cars they bought in cash. Or people who travel to Europe for weeks at a time, several times a year. \n\nThey will say things like \"well I bought the car in cash but I had to save for several years to afford it\" not realizing that a working class family could try and save forever, they aren't ever going to be able to afford a 75k vehicle in cash. Or \"well the kitchen before was so disgusting and was falling apart, it had to be upgraded\" not realizing that for actual poor or working class people, they just keep the disgusting kitchen.\n\nI used to argue with these people when I was poor because I would get so angry at how clueless they were. Now I still get annoyed, but I've learned to just smile and nod politely and let them live in their \"woe is me\" world.\nUpvotes: 70\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: I've had terrible anxiety all my life. When I was little, one thing I did that helped was make a \"worry box\". Any time something was bothering me, I'd write it down and add it to the worry box. Articulating the problem helped me understand why it upset me and sometimes even helped me find a solution.\n\nThe first few papers were about how I couldn't get regular meals. How I couldn't have sleepovers because I was afraid my parents would hurt my friends. How my clothes didn't fit and it was causing bruises or joint pain. Once I was on my own I worried about rent or projects at work. Nowadays it's that I had a bad interaction with a cashier or had a headache. \n\nWhat really surprised me is no matter how well my life is going, my worry box is always full. Life's never perfect, I'm never completely happy, and my to do list is never finished. It's just that the baseline for what upsets me is higher. I honestly wonder if I could still deal with the things that set off my anxiety when I was a kid.\n Upvotes: 25\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nComment 30:\nText: Your poor friends will kind of resent you for it. Never ever ever tell anybody how much money you have. It will only bring sadness and misery. \n\nAlso, the desire to become rich can be a kind of mental illness the is the result of being raised in poverty. I am not super rich. My net worth puts me in the top 10%. I have enough to retire and live the rest of my life in comfort if I chose to stop working. But I still feel this constant anxiety that I don't have enough or something is going to happen and I will lose it all and be homeless. \n\nI think what we are experiencing in the US today is that the ultra wealthy billionaires have become mentally ill. I mean if someone is worth a billion dollars they could spend $100,000 a day for 30 years and still die with money. But all they can think about is 'how can I get 2 billion.\" These mental patients would rather destroy democracy than to have to pay taxes. It is madness what they will destroy to do it.\nUpvotes: 63\n\n Reply 1:\n Text: Eh dunno about that. I have nothing and I'm still fucking stoked to hear that my friends are doing well.\n Upvotes: 7\n\n Reply 2:\n Text: Ngl, I had a rich friend that I constantly had to push myself to not resent them. It never really worked because it was just so easy to label everything they say as “how would you know, you’re rich.” or something similar.\n Upvotes: 3\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\n" + ], + "chunks": [ + "Title: What’s a rich people thing that rich people don’t know is a rich people thing?", + "\nComment 1:\nText: Spontaneity. They can randomly decide to do things without much planning, knowing that money will not be an issue. This applies from random fancy dinners to major trips out of the country\nUpvotes: 23679", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I had a client who is an accountant that told me this phrase (we live in Argentina):", + "- So last week we heard that Radiohead was playing in Tokyo, so we said: sounds like a plan!”", + "And she brought me a keychain, which was kind of nice :)\n Upvotes: 8434", + " Reply 2:\n Text: This. Couple that with solutions to problems always being \"simple\" when they have that money on hand. I hate whenever someone offers a solution like \"Why don't you just go get a...\" or \"You gotta call someone to come...\" or \"That's why you get...\" ", + "People can't just \"get\" things. Even if they NEED it.\n Upvotes: 1219", + " Reply 3:\n Text: THIS!!!! I once had a rich kid I attended highschool with say to me (because I’d made the mistake of vocalising my envy, and stating that my family was so poor we’d never even left the state) that **“travelling the world isn’t about having money, it’s about having courage”.** Which is not only probably some cheesy quote her mother had hanging in their house or something, it’s also completely untrue lmao. Like, what, am I gonna show up to a resort and they say “that’ll be $2000 please!” And I respond with “oh, no sorry, I’ll be paying my tab with courage!” 🫠🫠🫠\n Upvotes: 988", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 2:\nText: I dated a guy whose folks were really rich. At one point, we were all riding around on his dad's speedboat, on the lake where they had their million-something second home. ", + "We passed a big house that was somewhat bigger than the big house his dad and step-mom owned. His step-mom sighed softly and said, \"I wonder how the other half lives. It must be nice.\"\nUpvotes: 18014", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This is the best comment in the whole thread lmao\n Upvotes: 4920", + " Reply 2:\n Text: My in-laws have three houses, all paid for, and millions in the bank. When my mother in law says this (which she does frequently), I tell her “well mostly we stress about paying for our kids’ college tuition.”", + "We do just fine, but Jesus the lack of perspective.\n Upvotes: 3283", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Talk about being blind to how privileged you already are. \n Upvotes: 854", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 3:\nText: If you grow up rich it's pretty much everything. Essentially it's **atmosphere**. My aunt's family was very well off. Her husband had a blue collar background. The first time he saw her was the summer after his junior year of college, when he was part of a crew doing lawn work at her parents' house. They \"dated\" very briefly but they had nothing in common.", + "He busted his ass, got a few lucky breaks, and ended up with a very, very lucrative job. A few solid investments later he was actually worth more than my aunt's whole family. Eight years after they first met he asked her out again.", + "**To hear him tell it, he took her to a really swanky restaurant with a long wait list, that he managed to bypass thanks to a friend who knew the owner. As soon as they sat down he said to her \"I always wanted to take you to a place like this.\" My aunt looked around the room, she looked at him, and she said \"a place like what?\"**", + "To her it was just a restaurant.\nUpvotes: 15698", + " Reply 1:\n Text: 😭 This man busted his ass for almost a decade and she didn’t even notice.", + "And what do you mean they “briefly dated?”\n Upvotes: 6237", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I know a guy like this. Went from doing road work (also as a summer job, during college) to filthy rich in less than a decade.", + "I don't know how the hell they do it. Can't figure out if they're just insanely smart and a little lucky, or a little smart and insanely lucky.", + "EDIT: I'm happy your uncle got the girl in the end though.\n Upvotes: 369", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I agree with \"pretty much everything\". I went to the beach with my ex once and she was astounded to learn that bungalows where you chill in the shade and have drinks brought to you are, not only not on every beach, but a privilege you had to pay for.\n Upvotes: 20", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 4:\nText: Parents who know how to do things. Who help you fill out college applications, who guide you into lessons, the right classes, how to rent an apartment, invest, etc. etc. Upper middle class kids have no idea how many things working class kids have to figure out for themselves because their parents have no experience in that stuff — like the parents don't even know what it is that they don't know.\nUpvotes: 11175", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I come from parents that immigrated here to the US, that didn’t know much English. Oh boy lol no one taught me how to fill out University Applications or FASFA. I had to figure out myself. That wasn’t the hardest part. The most wide eye opening/jaw dropping was realizing that parents did a lot of the above for them (my college classmates). Parents paid for their college, housing, apartments, monthly allowances, credit cards for spending, investment knowledge, providing them with huge down payments for their first house purchase, trust funds, they had jobs lined up at their parents firms, already knew about medical school because their parents were surgeons, Etc. and most of them were out of state, too.\n Upvotes: 2014", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Having a mentor or guide through the really rough phases of life is sooo key or you'll get clobbered in this mean world.", + "Most drown in the complexities of modern life.\n Upvotes: 568", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I grew up somewhat rich, a lot of my friends (and even my wife) didn't. There's a lot of financial advice I end up having to give out so people don't fuck themselves over or get surprised by. When my wife was trying to get her first apartment and we weren't married yet, I had to cosign the lease because she quite literally didn't have a credit score. She's saved up loads of money, enough that we could go years without working and still be fine and on top of all our bills, but without a credit score it didn't matter.\nI also had a job for years where my whole \"thing\" was knowing how to walk people through getting the things they want or need done. Taxes, college applications, loan applications, job interviews, disability services, therapy appointments, credit cards, bank accounts, rental agreements, apartment inspections, ordering a pizza over the phone, first date etiquette, pet adoption paperwork. I was the full time \"guy who knows how to do shit with paperwork\". \n Upvotes: 510", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 5:\nText: Booking a flight day of or so close to date, without a second thought.\nUpvotes: 10510", + " Reply 1:\n Text: \"Sir, you don't need booking for your private jet\"\n Upvotes: 2599", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Depends on where you are in the world really. I can fly to like 5 different countries for $100 one way even when I book same day. Booking ahead it can be as low as $50 but the flexibility is worth the difference.\n Upvotes: 360", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Or changing their return to a different time or day, again without a thought\n Upvotes: 190", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 6:\nText: Telling their parents they want to be a musician or artist and the parents don’t ask if there’s a backup plan.\nUpvotes: 9160", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I dated a woman who had lived off grid in a survivalist community where they built their own shelters and stuff. She said it took her a while to realize that the reason most of them were so care free was because they had wealthy parents and trust funds and at any point if it got too tough they could just leave and catch a flight home. She didn't have the same options as them. \n Upvotes: 4213", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Or any venture. Bill Gates dropped out to found MS but if it hadn't worked his family was wealthy enough he wasn't going to end up living under an overpass.\n Upvotes: 887", + " Reply 3:\n Text: LOL - that was my friend. She tried being a dancer for about 10 years out of college (that her father paid for). She had a part time gig here or there just for something to do. However, she lived off funds from her father and a trust fund her grandmother had left for her. She quite literally had NO idea how privileged she was.\n Upvotes: 100", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 7:\nText: I have one that nobody ever thinks about, but friendships!! ", + "When you move in wealthy circles, maintaining a circle of friendships is much easier. They have the time, energy and money to prioritise trips away together. They can meet their girlfriends for dinners because they have access to childcare and don’t have to be up at 5am 5-7 days a week. They can outsource their admin, they don’t have to be calling the electrician or spending the day taking their car to a mechanic. \nThey have access to a high level of medical care so may spend less time chasing medical issues around. \nThey have the freedom to pursue these friendships.", + "When you’re working class, you and all your friends are working their assess off just surviving and keeping on top of their responsibilities. We’re all busy and exhausted, so maintaining friendships takes a lot of work and sacrifice. ", + "It’s why we always see wealthy people with like 40 close friends and we have like 2 close friends we struggle to make time to see.\nUpvotes: 8167", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This is actually mind blowing to me. It dovetails into “rich people have time” in general, but what a positive consequence.", + "My parents in law are wealthy. Like on cruises all the time wealthy. And they have SO MANY friends and you just helped make this click.\n Upvotes: 2455", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Yes. My nephew recently married into “society,” and one thing I learned is, say your kid is graduating high school, you might throw him a party. In my nephew’s in-laws’ hood, you throw your kid a party. But then the neighbors throw him another party. And you might throw their graduating kid a party. It’ll be a summer of everyone throwing everyone a party.\n Upvotes: 733", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Yeah, it‘s even small things like:", + "*Haven‘t seen you in a while, me and the girls are going to brunch tomorrow, if you want to join us?*", + "Sorry, I have to work.", + "*Me too, just leave for an hour or two.*", + "Not everyone has an *I leave for an hour, or two to go brunching* kind of job.\n Upvotes: 456", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 8:\nText: A friend of mine is a trust fund baby. She decided she wanted to hike the AT, so she quit her very comfy job, bought all the gear, and flew to Virginia. She only made it a few weeks and got bored. Came back home and her dad found her another very comfy job. Hasn’t been hiking since. I was floored by this. Another friend decided she wanted to be a dairy farmer, so she bought a farm in Kansas and got some cows. Then she had to hired a farm hand after two cows died because she didn’t know they needed minerals. They just act so flippantly without care or thought\nUpvotes: 6044", + " Reply 1:\n Text: \"They were careless people. . . They smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money . . . and let other people clean up the mess they had made. . .\" (F. Scott Fitzgerald  - The Great Gatsby)\n Upvotes: 2858", + " Reply 2:\n Text: My girlfriend used to work at a blueberry farm in the area. It was started back in the 50’s, handed down generationally, until it was purchased by her boss back like 10 years ago. They built it up, formed a respectable social media presence and poured their hearts into the place. They decided to sell a couple years ago, as they were approaching retirement age. Sold it to a couple trust fund kids from Seattle, mid 30’s siblings. Within a year, the barn burned down, they laid off over half their staff, and looks to have stopped pruning their blueberries. From the looks of the place and the social media sleuthing I’ve done, they pretty much lost interest in the venture and just went back to their previous lives. It’s crazy how these rich kids could decide one day “it would be nice to have a blueberry farm”, buy one for 2mil, fail, and then just move on.\n Upvotes: 2031", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Yeah. My mom's friend did an Eat Pray Love style life change and wrote a book about it. Then she asked me in complete bewilderment \"why doesn't everyone just do what they love? Life is so short.\" I was like \"um... bills? Being too disabled? It's not that easy for everyone\". She really didn't get the concept that not everyone can just do whatever they want to be happy. \n Upvotes: 258", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 9:\nText: This was a new one for me, but hearing this girl say she had a personal driver and then after my astonishment declaring it was pretty standard where she lived.\nUpvotes: 4742", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Be honest Victoria!\n Upvotes: 1802", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Depending on the country having a personal diver, maid and gardener can be very normal for middle class families. This is usually because a lot of the population has little to no formal education and so your job prospects are either be a small scale farmer, factory worker or provide a service to a more well off family.\n Upvotes: 466", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Thailand. Most middle class families had a maid and a handyman woking for them, who would double as nannies and drivers.  ", + "\nThe problem is that Thailand has a tiny upper and middle class compared to the population than any other country.  ", + "\nMiddle class Thai people think it's normal to own a condo they don't use on top of their home while they walk past open air shacks of supposedly not homeless people.  \n Upvotes: 308", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 10:\nText: Their social networks. Small example: “my son just graduated college with a degree in blah blah, and my good golf buddy owns a blah blah firm. I’ll ask if he has a summer internship opening.”\nUpvotes: 4003", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Yeah, this is the real one. What rich people do better is network with other rich people. Even if they never give their children a trust fund, they’re setting Junior up with a high-paying job using connections.", + "Which isn’t to say middle class people don’t also do this - it’s just that their network is typically also middle class, so Junior’s resume is landing on the desk of someone hiring for a 50k/year job.\n Upvotes: 1678", + " Reply 2:\n Text: This is actually what private universities are very good for. Reddit loves to hate on college and the debt that they come with, but private universities are essentially giant networking opportunities. ", + "I'm in my mid 30s now and every guy on my floor in my 1st year dorm is now on a partner track in whatever field they ended up in, accounting, law, doctor, etc. They all had internships throughout college and graduated with multiple job offers lined up.", + "A couple hundred thousand dollars of debt means nothing if you get to trade it for a multi-year head start at whatever firm you end up at. ", + "Obviously this doesn't work as easily if you go to a state school or community college.\n Upvotes: 7", + " Reply 3:\n Text: ugh we had one of these dipstick interns at my last company. there had been no internship advertised, we didn't need an intern, and even if we did he had no useful skills for the work and was just a time drain. come to find out his father is besties with the ceo \n Upvotes: 6", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 11:\nText: Buying a house as an investment, rather than a place to live\nUpvotes: 3584", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This one kills me. I was complaining to a coworker about how my property taxes had gone up so much, and he was like \"hey, that's a good thing! It means your property value is high\".", + "I'm like ??? but if I sell my house, where will I live? Are people like selling their houses and getting an apartment instead or something? If I only have the one house, how am I supposed to profit off its value going up?\n Upvotes: 1427", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I was sitting around drinking with some friends and one of them said \"Hmm. Maybe I should buy a house.\" and a month or so later he had a house. He didn't grow up rich but rather became rich as an adult. It was still wild to see that.\n Upvotes: 438", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I have a customer who casually told me the other day that she bought a plot of land down the hill from her house. I said, \"oh, an investment?\" She said, \"no, they were going to develop it and put 5 townhouses on it and it would block my view, so now it won't be developed.\"", + "Just casually dropped hundreds of thousands of dollars.\n Upvotes: 29", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 12:\nText: The VP of my company once asked me why I don't get a maid and laundry service when he overheard me mentioning about not having enough free time.\nUpvotes: 3465", + " Reply 1:\n Text: The CEO (multi millionaire) of the \"startup\" I worked at in NYC got so confused when my coworker, who was her own department, had to take a day off because her kids were sick.", + "\"Why doesn't she just let the nanny take care of them?\" She wondered.", + "We were making 40k, in NYC. I often had to choose what bill to skip so I could eat that month\n Upvotes: 2028", + " Reply 2:\n Text: One of the execs my wife worked with heard that it was my dream to live in the country and have some land for lots of animals, like a hobby farm. Pie in the sky idea. He sent her a bunch of “affordable” listings- all around 4-5 million dollars. We’re doing quite well financially but these people are just in a totally different sphere.\n Upvotes: 435", + " Reply 3:\n Text: The owner of a company asked me why I didn't just a buy a house in his area while he knew he paid me 8% of what he makes per hour. ", + "Literally told him he would need to increase my income by 6x and still require my wife to work full-time so I can afford a million dollar home next to him.", + "Shortly after he also said hey you're smart you should work for this company. I applied and used him as a reference and got a job paying 3x what he was paying me at the time as my starting wage and he offered to double my wage on the spot but it was too late", + "At least he didn't sabotage my application and helped me advance my career so there's that.\n Upvotes: 104", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 13:\nText: Refrigerators that look like cabinets.\nUpvotes: 2681", + " Reply 1:\n Text: That's actually a decent answer to this. Good kitchen design in general would be a big one. A well designed kitchen is not cheap, but once executed also doesn't seem like a big deal until you experience a kitchen which wasn't designed well.\n Upvotes: 832", + " Reply 2:\n Text: [deleted]\n Upvotes: 33", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I’m not rich but my appliances are integrated. It’s normal where I live. Fridge and freezer. Dishwasher and washing machine.\n Upvotes: 20", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 14:\nText: I've ate at some fancy restaurants before, but I'd like to know who those wine lists are made for lol. I could fund a few months traveling with what it appears to be just the drink with an evening meal for some folks.\nUpvotes: 2398", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Business expense accounts\n Upvotes: 1522", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I talked with a manager of a 3-star michelin restaurant. There are people that are saving for a year or more, to have a meal at their restaurant. He said you can tell by the way they are tasting every bite instead of slobbering it all in. They are his and his chef's favorite customers.\n Upvotes: 14", + " Reply 3:\n Text: A friend’s mother owned an high class restaurant and when you order an expensive wine, you pay for the whole bottle. People accepted it with no further questions. What she did with those opened bottles was very sweet. Every week there were people who came and it was an highlight for them. They saved up for it or/and it was a special occasion or something. Those customers were never able to taste such high quality wines, do they were invited by the restaurant to taste a glass of what they had open. It was incredibly appreciative by everyone and some money heavy patrons did occasionally ordered a bottle just to have one glass. Just do there was always an open bottle.\n Upvotes: 13", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 15:\nText: Not checking prices of things/throwing anything and everything in their basket and paying without looking.", + "Oh how I wish to one day go shopping without having to walk around the store with my calculator app open.\nUpvotes: 1332", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This is my exact bar. This is why I consider myself wealthy. I don’t make extravagant meals or anything, but I don’t look at price tags when I shop for food. Another rich person thing (I went from poor to rush when I married into a rich family), is cooking. Rich people (in my experience) rarely buy highly processed foods. They get produce and fresh meat and cook well. My mother in law spent a ton of time traveling in France and Italy and just cooks coq au vin and soups and things like that. Meals for 4-8 for under $40, usually. And it’s still super fancy feeling.\n Upvotes: 530", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I never check prices at the grocery store. I'm just middle class. ", + "If I'm at the mall I'm def checking prices.\n Upvotes: 187", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I used to do this, but I started paying a bit more attention recently. I’ll still buy whatever I want, but I’ll think about whether or not it is worth it first. I don’t mind spending money but I hate wasting it.\n Upvotes: 12", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 16:\nText: Not needing to or thinking of saving up money to buy something or for a holiday.\nUpvotes: 1289", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Tbh this is more like a \"things poor people think is a rich peoples thing but they're just poor\" thing\n Upvotes: 317", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I have an aspect of that that I really think fits OP’s question. I have always been super anxious around travel/vacations/trips and it drives my husband crazy. I’m stressed out packing everything, wanting to get to the airport super early, he thinks it’s just an irritating quirk of mine but I realized about a decade into our relationship why I do it - when I was growing up there was no fallback plan if things went wrong. We never took vacations but to us a family camping trip every four or so years was a huge deal. Really going anywhere together as a family was a huge deal. If something went wrong though there was no contingency plan. My dad once borrowed an old RV for a camping trip which us kids were SO excited about. About 45 minutes out of town something went wrong mechanically and I remember waiting at an auto shop for a good three hours in the summer heat then my grandad picking us up to take us back home. We were so disappointed but something must have broke on the RV that was too expensive to fix so trip was just canceled. I didn’t realize fully even until now typing this how much stress that caused me. And another time we drove to the next state for my uncle’s wedding and stayed at a hotel with a pool (my grandad booked our room) but here I didn’t even know hotels had pools and I didn’t bring a swimsuit only my wedding clothes so I just couldn’t swim. It was so sad, all my brothers and cousins were swimming and I had never even been in an in-ground pool at that age (10ish). With my husband’s family if anything went wrong, if anyone forgot anything, money solves all. I remember my husband’s sister missed her flight home for Thanksgiving from college one year and all flights were sold out to get her in on time, so my FIL CHARTERED a plane for her to get home. They all miss flights all the time and when I’m stressing over our travel plans my husband is like “what’s the worse that can happen? We just get another flight!” but I cannot adapt to that way of thinking because for poor people mistakes can’t just be solved by throwing money at the problem.\n Upvotes: 259", + " Reply 3:\n Text: That’s more of just good money management. I’m not rich, but i can go on a trip on a whim.\n Upvotes: 27", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 17:\nText: The safety net. Normal people can't fuck up as much as they like and it not be a problem.\nUpvotes: 1138", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This is a HUGE one.", + "\nBecause large life changing rewards only come by making high risk gambles.", + "\nAnd you can't do that if you have zero safety net.  If the gamble is \"If this doesn't work we're homeless\" nobody takes it.", + "\nIf the gamble is \"this doesn't work we start over\" then most people would\n Upvotes: 100", + " Reply 2:\n Text: One thing about the safety net that we often don’t talk about is that is how we learn: from foaming milk to running a business. Is the lesson going to cost you 5 gallons of milk or 2 coffee shops?", + "Of course just having the opportunity to fuck up doesn’t mean you’ll learn, but not being able to afford failure makes it way harder to get good at anything.\n Upvotes: 53", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I saw a post about Donald Trump’s numerous failed attempts to start a business. A large number of comments were praising him for not giving up as if he didn’t have millions from his to fall back on if things didn’t work out.\n Upvotes: 24", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 18:\nText: Having their clothes tailored. The truly wealthy are never flashy about it, as it makes them a target, but they will often wear decent clothes that have been fitted for them specifically.\nUpvotes: 1101", + " Reply 1:\n Text: You guys need to walk into a tailor and see what it actually costs. You think all those tailors in shitty strip malls are only servicing rich people?\n Upvotes: 498", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Been there done that. They are so much more comfortable. ", + "And it’s really not that expensive, I usually pay only 10-15% of the shirt’s cost for the tailoring!\n Upvotes: 139", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Tailoring is surprisingly inexpensive. ", + "It's actually better to shop at a thrift store in a size or two up, but good brands there and go to a tailor to get them fitted ($20 - $50 to get it fit to you).", + "Then you have good quality clothes that aren't going to wear out and look like shit in 6 months.", + "There's a lot here in this list that is just people's assumption that things are rich people things that 'normal' people can't afford, that actually aren't, and are more cost effective than the alternative, but has a bias so no one even thinks to price it out.\n Upvotes: 15", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 19:\nText: ITT: People listing obvious things that every rich person understands is a rich person thing.\nUpvotes: 969", + " Reply 1:\n Text: my thoughts too, i was thinking more along the lines of “having a fridge that dispenses water” or “being able to have a consistent shampoo/bodywash choice” but then again those might just be a middle class thing…\n Upvotes: 383", + " Reply 2:\n Text: ITT: poor people thinking being rich is just not being poor..\n Upvotes: 22", + " Reply 3:\n Text: There is such a wide range in what people consider a rich person thing haha. I'm seeing everything from \"being able to grocery shop without using a calculator\" to \"owning a yacht that you can land your helicopter on.\" Just shows how much people's individual socioeconomic class and upbringing changes what they consider rich.\n Upvotes: 8", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 20:\nText: Paying other people to do their housework; laundry, house keeping, grocery shopping, cooking, yard work, etc. many assume everyone does the same, probably why so many of them think you should work longer hours/ not have much time off. Just us normal peoples housework alone is like having another job.\nUpvotes: 935", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Getting a laundry service has been great. It's only $10 more than doing it myself, and they even fold it for me. Now that I have a spare $10, completely worth getting that time back.", + "Edit: I use Poplin, and here's a referral code for $10 off the first order: https://gopoplin.com/?referralId=p18VMRe8lWuaHz5qZHmM\n Upvotes: 112", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I knew someone barely making more than minimum wage but had been careful with her money her whole life (she was around 60). She paid for very simple yardwork and simple housework. The person ran the vacuum, mopped, and did her laundry 2x/week. The yard person mowed and edged. She said she was no good at keeping up with that stuff and it was her little luxury, made her feel like she had done ok, and gave her a little more free time.", + "Granted this was probably a decade ago and I wonder how she’s doing now.\n Upvotes: 91", + " Reply 3:\n Text: My ex-fiancé’s family had “lawn elves.” He said that phrase to me like it was normal. I didn’t know much about his family’s finances at the time so I asked in a kind of surprised way, “your parents pay people to mow their lawn? Like habitually?” He looked confused, thought about it, and said “huh, I guess we must pay them.”", + "I should’ve left him on the spot.\n Upvotes: 48", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 21:\nText: Yesterday, I was explaining to someone that I’m paying too much for a one bedroom apartment and had to move soon. They started talking about professional packers and movers that they recommended.", + "Lady, I’m getting the cheapest U-Haul possible and doing everything myself, like I have done the last 7 times I’ve moved.\nUpvotes: 873", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Hey everyone, look over here a Daddy Warbucks with a Uhaul. Thinks he is too good to straps couch on top of his car.\n Upvotes: 309", + " Reply 2:\n Text: This is why I'm working on going super minimalist. I have had to hire movers bc of back issues and I don't want to deal with that, and I don't want to bug friends for help. I just want a couple suitcases and a tiny amount of family memorabilia.\n Upvotes: 6", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I think she didn't quite listen when you told her about the *1 Bedroom Apartment*\n Upvotes: 3", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 22:\nText: $10 bananas.\nUpvotes: 808", + " Reply 1:\n Text: It's one banana, Coygon, how much could it cost?\n Upvotes: 388", + " Reply 2:\n Text: There is always money in the bananastand\n Upvotes: 180", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I love that these references are 20 years old.", + "I love that I still recognize them every time.", + "I love that they still make me smile every time.", + "NO TOUCHING!\n Upvotes: 9", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 23:\nText: Being given gifts. My car broke down shortly before Christmas once and I had no money to fix it. A friend said ‘why don’t you just ask everyone to give you money towards the bill for your Christmas present?’. ", + "Girl, who is ‘everyone’? Ain’t nobody giving me gifts, let alone do I have anyone I could request money from in lieu of 😆\nUpvotes: 792", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Even if people gave you gifts of money regularly, that just sounds tacky to ask for it!\n Upvotes: 159", + " Reply 2:\n Text: This reminds me of the time my mom went to a jewelry shop to sell a diamond bracelet that she had inherited, likely worth upwards of $2,000. She ended up not wanting to sell to that specific store, but before she left, the appraiser told her \"If you're not interested in selling it to a store, why don't you just sell it to a friend?\" She said \"What friend?? None of my friends can afford a $2,000 bracelet! We're all broke!\"\n Upvotes: 15", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I had a friend in college that was from a rich middle eastern country but going to school in the US. I was poor at the time. She asked me if I wanted to go out and I said I couldn't because I didn't have any money. She said, no problem, we can stop by the ATM. I said I don't have any money in the bank. She said call you family and ask them to put money in for you. Um, my family didn't have any money either. She did not understand that I would not have any money until after my waitress shift at Pizza Hut.\n Upvotes: 12", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 24:\nText: Buying things that last. Rich people can afford much higher quality products. Think furniture, clothing, accessories. Hell I'm sitting on a probably 30 year old couch that we inherited from my in-laws, who I would describe as on the high end of middle class. But this stuff also gets spread around. When you move into your own place your dad's old friend might have a dresser for you, or an old TV that still works, or what have you. ", + "And over time, the smart rich people spend less money than the poor. They can afford the up front investment in higher quality products that last, while also enjoying the better quality of the products over their lifespan.", + "And yes, for those in the know, I am reframing the Samuel Vimes Boots Theory. But it works here!\nUpvotes: 611", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Thank you for sending me off to find out about the Samuel Vimes Boots Theory! I can't believe I've never run into it before. I'm a lower middle class person who sometimes says, \"Buy once, cry once.\" ", + "My reservation about the theory is, it explains a small multiple, but not a large one. So, going from badly made boots to expensive boots is a factor of 2 or 3, but living in Manhattan and having a love of adventure travel is a factor of....well, more fingers than I have. (lol) To put it another way, wealthy people today are in a stratosphere above Samuel Vimes, or me.\n Upvotes: 22", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Keep in mind though, not everything that lasts is more expensive than things that last shorter. Eg: Toyota/Lexus SUV vs a Range Rover.\n Upvotes: 19", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Poverty charges interest\n Upvotes: 11", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 25:\nText: Rich hobbies. My girlfriend’s family is well off, and has a cabin by the lake. Was talking to a friend of theirs one night over drinks and it came up that I (30+M) have neither golfed nor been water skiing. And the guy goes “I don’t understand, what did you DO as a kid then?” Didn’t even know how to respond, growing up I never even knew anyone who had *tried* either because no one could dream of affording it\nUpvotes: 595", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Had a similar experience, except on a race track. I was talking to some guys about how I wish I could've started racing when I was younger. I could've been something. Dude asked why didn't you... Told him that I was so poor we couldn't afford a fucking soccer ball. Had to play with an empty milk jug on the streets. Lol.\n Upvotes: 112", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Bro I skied the first time at 33yrs old… my wife’s family is sick of it and has had their fill and I literally just tried it lol.\n Upvotes: 12", + " Reply 3:\n Text: A woman I knew was completely stunned when she found out my son (maybe 12 years old at the time) had never golfed. When I say stunned, she could not wrap her brain around it. I never looked at her the same way again.\n Upvotes: 9", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 26:\nText: Telling others “you should travel more to widen your horizon”. ", + "“Have you been to this Michelin star restaurant that opened last month?”", + "Giving obnoxiously expensive gifts and not realising why other people get uncomfortable. ", + "Being known by random people and getting much more polite service. ", + "Having good understanding and generally being interested in investment opportunities and global trends. ", + "Throwing things out easily, when you just want to replace something.\nUpvotes: 593", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Michelin star restaurants can't open last month because they have to earn their star. Checkmate.\n Upvotes: 458", + " Reply 2:\n Text: The billionaire I know gives exceedingly humble gifts for baby showers etc. Think like $40 outfits.\n Upvotes: 98", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Shit...", + "Give me an obnoxiously expensive gift. I'll accept it gladly. No reason to feel awkward. If this random rich person couldn't afford it, they wouldn't give it. Moreover, I'm sure they're fully aware of your/my complete inability to reciprocate in equal measure, and are ok with it. Otherwise, they wouldn't have given it.\n Upvotes: 9", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 27:\nText: [removed]\nUpvotes: 474", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Having a guest house. Period.\n Upvotes: 471", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Or any form of second home. When a huge amount of people cannot afford one.\n Upvotes: 10", + " Reply 3:\n Text: [deleted]\n Upvotes: 6", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 28:\nText: Having a garage fridge and gushers. Or that’s what my 10 year old self thought 😂\nUpvotes: 448", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Gushers are for the kids who live here only!\n Upvotes: 31", + " Reply 2:\n Text: nobody really buys a garage fridge - just move the old one out there when you decide to upgrade in a decade or two\n Upvotes: 19", + " Reply 3:\n Text: My garage fridge cost me the $7.32 I pad to rent a furniture dolly to move it out of some old lady's basement.\n Upvotes: 16", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 29:\nText: Having \"a guy\" for everything. Need a contract - I'll call my lawyer, Need a suit - I'll call my suit guy, want to buy an investment property - I'll call my realtor.\nUpvotes: 446", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Realtors are for poors. Ultra wealthy have an in house team of real estate professionals who deal with the realtor.\n Upvotes: 12", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Or you just live in miami (There is a guy for everything for cheap in Hialeah)\n Upvotes: 5", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I got a mechanic guy but that’s about it 😂\n Upvotes: 2", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 30:\nText: Going to college without having to worry about how your tuition is being paid.\nUpvotes: 364", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Thats only a US rich people thing\n Upvotes: 215", + " Reply 2:\n Text: This absolutely floored me in college -- I went to one of the most expensive colleges in the country, but came from a modest background. I was so stressed about financial aid, how I was possibly going to pay, etc., especially because my parents couldn't really help.", + "Then later I found out that over 50% of the student body didn't get any financial aid. Of that group, almost all of them (98%) didn't even *apply*. I was so shocked, and felt like I had been lied to -- these people really *weren't* like me. I knew that they mostly had more money than I did, but damn.\n Upvotes: 7", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Going to college and having additional food to eat besides what is offered in the meal plan.\n Upvotes: 7", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "", + "Title: What is the most rich thing you've seen wealthy people say/do casually", + "\nComment 1:\nText: My friends bought a house in Palm Springs but the renovation was taking too long so they just bought a second house in Beverly Hills to live in during the renovations. They kept both\nUpvotes: 9367", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I rented a little apartment in a nice, brand new complex a few years ago. ", + "The lovely family upstairs that lived in the $3+ million penthouse bought it as they were renovating their $10+ million house nearby and didnt want to rent during the process.\n Upvotes: 1769", + " Reply 2:\n Text: A relative bought a house in Malibu Colony (right on the beach) to live in while their Palisades home was being remodeled. Then they told me they kept the Malibu home because it was just easier than driving back to the Palisades after a day at the beach.\n Upvotes: 1087", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Friend's mom owns a building in one of the most expensive areas in one of the most expensive cities in Europe. 99% of these types of buildings are split up by floor (4 floors) into separate apartments. She lives in a whole building. Anyway, she was remodelling the whole thing and it would take 3 years or so, she bought a similar building across the street and sold it when remodelling was completed.\n Upvotes: 581", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 2:\nText: Was at a bar with the multi-billionaire ceo of the company I worked for. He made fun of Oprah for only having one jet, then went on to tell me to never buy helicopters because they are built by the lowest bidder - planes are the better choice.", + "Bob, my car didn't even have air conditioning...\nUpvotes: 8794", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Larry, I’m on Ducktails.\n Upvotes: 2476", + " Reply 2:\n Text: >never buy helicopters because they are built by the lowest bidder - planes are the better choice.", + "Aaaaaand completely untrue. Money doesn't buy brains.\n Upvotes: 892", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Sir this is a McDonald's.\n Upvotes: 290", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 3:\nText: So I work part time at a strip club and we have some very rich clientele. Some of them come in all the time and we get to know a lot about them, they get to know a lot about us. Well, one of our security guys died of a sudden massive heart attack. One of the rich clientele just called the funeral home and paid for everything.", + "\nLike there was no second thought. We were all taking up a collection to help a bit and he just dropped the whole bill just like that! I mean I see a lot of really rich behavior... But that one was just so mind-blowing. \nUpvotes: 5745", + " Reply 1:\n Text: That was surprising wholesome\n Upvotes: 1955", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Alao one of the most kind examples here. \nRIP to the security guy. Probably a hard job to stay healthy in. \n Upvotes: 1890", + " Reply 3:\n Text: That’s not typical rich person behavior, but it should be.\n Upvotes: 356", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 4:\nText: My dad knows a billionaire who had a french chateau disassembled and reassembled in the US. He acted like it was just a normal as building a house. My dads been there a few time and said it’s an insane property with a huge man made lake and huge sprawling lawns. \nUpvotes: 4033", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I went to a guy's house one time that has been a church in the UK. Apparently it was going to be torn down so he had it shipped to the US and then built a modern house around it. Stunning home.\n Upvotes: 1137", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Hugo Drax?\n Upvotes: 113", + " Reply 3:\n Text: >insane property with a huge man made lake and huge sprawling lawns. ", + "Unless that lake was made from a disassembled French lake and the water was shipped over, that's just cutting corners.\n Upvotes: 12", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 5:\nText: Going to their apt in the city so they have a place to hang out in between shopping at stores. Their apt is only for that purpose.\nUpvotes: 3931", + " Reply 1:\n Text: There's also a bougie name for it: pied a terre\n Upvotes: 1478", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Private bathroom! Clean too", + "They probably have a housekeeper\n Upvotes: 464", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Now this is one I’ve never heard of. Holy shit. I’m in the wrong business.\n Upvotes: 249", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 6:\nText: I used to work at a jeweler and the stories are endless. Clients would talk about how they just got back from a months long trip on a yacht or some exotic island. I’m just like cool I put in 60+ hours this week and have worked every day of the week lol. The shit that I wouldn’t get at all is the watch guys. I had a client come in one time and ask for the cheapest watch we had, so he didn’t have to worry about it on his trip. He ended up going with a $800 watch (not the cheapest) and while I was checking him out, he said he was going to throw it away after the trip. I tried talking him out of it and just said return it afterwards , but then he seemed insulted. Other watch guys would pay $1k every year just to get a little scratch on their Rolex that only they notice buffed out. Id explain to them that they’re shaving precious metal off every time and ruining the integrity of the watch, but they dgaf because their egos are so massive. We’d hold private events and encourage clients to bring their friends and itd always turn into a dick swinging contest of who can spend more. Absolutely wild environment and I was absolutely burnt out after 2 years. Most money I ever made, but most miserable I’ve ever been.\nUpvotes: 3587", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Insightful because those people consider even expensive, luxury items totally disposable\n Upvotes: 1086", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Sounds like new money. Most wealthy people Im around are cheap as fuck and would return that 800 dollar watch without you having to tell them and prolly would have annoyingly haggled you down to 750.\n Upvotes: 360", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I worked at Coach as a seasonal employee back in college. We had someone come in saying they were shopping there that day because they didn't want to go to Louis Vuitton. I was really put off by that comment, and realized years later they were full of shit and just trying to seem more rich and important than they actually were.\n Upvotes: 259", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 7:\nText: I worked in a sporting goods store in my early 20’s and got absolutely screamed at by an old man for not knowing who he was when I asked him for ID. ", + "Apparently he owned like half the town and others at the store would kiss his ass. At $9 an hour I wasn’t paid enough to kiss his ass even if I cared who he was. ", + "I wasn’t from there and had only seen him come in a few times to buy random shit. But either way, the federal fucking government requires you produce ID to purchase a firearm and I was doing my job. ", + "It’s been over 20 years and my husband, who has heard the story, will randomly look at me and bust out “you seriously don’t know who I am?!”\nUpvotes: 3014", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Ha ha ha! I work the front door at a strip club and I will get people coming in all the time trying to not pay the $20 to get in! My favorite is when they say do you know who I am? And I say No sir. Will the be cash or card? And then they usually say sometime like \" I can't believe you don't know who I am!\" I always reply with I'm sorry sir that information is probably in your wallet on your identification if you've forgotten. ", + "\nOh and the ones that scoff when I say its $20 and they say do you know how much money I have? And I say then you should be able to afford $20. Lol", + "\nLuckily my boss doesn't care that most of us have quite a smart mouth!\n Upvotes: 1304", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Honestly, boomers hate showing their ID. I was a bank teller for years and would get yelled at when asking for ID when they wanted to withdraw cash from their accounts. I DONT KNOW YOU.\n Upvotes: 414", + " Reply 3:\n Text: It was Ronnie Pickering!!\n Upvotes: 117", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 8:\nText: I once stayed at a place that was $10,000 a night, amenities included. Luckily my health insurance paid 90% since I’d met my deductible.\nUpvotes: 2708", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I see you too have stayed at hotel AH -SPEH THAL\n Upvotes: 454", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I ran up an $8000 bill for just a 20 minute chat with someone who worked there.\n Upvotes: 264", + " Reply 3:\n Text: 🤣😉\n Upvotes: 69", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 9:\nText: It was from an 8-year old! My very wealthy friend got remarried and her son said he wouldn't mind staying with me while they went on their honeymoon. As we took our seats on the plane, he looked so confused. He sheepishly asked, \"Who are *all these people* on your plane?\". Oh, my little dude...\nUpvotes: 1936", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Interested in how the rest of his visit went!\n Upvotes: 434", + " Reply 2:\n Text: That’s crazy😂\n Upvotes: 2", + " Reply 3:\n Text: You were going on their honeymoon with them?\n Upvotes: -11", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 10:\nText: I once saw Jeff Bezos pay $100,000 to get a guy off the stage at an auction event. The guy on stage wasn’t going to leave until he reached his goal, and Jeff was tired of listening to him. Bye Felicia. $$\nUpvotes: 1827", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I completely misread that.. you once saw Jeff Bezos pay $100,000 to get a guy off?", + "Story checks out\n Upvotes: 946", + " Reply 2:\n Text: In other words, you saw Jeff Bezos give $100k to charity?\n Upvotes: 284", + " Reply 3:\n Text: To him that was probably the equivalent of throwing a 5$ dollar bill at a homeless person harassing ypu for money\n Upvotes: 8", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 11:\nText: Pay USPS to keep the local branch of their post office open (it had been selected to close) so they didn’t have to drive as far to go to the post office.\nUpvotes: 1675", + " Reply 1:\n Text: That's more along the line of calling the Congressman you own and getting a few strings pulled.\n Upvotes: 620", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I like that though, cos it also benefits other people and post offices are a net good.\n Upvotes: 44", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Thats borderline philanthropic. \"For the people\"\n Upvotes: 26", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 12:\nText: Someone once asked me where I summer 😭😭 never felt so poor than saying um… here ?", + "Using summer as a VERB, is a sign we are not in the same tax bracket\nUpvotes: 1252", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Yeah I'm lucky if we even get to take a 4-5 day vacation in the summer. We don't every year. \n Upvotes: 131", + " Reply 2:\n Text: \"So where does everyone summer?\"\n Upvotes: 77", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Omg I tell my husband all the time that “we’ll know we’ve made it when we can use summer as a verb”😂😂\n Upvotes: 19", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 13:\nText: I had a friend of mine casually ask if I wanted to go to Dubai for a week to do some skydiving training in a couple of weeks. My response was \"no, I have to work for a living\". Blew my mind when they asked me like it was no biggie to duck out for a week and blow $15k.\nUpvotes: 1132", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Casual, spontaneous international travel really is a Hallmark of the super rich.\n Upvotes: 383", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I mean, you don’t have to be rich to take a week off like that. Dropping 15k on it is a different story though. \n Upvotes: 160", + " Reply 3:\n Text: When I was in my early 20s I worked with someone my age whose parents paid for everything except her holidays. So she'd work for 3 months putting her entire wage in her holiday fund, go on a one month holiday, come back and work for another 3 months, go on another holiday.... she could not seem to understand that I couldn't do the same thing because my money was going to rent/bills/groceries etc., and my parents couldn't afford to fund my life, even if they'd wanted to.\n Upvotes: 10", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 14:\nText: I photograph luxury homes and architecture for a living. There’s a neighborhood I do a lot of work in called Silverleaf and it’s probably the most exclusive neighborhood in the valley. The bottom part of the neighborhood is your typical wealthy people's homes. Doctors, lawyers, business owners, etc.. extremely nice houses but still attainable for anyone who wants to put in the effort to work those types of careers.", + "As you drive towards the back of the neighborhood you start heading up a mountain that's divided into two parts. Upper Canyon and The Summit. There are probably 100 houses up there. The houses start close to 15 million, but several are over 20-30. One of the builders I work with is developing a house he’s asking about 60 million for.", + "I work Upper Canyon every month or two and even though all of the houses are owned, half or less are lived in. For some, it’s a vacation home they might visit for a few weeks or months of the year, and for others, it’s an investment and a place to park their money.", + "I photographed a 15-million-dollar house there a few years ago. The owner was selling it because he bought a 29 million dollar house literally 2 or 3 lots up because he liked the views more. He’s a Canadian business owner and spends maybe a few months of the year in the valley if that. ", + "I’m used to it now but for a long time I couldn’t wrap my head around how much money some people have…..\nUpvotes: 1116", + " Reply 1:\n Text: See this is what I mean when I say I wanna be rich and am sad I’ll never get there. People always respond saying something like “just invest and in 40 years you’ll have a million dollars!” Or “the truly wealthy people drive Toyotas and shop at Costco!” That isn’t rich, that’s well off. In my opinion, if you have the money but can’t spend it however you want, you’re not rich. Rich is “I want that lot for the views and don’t know or care what it costs”.\n Upvotes: 652", + " Reply 2:\n Text: This reminds me of something Dad always preached to us kids that \"we need to learn the value of a dollar\"", + "He was referring to people who struggle financially and spend on frivolous things that they don't need, like lavish holidays, gucci handbags, a car that's show-offy but outside their price range to purchase/maintain while having crippling debt and overdue unpaid bills.", + "As I've learned as an older man, the same can be said about the ultra wealthy. They do not appreciate the money that they do have. No person should ever have nor need the amount of money they have.", + "I do alright for myself but am far from calling myself a wealthy man, I still struggle as a home owner of 1 that I live in plus am just over six figures, so it makes me very concerned for the people who aren't as fortunate as me. I won't be surprised nor against the inevitable 'eat the rich' day that's coming. Not a matter of if, but when.\n Upvotes: 7", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Hey there's a Silverleaf in my town too! Except our Silverleaf is a middle income neighborhood along a road of the same name where semi trucks park behind a furniture store.\n Upvotes: 4", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 15:\nText: Get stressed from a true crime podcast and book a tropical getaway to decompress.\nUpvotes: 1109", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I day dream about that kinda stuff 😳🥹\n Upvotes: 218", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Vacation is only \"rich people\" behavior if that's literally their only source of stress\n Upvotes: 17", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Had a boss who had a kitten that died, and his teenage daughter was so \"hearbroken\" that he took her on a month long trip to Europe to cheer her up.\n Upvotes: 11", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 16:\nText: My millionaire aunt scoffing at the idea that my single mother taking care of me and my younger brother couldn’t find a place to live because $3,000/month is “easily affordable.”", + "Edit: $3,000/month being the average rent in the area.\nUpvotes: 1032", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Jesus, can’t wait to be looked down upon once my sister and BIL receive a huge monetary gift from a family friend. Not my friend but my BIL became friends and he ultimately became the old man’s beneficiary. We’re talking $40 million. I know deep down I’ll lose my sister to this wealth and I’m not looking forward to it. Wealth changes people and it’s never for the better. I’m a single mom too and I was chastised for not having a lot of money, for getting divorced and for spending money on my girls at times outside of my means. Tell your mom she’s doing a wonderful job and all that money doesn’t mean shit if the wealthy person is an asshole.\n Upvotes: 431", + " Reply 2:\n Text: She should have helped you and your brother fiancially then.", + "I dislike how many people in some cultures think that only the parents should take care of the kids, and no one else. ", + "In a properly functioning family, every adult who is physically able to do childcare and has the time to do so should help. Every rich aunt, uncle, and grandparent should financially support a child with poor parents.\n Upvotes: 57", + " Reply 3:\n Text: My coworker asked why I don’t have kids and I said I can’t afford it. She was surprised to hear that. I was making 20k a year at the time and spending 8k a year on tuition leaving me with 1000 a month for all my living expenses.\n Upvotes: 5", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 17:\nText: I know an almost billionaire who is very very sweet. He kept his oceanfront condo for his mother in law to stay at for like month a year, and went to it every day to feed the stray cats who lived around it. The place is paid off mind you but has high fees, a paid parking spot, utilities ect cost almost 20 grand a year.\nUpvotes: 833", + " Reply 1:\n Text: > and went to it every day to feed the stray cats who lived around it", + "This is actually how I judge rich people. When you have hundreds of millions, paying for things really isn't that generous even if they're expensive and seem lavish by normal standards.", + "Now time.. time is another thing. Nobody has ever managed to spend any amount of money and get more time in a day than anybody else. ", + "A rich guy that spends time feeding stray cats to make someone else feel better is a nice guy.\n Upvotes: 438", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Good guy!\n Upvotes: 44", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Feeding the stray cats every day....This made me melt! But I hope all of those cats are safe outside.\n Upvotes: 40", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 18:\nText: There is a large liquor store near me, they have VERY expensive bottles in the back room.", + "One Xmas I was standing in line. The man in front of me, had one case of wine, 12 bottles of various variety. ", + "The checker said..... OK that will be $27,455.", + "WtF??! Guy hands over his Credit card.\nFollowed him out, Drove away in a Bentley.\nUpvotes: 741", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Still wasn't very nice of you to steal that guy's Bentley!\n Upvotes: 588", + " Reply 2:\n Text: My credit card will not even let me spend 27k. \n Upvotes: 18", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 19:\nText: [deleted]\nUpvotes: 721", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I had a friend whose parents obscenely wealthy. Like, she’d pay $100k every year to bring her horses from Canada to FL for the summer to ride at the stable I was working at, and her horses were worth $300k+. She offered to bring me back with her to Canada to take care of her 3 horses full time lol.", + "She’d always take the free stuff and pass it along to me. It was awesome to use- I never could have afforded it otherwise. I had no idea how much they got!\n Upvotes: 517", + " Reply 2:\n Text: They probably want them to advertise for free. Be seen wearing their shoes or hat. Like an influencer among their rich friends. Like when liquor brands give out free tee shirts.\n Upvotes: 29", + " Reply 3:\n Text: [Not this guy.](https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/3a095a58-be75-41dd-b47d-9d8c993e3c4a/gif)\n Upvotes: 18", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 20:\nText: Friend’s wealthy parents were going to give me a set of furniture for free—until I wound up moving cross country; couldn’t accept it.", + "Before I was to take it, I asked for the manufacturer so I could take measurements for my house, to make it all fit.", + "They responded, “oh, we’re not sure, it’s pretty old.”  Here I thought it was maybe from the 70’s.", + "Yes, it was from the 70s. The fuckin 1870s, from France, and it was all handmade Louis XV pieces.", + "When I showed my home decor-obsessed mother, she appraised it all. Some were north of $5000, just for a small hallway desk. ", + "We’re both upset about it to this day. \nUpvotes: 707", + " Reply 1:\n Text: You sure about that date? Louis XV died in 1774, maybe they meant Louis Napoleon?\n Upvotes: 165", + " Reply 2:\n Text: The Keno brothers would've had fits..\n Upvotes: 13", + " Reply 3:\n Text: > The fuckin 1870s, from France, and it was all handmade Louis XV pieces", + "that'd be 1770s. 1870s was Napoleon III\n Upvotes: 13", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 21:\nText: I live not far from an old (now abandoned) castle in France. It was bought decades ago by a Chinese couple, they had the staircase taken out and shipped to China and just left the place and never returned. It’s been neglected since.\nUpvotes: 628", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Wow I’d love to know which was it what an insult\n Upvotes: 159", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Now that's selfish out of touch wealthy behaviour on a ridiculous level. Bought just so they could flex on people that their staircase is shipped from France or like... what\n Upvotes: 62", + " Reply 3:\n Text: that literally made my lungs deflate. that’s devastating on so many levels\n Upvotes: 51", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 22:\nText: Had one of the outside salesmen drop in and we were talking about clothes for some reason. He said he donates his clothes to charity every year so he doesn't buy the \"very expensive shirts\"... his shirts are $300 each. Then he tells me he does buy \"decent\" shoes though. He showed me a company online where most of the shoes cost more than my car. How do we work for the same company and live that differently?\nUpvotes: 597", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Ever wonder how important sales is to your company? Don’t.\n Upvotes: 335", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I have, quite a few times now, found Saville Row men's shirts and tailored pieces that were not fake and I always wondered \"Who is donating this tailored stuff?!\" and now I know.\n Upvotes: 13", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Could he donate the shirts to you?\n Upvotes: 6", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 23:\nText: Contactor here. lady did not like the shape of the pool at the new house.Gets the job to change the shape. Does the job. So I tell her we can guarantee the workmanship for 5 years, but not any longer. She says cool, we are only here for 3\nUpvotes: 545", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Stupid question for people who know more about house prices than my poor ass: ", + "Does wealthy people moving houses every few years impact the market? Because rich people moving into middle class or poor regions do fuck up the local market...\n Upvotes: 9", + " Reply 2:\n Text: lol that’s similar to a gag on Silicon Valley of a tech guy speedrunning wasting his money, where he buys a house & moves the pool a few feet but then realized it looked better before & moves it back.\n Upvotes: 3", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 24:\nText: When being surprised that airlines will allow a larger-looking backpack in the overhead, he said \"Oh, it's been so long since I've flown commercially, I had no idea.\" ", + "\nHe said it in such a shy manner like he was embarrassed to say he flies privately. This is a 75 year old that looks like he's a regular middle class Joe and gives off no hint that he's extremely wealthy.\nUpvotes: 532", + " Reply 1:\n Text: THIS is what I’m used to seeing in the wealthy people I know. This perfectly sums them up in two ways: ", + "1. They are often embarrassed by their wealth (the wife of a friend of mine made him sell an exotic car he had just bought because she thought it was to “show-off”. They would also correct their kids anytime they would let it slip out that they had a private jet or homes in other countries.\n2. They are often out of touch when it comes to things that most people experience (like riding commercial). When I was in college, I would see this almost every time I interacted with a good friend’s parents (they had a net worth in the low hundreds of millions)- his mother point out that my car tires were starting to bald and then would be completely shocked when I said that I didn’t have the money to replace four tires. Another time they invited me to go on vacation with them and she couldn’t wrap her head around the idea that I didn’t have money on hand for plane tickets to Europe lol.\n Upvotes: 417", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Is it also possible he just hasn't flown in so long ? Finances could go the other way...or just doesn't like flying.\n Upvotes: 38", + " Reply 3:\n Text: “What do you mean we have to take off our shoes?”", + "This was someone who traveled every month or two, and when airports had been requiring it for over ten years. They simply hadn’t even thought about commercial flights in all of that time.\n Upvotes: 6", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 25:\nText: In 1994, I watched the CEO and founder of my employer, with an estimated net worth of at least $100 million, drop a twenty-dollar bill and other bills on the sidewalk. He glanced at it and then kept walking.\nUpvotes: 461", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I've done the same with a penny on a busy sidewalk, so I understand *perfectly*\n Upvotes: 486", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Let's say an average person would pick up a quarter if they saw it on the sidewalk. For Bill Gates, a similar sum would be $45,000. If you wouldn't bend over for anything less than a quarter, you would expect Bill Gates to not bend over for anything less than 45 grand.\n Upvotes: 166", + " Reply 3:\n Text: That's trickle down economics in action baby\n Upvotes: 101", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 26:\nText: A guy I served at a bar paid me to let him keep drinking at the bar after close while he waited for his ride.\nUpvotes: 444", + " Reply 1:\n Text: As an attendee of a dinner paid for by a boss, after closing the staff drove a big group of us to our next stop of the evening -- in their personal cars -- because taxis and uber weren't a thing in that town. I felt a little bad about it, but the boss paid them well.\n Upvotes: 173", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 27:\nText: Well, this may not be a \"rich thing\", I don't know, maybe an unexpected rich thing, but it was memorable. One year about 15 years ago, I was taking some vacation days right before Christmas. I took my AR-15 down to the Scottsdale Gun Club shooting range, which is a pretty public range that also rents guns.", + "So I'm in my lane with my AR and a few handguns, shooting away. Next lane to me I notice two elderly guys, one in a suit, one dressed more casually. They're shooting a pistol, like a .38 or 9mm. I can't help noticing the guy in the suit looks familiar. 10 minutes later, I realize who it is, it's the self-made billionaire founder and owner of Discount Tire company. I know him because my wife worked there and I'd seen him at their annual company Christmas parties. Super nice guy, first name is Bruce. Basically the richest person in Arizona.", + "So when I next have a chance, I get his attention, and he's all smiles because he's a nice guy, super friendly, shakes my hand, etc.", + "Like an idiot I'm trying to talk to him and tell him my wife works there, etc, which is silly because we're in an active shooting range with hearing protection on and he's like 80. Anyways, I notice as he's addressing me, he keeps kind of peeking around me, into my lane. I notice he's eyeing my AR, which is picatinny'd out, has a bipod, and looks badass. Noticing this, I step aside and gesture to him if he'd like to hold it. I give him a quick runthrough of the magazine operation, trigger, charging handle, and safety. He's watching and grinning. Then I hand it to him, and hand him a mag and show him how to load it. By now the other guy he was with has stopped shooting and is now watching us.", + "Mr. Billionaire steps into my lane, squeezes off about 10 rounds at the paper target, his smile increasing with each one. Then he turns, puts down the rifle and turns to me with a huge smile, clasps my shoulder and gives me a vigorous handshake. I give him a quick salute and he goes back to his friend, they zip up their gun and head out of the range area back into the main showroom. So I finish my session, I'm there for maybe 20 more minutes, then I pack up and get ready to leave.", + "As I leave the range area and exit back into the main showroom, I find that the other guy is now there waiting for me. He shakes my hand and starts thanking me profusely, saying \"Mr. Halle really enjoyed that.\" (Mr. Halle is what everyone called him.). He pulls out a small notebook and asks me for my name, my wife's name. So I say, \"sure\" and give him that info.", + "I then stop to ask him what happened, what was he doing there? What was that all about? He tells me that this is an annual tradition for Mr. Halle. His wife hates guns, and won't let him own one, but once a year, he's allowed to go down to the range and rent a pistol, and fire it, and this was that time. (meanwhile this dude could afford to buy the building we're in 100 times over.) He thanks me and tells me again how much it meant to him, I say, OK, cool, and then we part company.", + "I go home and that evening tell my wife the story, she's like, \"That's cool.\" but doesn't think too much of it.", + "A few weeks go by, and one day she's at work, and her phone rings, it's Billionaire's assistant. \"Are you at your desk? Mr. Halle is on his way down.\"", + "She's frozen with panic and like \"WTF?\" There's like 2,000 people at that office and why is he coming to see her? So 2 minutes later, he shows up, and he's got a big box of stuff with him. He starts by greeting her and begins telling her the story about me and the shooting range. After she stops panicking, and relaxes, he comes into her cubicle and, pulls up a chair and starts chatting her up about the photos of our kids, starts asking about me, photos from vacations, cruises, etc. and various other stuff. He tells her again how glad he was he ran into me.", + "The box he brought is full of gifts for our kids, toy cars, books, stuffed animals, and other tire-related stuff. Nothing real fancy, just some thoughtful gifts. He clearly had done research because he knew we had 2 boys and he knew where to find her cubicle, so he'd checked it out before he approached her.", + "And that's my story. I guess it goes to show money can't buy everything and sometimes even billionaires could use a little kindness, and appreciate it.\nUpvotes: 428", + " Reply 1:\n Text: That's a great little story! You've made that old man's year, something he'll think back to regularly. Kudos to you...\n Upvotes: 49", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I have many great stories about Mr. Halle as well. I was with them for 25 years until recently and probably know your wife. There’s a lot of negativity towards billionaires but he was cut from a different cloth.\n Upvotes: 31", + " Reply 3:\n Text: TY for posting this🥰 I’m logging off reddit for the night on this happy note!\n Upvotes: 24", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 28:\nText: Think that a banana costs $10.\nUpvotes: 410", + " Reply 1:\n Text: There’s always money in the banana stand.\n Upvotes: 161", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Underrated show and everyone should watch it\n Upvotes: 27", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I have an aunt who is a multimillionaire. When my grandma died, she dispersed money to the family members to cover the costs of making it to the funeral and hotels and all that. For plane tickets and hotel rooms for 2 nights for my dad, my brother and I, she asked “Is $20k enough?”\nIt reminded me of that line.\n Upvotes: 7", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 29:\nText: My soon-to-be mother in-law asked me and my fiance, her son, if we knew that some people don’t have reliable transportation to get to college, which causes them to miss class and/or show up late. Apparently, her most recent appointment as the chair of a teacher education program at a university has been very eye opening for her.\nUpvotes: 390", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Oh lord. This is not going to end well.\n Upvotes: 50", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Obviously there are many real challenges with limited solutions that cause this. But, I wanted to share one slightly funny example that is not like the cases...", + "Someone in my family is a professor and they had these three students who were continually 20-30 mins late for class. After several classes, they enquired about the issue.", + "Apparently, the students thought it would be a good idea to get an apartment near the beach and then take an uber to class every day. They didn't realize that when they googled the commute time on the weekend that they were apartment hunting that it would be a much longer and unpredictable commute during rush hour traffic.\n Upvotes: 24", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 30:\nText: Years ago I helped coordinate an event in the Cayman Islands for my job for the companies main clients. I worked closely with a small business that sets up events. Not only did they make my work infinitely easier, but they offered us discounts on several events. Really good people that would work around the clock to make sure everything was getting set up properly. ", + "On the island, right before we were going to one of the events, my boss's wife tells my boss (and me indirectly, always got the feeling she did not like talking to me) that we need to get a discount on the upcoming event. She was not involved in the setting up process and didn't even know any details or the costs involved. She just wanted the discount. It was a private catamaran tour which ended with swimming with the stingrays for a few hours and it was for about 20 people. ", + " I had to call the company and ask them for the discount while apologizing profusely. The boss's wife wanted to knock $4,000 off the total. After a lot of conversation and back and fourth I got the discount. I was disgusted with the look on her face after I told her we got the discount. For the rest of the trip I stayed away from her, as I knew that she would continuously ask for me to fight for discounts, just because. ", + "When she passed, I looked her up and found out that not only was she rich, she was Texas oil baroness rich. Money edging towards the billions. $4,000.00 is nothing to that family, like finding pennies in your couch cushions. My boss and his wife had kids who felt neglected and the oldest would, without fail, destroy something expensive. I was in the room when a secretary told the wife that her son had destroyed another antique roadster (the boss collected them). She barely shrugged her shoulders. ", + "I think she just wanted the discount because she was such an empty person, maybe the power trip makes them feel something.\nUpvotes: 371", + " Reply 1:\n Text: My mom always responds to stories like this with “how do you think the rich stay rich?”\n Upvotes: 89", + " Reply 2:\n Text: > maybe the power trip makes them feel something.", + "yeah that is definitely a thing, especially among the inherited non-working rich\n Upvotes: 8", + " Reply 3:\n Text: So sad for you having to experience someone like that. Probably why some stay so rich, by being so tight with their money #entitled\n Upvotes: 2", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "", + "\nTitle: What is a \"rich person thing\" you would be totally into if you became rich", + "Comment 1:\nText: Going on multiple vacations a year\nUpvotes: 24152", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Summering\n Upvotes: 8313", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Traveling in general - are they vacations if it's a lifestyle?\n Upvotes: 418", + " Reply 3:\n Text: You can do that if you live in Europe without being rich\n Upvotes: 151", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 2:\nText: Secret passages in my home.\nUpvotes: 19354", + " Reply 1:\n Text: And a fireman pole.\n Upvotes: 2655", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I saw a video recently of a house with a big hidden door that opens up on one wall of their living room and their huge Christmas tree slides in there when it’s time to put it away for the year. No undecorating, no boxing it up. Literally 30 seconds and it’s gone until next year. Your comment reminded me of that.\n Upvotes: 1470", + " Reply 3:\n Text: My friend used to own a house with an unfinished basement. He turned the basement into an entertainment room.", + "In this entertainment room we're two bookshelves, one of them acted as a hidden door.", + "He kept his safe and other valuables hidden in this secret room. I thought it was pretty cool.\n Upvotes: 646", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 3:\nText: Retiring early.\nUpvotes: 15458", + " Reply 1:\n Text: My friend's ex-wife inherited several million dollars when her father died (which was after they divorced) and retired in her mid 40s. She was running her own (small) business at the time and sold the business, but she also owned the building the business was based in and leased it to the new owners of the business. So she now has that income on top of her millions of dollars. My friend doesn't know the exact amount she inherited, but says he'd be surprised if it wasn't at least 5 to 7 million.", + "My friend said she remodelled her entire house after getting the inheritance as well and paid off the remaining mortgage. That sounds like a pretty sweet situation to be in.\n Upvotes: 2092", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I did this. Retired at 40.\n Upvotes: 1934", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Exactly. I like my job, but if I didn’t need the money, there lots of things I would enjoy more and would do more of if I didn’t have such a large amount of my waking hours consumed by work.", + "I know there are folks saying “I wouldn’t retire early even if I could.” From conversations with people with that perspective, they seem to mostly fall into a few categories: define themselves by their job; define themselves by the amount of money they make; lack interests outside work (often in conjunction with one or both of the first two); lack imagination or awareness of things they could do besides work for money; genuinely love what they do purely for the work itself (pretty rare). There are no doubt some who just don’t really care for their home and/family and would rather spend their time at a job than spend more time at home. And there may be many other reasons, but my experience says most fall into the first four groups (or combinations thereof).\n Upvotes: 266", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 4:\nText: Hiring a personal chef\nUpvotes: 13296", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Oh that's a good one! \nI was gonna say buying food, but why stop there when you can also have someone cook the food!\n Upvotes: 1920", + " Reply 2:\n Text: If I were legitimately suddenly rich, my sister has a culinary degree. She learned that she hated working in a restaurant kitchen but I know she loves cooking and she's a good cook. I would probably pay her to cook for us 5 times a week or something. Give her a good job without crazy hours doing what she enjoys without the constant stress and pressure of a restaurant.\n Upvotes: 1136", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Bingo, hire someone to handle the shopping and cooking/meal planning. Along with a housekeeper who comes and tidies up every day, it'd be freakin awesome.\n Upvotes: 516", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 5:\nText: Paying people to do all of the \"chores\" of being a grown up: scheduling appointments, paying my bills, cleaning my home, cooking my food, running errands, buying clothes, maintaining my home, etc.\nUpvotes: 11380", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Yes. Someone please just take the mental load.\n Upvotes: 2708", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Personal assistant. Ooooo❤️❤️❤️❤️\n Upvotes: 655", + " Reply 3:\n Text: My husband just retired last year. He’s 15 years older than me. I still work FT in critical care, so I’m tired all.the.time. Anyway, since he’s been home he’s like, “wow, there’s a lot to deal with in running our lives.” 🤦‍♀️ ", + "I’m trying not to be resentful. He’s one of the good guys, but sometimes out to lunch.\n Upvotes: 44", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 6:\nText: The giant kitchens with an island in the center and high-end appliances.", + "It's not like I like cooking. I just love giant kitchens.", + "​", + "Edit to add: I'm having so much fun conversing in the replies, you guys made my day! Let's all gather in my big fancy kitchen when I get it and have an all-out *feast*\nUpvotes: 11338", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Same. A new Viking stove and all top of the line appliances.\n Upvotes: 1189", + " Reply 2:\n Text: The real rich usually have 2 kitchen, one to show to the guests, one used by thestaff\n Upvotes: 193", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Same but I do love cooking!\n Upvotes: 75", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 7:\nText: Spa days!\nUpvotes: 6791", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I've done this once! Didn't think of myself as a spa guy... I definitely am. Saving money to do it again this year.\n Upvotes: 1168", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Why is everyone too lazy to say the whole term? It's \"spaghetti day\"\n Upvotes: 372", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Spa…? Spaghetti? Are you talking about spaghetti days?\n Upvotes: 248", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 8:\nText: Hire a stylist. I still dress like a hungover college student as a functioning adult.\nUpvotes: 6175", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I would be cool with just being able to shop at boutique clothing shops instead of target\n Upvotes: 856", + " Reply 2:\n Text: This is me. I would kill to have someone help me figure out what to wear. And it wouldn't hurt to have someone do my hair, nails, feed me a proper diet, and help me stay in shape. ", + "A team of people to help me look like I got my shit together. All of that please.\n Upvotes: 435", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Feel that. Although I kinda think we don't really need a stylist, considering that most fashion influencers I see are just some sort of joggingpants and oversized coats + an unholy expensive designer bags. Maybe we just need a verrrrry expensive bag.", + "Edit, because autocorrect mixed languages.\n Upvotes: 189", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 9:\nText: Not worrying about money. That seems so nice\nUpvotes: 5899", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Right? I don't need chefs and msids- I just wanna go to the grocery and buy whatever I need for the week AND make my car payment! Lol\n Upvotes: 976", + " Reply 2:\n Text: You don't have to get to \"rich\" for a taste of that. I found that I didn't really change how I lived from when I made $50k to when I made $100k+ and once I hit $100k, I wasn't really fretting about money anymore. ", + "We can go on a couple of vacations a year without worrying about saving for it. We can go out to eat/drink about as often as we would like. We can do fun things when we want that cost money. And none of it is a worry. ", + "Sure, I absolutely know we could be living much better with more money, but I'm not worried about money.\n Upvotes: 81", + " Reply 3:\n Text: It is nice, I grew up poor, was poor all thru college, often having to scrape together change for some ramen or mac n cheese at the store. Now I just buy what I want and don't worry what it costs...actually not quite true, if its fresh fruit or something (like I want strawberries and its Feb) I don't give a fuck i'll just more. But if its choosing between store brand which is 1/2 the price of the name brand and its the same shit? I buy the store brand every time, why spend money you don't have to?\n Upvotes: 20", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 10:\nText: [deleted]\nUpvotes: 4872", + " Reply 1:\n Text: > packing PBJ sandwiches in my pockets, etc.", + "Get one of those backpacks with the built-in spine protector. Perhaps not inkeeping with the poor person style of skiiing, but it's all the storage you need to avoid expensive on-slope food, plus a bit of extra safety.\n Upvotes: 874", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Ever skied a private club? It’s a next level experience. Got to go to one for an alumni event through my university and it was amazing but the initiation fee is $60k\n Upvotes: 306", + " Reply 3:\n Text: The poor way is the way - you’re rich already my friend\n Upvotes: 130", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 11:\nText: Getting massages and self care days.\nUpvotes: 2604", + " Reply 1:\n Text: No question here. I have chronic back pain in my 30s. I’d get at least two a day in between PT with a trainer.\n Upvotes: 258", + " Reply 2:\n Text: My husband and I have very little disposable income, but we still set aside some money for massages once a month or so. I'm a student (meaning I sit like an idiotic shrimp in front of the computer or my books all day) and my husband is a chef so we deemed it necessary to spend money on even though it's so expensive. Totally worth it!\n Upvotes: 10", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Massages are where it's at, for relaxation and physical pain relief. I got to go a bunch a few years ago and I'd kill to have massages be part of my weekly routine.\n Upvotes: 8", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 12:\nText: Hiding appliances. Fridge in the walls is peak rich ppl shit\nUpvotes: 2407", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Fridges, dishwashers etc. with cabinet fronts are standard in Europe and anything but fancy. Even a cheap rental would have a built in oven and fridge inside a cabinet.", + "\nIt's just that north america seems to be obsessed with stainless steel appliances and considers it a feature to be put on display. The attitude in Europe is the exact opposite, no one wants to see their appliances\n Upvotes: 830", + " Reply 2:\n Text: See my dumb ass would get super high in my ridiculously lush smoke sess room and forget what wall is my fridge. Lol\n Upvotes: 23", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Nah, peak Rich is: **You don’t know where the fridge is, and you don’t care; you just know who goes and gets stuff from it.**\n Upvotes: 5", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 13:\nText: Tailored bespoke clothing.\nUpvotes: 2383", + " Reply 1:\n Text: You're halfway there using \"bespoke\" in a sentence. Stay classy.\n Upvotes: 1016", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Bespoke is tough, but tailored can totally be done. It's not uncommon for me to buy second-hand/upcycled and then take it to my Tailor for adjustment, and I still pay less than off-the-rack.\n Upvotes: 137", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I own a business that does pretty well and I periodically do nice stuff for myself. I recently met with a tailor who made me a suit, a sport coat with matching trousers, and four dress shirts, most of which was done in his shop by hand. Absolutely a game-changer for me, I feel so confident and comfortable in these clothes. No labels either, just subtle, personalized touches like my initials embroidered on the cuffs and colorful silk linings in the jackets. 10/10, highly recommend if you’ve got the funds available.\n Upvotes: 10", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 14:\nText: Generosity. I'd love to be the person who could afford to give every server, every delivery person, a huge life-changing tip. I'd love to be able to donate to charities and homeless shelters and women's shelters. The only thing I'd like more is if they didn't need such generosity in the first place.\nUpvotes: 2341", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This… I always said if I hit one of those mega lottery, the first thing I would do is give each co-worker money. We are a small company and we all talk about our struggles and I would love to ease the burden of them all. We aren’t all friends but we all do get along. ", + "Pay off mortgages, pay for someone’s child’s tuition, just give them straight up cash, whatever it is that would help.\n Upvotes: 333", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Imagine being so rich, that instead of doing drunk Amazon orders you just browse Gofundme for funerals and healthcare or a new bike for someone\n Upvotes: 26", + " Reply 3:\n Text: This was the first thing I thought of too ;-; after that luxury stuff like going on vacation or being able to spend on myself would also be nice aha but it would be amazing to see the stress melt off my friends and family’s faces after helping someone w mortgages, college loans, medical bills etc \n Upvotes: 9", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 15:\nText: maid at home.\nUpvotes: 1854", + " Reply 1:\n Text: [deleted]\n Upvotes: 1090", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Cleaning services are surprisingly cheaper than most people think. I thought my wife was batshit when she suggested it, but we have someone come once every couple weeks for like 120/visit. It's not pocket change but it's not insane like I thought it'd be. And for us, keeping the house tidy is something we're both bad at and is a constant source of tension, so the tradeoff between dollars and QoL is worth it. Ymmv of course.\n Upvotes: 220", + " Reply 3:\n Text: It’s crazy that in India Even a Middle Class Will have a Maid , Cook and a Driver .\n Upvotes: 21", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 16:\nText: Preventative healthcare. \nUpvotes: 1739", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Dental work. I can finally get all those caps I need and can't afford.\n Upvotes: 530", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Tell me you're American without telling me you're American...\n Upvotes: 40", + " Reply 3:\n Text: There’s people that have private on call doctors for $100,000 a year. The doctors have hospital privileges and only need a few clients to be super rich.\n Upvotes: 20", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 17:\nText: Go to different countries, then stay and eat at luxury restaurants and hotel\nUpvotes: 1644", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I'd do that but also hire someone to take me around to thr best street food and local spots. My partner is Dominican. We always have a guy who drives us around. We eat the best food because he knows where it's at.\n Upvotes: 170", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Get there by private yacht. Fly inland on a helicopter. Luxury hotel optional.\n Upvotes: 4", + " Reply 3:\n Text: This is it!!\n Upvotes: 3", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 18:\nText: I was dating a guy, in college, who came from a pretty privileged background.", + "We were having lunch and, when he took a sip of his OJ, he immediately spit it back out into the bottle, pulled my bottle from my hand and said “don’t drink it, it’s gone bad!”", + "It hadn’t gone bad, he had only ever had fresh squeezed OJ before, so Tropicana tasted like rot to him.", + "I could definitely get used to that.\nUpvotes: 1279", + " Reply 1:\n Text: 😂 It was sweet of him to try and “save” you from the Tropicana too.\n Upvotes: 804", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Tropicana does kind of taste like rot compared to fresh squeezed juice tbh. Doesn't have to be expensive either if you live somewhere oranges thrive and just squeeze them yourself.\n Upvotes: 230", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Wow. I can’t even imagine the kind of upbringing this guy must have enjoyed.\n Upvotes: 10", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 19:\nText: All bills set to auto pay\nUpvotes: 1262", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I made a bill “escrow” checking account, it has been a game changer. I sat down and made a list of all my recurring bills and worked out how much I spent on each over a year, summed it all up, and then worked out how much per paycheck would get me that amount. I padded it out a tiny bit, and seeded the account with a bit more so it can get started. I asked my boss to direct deposit that amount into the account, and the rest into checking.", + "Now all my recurring bills get paid out of this account on auto pay and I hardly ever think about it. Every year or two I redo the math and adjust what I pay into the account, but otherwise not much is needed. It is a huge stress relief. My checking account now shows me exactly what I have left to spend till the next paycheck. And I never have to worry about making rent. I’m surprised this is not more common\n Upvotes: 720", + " Reply 2:\n Text: You don't have to be rich to do this. You need to have a budget and live on self control.\n Upvotes: 235", + " Reply 3:\n Text: How do your bills work? Mine have been direct debit since I was a teenager, I don’t think I’ve ever manually paid anything.\n Upvotes: 56", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 20:\nText: Swimming in my money bin and never letting my nephews swim in it but I would allow them to have free reign with my pilot and plane.\nUpvotes: 1245", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Hahaha the duck tails fantasy!\n Upvotes: 134", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Fun fact… i once had the chance to plunge my hand into a massive jar of coins (mostly pennies) and let it “swim” like Scrooge McDuck. The reality of my fingers _SMASHING_ into what felt like a solid block of concrete made me lost a real part of my childhood innocence. ", + "Also, i once heard someone say that only Scrooge is able to swim in the money like it’s water because only he “deserves it” so it works differently for him. It’s a giant metaphor that the rules are different for the wealthy. 🤯\n Upvotes: 86", + " Reply 3:\n Text: You Scrooge.\n Upvotes: 26", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 21:\nText: Understated expensive. No tacky brand labels, no loud or ugly branding. Just beautifully tailored pieces.\nUpvotes: 1178", + " Reply 1:\n Text: With a knowledgeable dresser/tailor to help pick pieces that fit and compliment my figure.\n Upvotes: 256", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I like the whole idea of \"stealth wealth\". Having high quality stuff that isn't gaudy or flashy. Like \"if you know, you know\"", + "\nThere are high end gshock watches made of titanium that cost several thousand dollars,  but if you didn't know watches you would never look twice \n Upvotes: 22", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Yeah I live in London and in the proper Uber wealthy areas like Holland Park, Knightsbridge, and Belgravia they obviously look super rich but there is no brand name stuff. It’s like how they dress in Succession.", + "My grandparents are rich (like no more than 5 million), and also I know some other rich people with the same amount of money. A lot of the clothes they wear aren’t particularly expensive. Just good quality stuff without flashy branding for the London types, and my grandparents live in the country and have horses etc so just wear normal clothes. \n(I’m very poor and not hugely close to my grandparents so I doubt I’ll be inheriting all their money). Most rich people just look well put together. The expensive stuff they do wear you wouldn’t necessarily know except it’s well fitted and is made of better quality material. They don’t buy into trends and tend to buy things to last. ", + "\nI myself am poor sadly but when I buy clothes I try to buy things that are more classic, or at least not hugely trendy. I still inject some personality so it’s not all beiges but I focus on - does it fit well, will I still love this in a year’s time rather than is it just for this season, and how can I style it to go with what I already have? ", + "If I was suddenly rich I’d carry on doing the same but it’d be actually super good quality. I’m sure I’d buy some cool interesting pieces but not all the time. Maybe once a season. You could focus on buying from small local designers you knew didn’t use sweat shops.\n Upvotes: 12", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 22:\nText: Patron of the arts!\nUpvotes: 991", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Same. I love seeing theater and symphony performances, but I'd absolutely get better seats, donate to organizations, and sponsor tickets for people who can't afford to go. \n Upvotes: 88", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Those artists would eat well if I was blessed with money.\n Upvotes: 22", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I would love to be one of the $10k a year donors to the San Diego zoo\n Upvotes: 17", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 23:\nText: I’d get all personally made bras. Perfect comfortable no slip or movement, just for me, 100% every bras made for my body.\nUpvotes: 787", + " Reply 1:\n Text: That sounds amazing. I HATE bras\n Upvotes: 99", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Whoa. That’s like my dream. Maybe sewn on to all the tops, so you don’t have to take off two things separately.\n Upvotes: 85", + " Reply 3:\n Text: 100% this. The closest I’ve gotten to this was getting properly measured at a mall and realizing I actually have massive cups but a small under-boob circumference. Suddenly the bras I started buy became properly supportive. Changed my life. If you’re in the uk/Europe Belle Lingerie has loads of sizes…\n Upvotes: 29", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 24:\nText: A personal trainer\nUpvotes: 756", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Might not help your motivation but I am a 400lb man who bought 20 lb dumbbells today off Amazon delivered to my home and I'm going to just try YouTube trainers for dumbbells until I find one I enjoy and just know that I might not like many of them but will eventually find one I enjoy the content of.", + "Idk, you do you but they are out there for that purpose, ultimately.\n Upvotes: 37", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Literally this, maybe doubles as a dietician? ", + "Someone to help though...\n Upvotes: 19", + " Reply 3:\n Text: PT shouldn't be too expensive, and you don't really need them for a long time, just a month or two, twice a week, to show you how things are done. I've had one like that because otherwise I wouldn't even know where to begin with, and they'll often have diet advice :D\n Upvotes: 5", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 25:\nText: Travel.", + "ETA: I got kids y’all. Stop recommending cheap travel when we all know kids in a car, hostel, motel, anywhere public is not cheap. Even if you’re an adult living in a van down by the river, it gets expensive fast not being able to store things for future use.\nUpvotes: 612", + " Reply 1:\n Text: [deleted]\n Upvotes: 45", + " Reply 2:\n Text: We do one international trip one year, then a domestic one the next. Hiring a petsitter is surprisingly expensive.\n Upvotes: 9", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Probably not what you were thinking when you said travel, but hitting the road with all your kids and some camping gear and visiting national parks or something is one of the cheapest and funnest ways to travel within the US. Would be difficult with very young children though. Although tbh hotels could possibly be cheaper if you cram everyone into a single room and pack sleeping bags. \n Upvotes: 7", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 26:\nText: Owning dozens of classic/old cars\nUpvotes: 611", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Triples makes it safe.\n Upvotes: 164", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Unlimited budget would get me an airplane hanger sized shop with separate mechanical, electrical, welding/fab/engine rebuilding, & machining areas, all with separate matching snap on toolboxes with specific specialty & diag tooling for which area in the shop it's in. Then I could still not have enough time to build my current project cars but it would look fucking sick while 4 vehicles sit on jackstands lol\n Upvotes: 15", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Facts I need a 1970 challenger in plum crazy\n Upvotes: 6", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 27:\nText: Owning a very very VERY large plot of land\nUpvotes: 568", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Huuuuge tracts of land\n Upvotes: 114", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I once did some work for a very wealthy person who was building a new house on a large plot of land. They couldn't effectively pull enough water from public services to irrigate their land, so they created three large ponds that they could draw from and act as a buffer. Well, they decided that they'd like to be able to swim in these ponds too, so they installed ozone aeration systems and filters, then had them all landscaped with spots to jump in and climb out, but integrated in so they looked well cared for but not unnatural.\n Upvotes: 106", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Or, as I like to call it in my own personal real estate pipe dream, \"Fuck Off Estates\".\n Upvotes: 12", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 28:\nText: A secret room. I’d love a bookcase leading to a bourbon room that had a pool table, a dart board, big screen tvs, leather furniture & musical instruments, \nUpvotes: 506", + " Reply 1:\n Text: One of the best parts of this would be sneaking in there and playing music when someone was in the adjacent room who didn't know about the secret room, and they'd wonder where the music was coming from.\n Upvotes: 14", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I want a small library, where one of the shelves opens to a path that leads to the actual library. \n Upvotes: 7", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I've always wanted a house with \"fever dream\" style architecture. Mismatched weird styles, non-sensical features. Hidden doors and passageways. Odd angles, colours and textures.", + "\nI recently met a dude who is renovating his place into one by slowly adding lots of weird features to an already odd layout. They have little tv nooks, lofts, a fire pole, indoor verandahs, lots of weird comic book styling. It's wild\n Upvotes: 7", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 29:\nText: owning a house\nUpvotes: 453", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Damn, this hit every Millennial and Zoomer in the gut. ", + "Especially when you're Gen Z and you lived in a suburban home, but grew up when everything was getting expensive and had the lingering sense of doom that adult you might not be able to afford the same sort of suburban home you grew up in.\n Upvotes: 83", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Owning a house \\*outright\\* even. Not having to even make mortgage payments would be incredible. ", + "Now if we could just get rid of personal property tax for people who only own one property.\n Upvotes: 12", + " Reply 3:\n Text: not even a house tbh all i want is to own a small condo unit :( and even that is completely out of reach\n Upvotes: 6", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 30:\nText: A chauffeur. I HATE to drive.\nUpvotes: 440", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Ridiculously rich people stuff: lobby for nice public transit. \n Upvotes: 63", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I'd be making midnight snack runs to Wawa in a chauffeured Rolls Royce and still come out ahead with all the money I'd save on uber eats fees!\n Upvotes: 14", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Can I be your chauffeur? I LOVE to drive. And also believe I am pretty good at it\n Upvotes: 9", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "", + "Comment 1:\nText: That rich people can afford to do things that save them money. Better health insurance and car insurance with lower deductibles. Higher quality food that keeps them healthy. Gym membership preventing future health incidences. Prompt car maintenance to avoid big repair costs down the line. Higher ed for better paying job….. the list goes on and on.\nUpvotes: 12506", + " Reply 1:\n Text: “Being poor is expensive.”\n Upvotes: 4881", + " Reply 2:\n Text: It’s like the story of the boots. Poor man buys a pair of boots for $10 because that’s all he can afford; rich man buys a pair of boots for $75 that are better made. Poor man’s boots wear out after three years, causing him to need to buy another $10 pair - that’s all he can afford. The rich man’s boots last him for 25 yrs. Poor man ends up spending more money than the rich man in the long run, because he cannot afford the nicer pair of boots that will last longer.\n Upvotes: 2019", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Prompt and preventative car maintenance is a HUGE thing it seems like nobody talks about. Losing access to a vehicle can be life-ruining for so many poor people.\n Upvotes: 499", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 2:\nText: The freedom it provides.", + "Freedom to not spend hours mowing their lawn, laundry, cleaning their own car, grocery shopping... Freedom to eat healthy, freedom to prioritize exercise, endless list..", + "Those of us that don't enjoy this freedom sacrifice our few hours on earth performing these mundane tasks.\nUpvotes: 10943", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Time is the ultimate luxury.\n Upvotes: 3624", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Also the more money you make the more freedom you have at work.  ", + "You can roll in whenever you want.  Take off early.  Extra long lunches.  ", + "As long as your work is getting done you won’t have any consequences.   Even if your work stops getting done you’ll have weeks before anyone cares. ", + "Where as the employee making $18 an hour will get written up for being 10 minutes late.  \n Upvotes: 1053", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Finding pleasure in the mundane is the way though. Mowing the lawn is literally zen for me.\n Upvotes: 487", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 3:\nText: I'm not rich by any stretch of the imagination, and it might not be a shock to others. But going on vacation. When I was a kid we just stayed home every summer. Never went anywhere, stayed generally within the same 200km radius of where I live. We didn't have a lot of money.", + "Now I go on vacation twice a year and I've been all over the world. 17 year old me would be in awe.\nUpvotes: 5897", + " Reply 1:\n Text: definitely this. traveling for the first time was a surreal experience.\n Upvotes: 756", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I remember being in secondary school and in 5th year all students would go on an international schooltrip. My parents worked so hard to be able to pay for me, because this was a 'once in a lifetime opportunity'. I went to London for a week (from The Netherlands). ", + "Now in my late 40s, not rich but comfortable, and I've been throughout all of Europe.\n Upvotes: 640", + " Reply 3:\n Text: This hurts so much to read rn. I'm a single mom, my daughters are 6 and 9 and we've never been on vacation. It was less noticeable in kindergarten, but now I notice the shame and sadness when my oldest answers with a shrug when we are asked where we are going this summer. We never go anywhere. ", + "God, pray for me that better times will come soon.\n Upvotes: 361", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 4:\nText: Read “Limbo” by Alfred Lombrano. Its a sociological look about “Straddlers”- people who grew up poor/blue collar and make it to the upper middle class/upper class. I am one of them. It talks about the strengths and weaknesses these people have. If you own a business or organization- you want these people working for you because they're always “hungry” for more and seeking out new ideas and opportunity but concerned about taking on too much risk. It also talks about how these folks have a lot of issues. Being a straddler you might find it both difficult to go back to your blue collar roots- finding it hard to relate to family and childhood friends because education, money, and experience have evolved your world view. While at the same time you’ll never fully fit in to the new upper class world you’ve worked your way into. Minor things like you didn’t grow up golfing so you can’t get in with the richer folks socially as easy, to bigger things like code switching accents or vocabulary, to suffering from constant imposter syndrome.\nUpvotes: 3716", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Thank you for this - I'd never heard of it but this described my path from rural SC poor kid into very comfortable tech exec in a way that helps me understand why I still can't figure out how to dress as elegantly as the other women in my strata. I will be reading this asap.\n Upvotes: 860", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Ok, scratched my way to middle class, slightly upper. I can’t get to the next stage in my career, and I think it’s because of that. I was interviewing for a CEO position (of a non profit, mind you), didn’t get it, was told post mortem that I had too much focus on the employees. That was the first I had heard that, and sorta glad I didn’t get that one. I would have probably been let go as I likely would tangle with the board. The board was filled with high level business owners and senior leadership. ", + "I can’t get past the empathy I have for people in the front line jobs, as I was one of those folks for some time. I was one of working poor, but only had to worry of myself at the time. I can’t imagine trying to provide beyond that at those wages. I was a VP of a division within a larger agency for 12 years, and longer in the same role lacking the fancy title.", + "I gave up and opened a consulting firm. I have been offered countless jobs since, however none at the top level. I am doing fine, but in my heart I know I could create an environment that supports the agency, the staff, and those we serve.", + "Such is life.\n Upvotes: 420", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Reminiscent of Ruby Payne's Framework for Understanding Poverty...in order to \"jump\" classes, you not only need the income, but also social \"guides\" to show you the ropes.\n Upvotes: 323", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 5:\nText: More like lower-middle class to upper-middle class, but it blew my mind when I realized many people I know now frequently pay to have their house cleaned, and grew up thinking that the cleaners being over was just a routine part of life. I was probably in my late 20s the first time I ever paid someone to clean. ", + "\nSame with things like moving, painting, house maintenance, stuff like that. I'm at a place where it makes more sense to save my time and pay for many of those things, but anytime I talk to my mom and mention it she assumes it's something I'm doing myself, because it never would have occurred to her to spend money on that and for most of her life she couldn't afford it.", + "\nIt's a pretty interesting divide just between the strata within middle class. \nUpvotes: 3435", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Also, when your house is made of nicer fixtures it cleans and stays clean easier. You can’t clean something enough if the material is just old and low quality so it has worn out :(\n Upvotes: 1236", + " Reply 2:\n Text: \"afford\" is such a weird term when you make more than your parents did. ", + "You could literally spend the money and not starve, but it takes a while for your mindset to open to things that seemed frivolous/extravagant back home.\n Upvotes: 248", + " Reply 3:\n Text: being able to afford movers... game changer\n Upvotes: 159", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 6:\nText: You know someone is really rich when they start emphasizing their humble roots. On their way up, they often try to hide it.\nUpvotes: 2805", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I'm reminded of Victoria \"Posh Spice\" Beckham trying to claim on camera that she came from humble beginnings, only to have her husband David barge in and force her to admit that she was driven to school in a Rolls Royce. ", + "'Humble' indeed.\n Upvotes: 1155", + " Reply 2:\n Text: The British comedian David Mitchell spends the entire first chapter of his memoir explaining how he's not privileged because his parents were not wealthy the first ten years of their marriage. \n Upvotes: 611", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Truer words were never spoken.", + "I grew up in the fields of Uttar Pradesh and the slums of Mumbai.", + "I spent my whole life trying to somehow prevent people from finding that about me. It would have been mortifying.", + "Now I make big bucks, comparatively, in finance in London. I am surrounded by people with Ph.D.'s, people who went to Oxford or Cambridge or Harvard or Stanford.", + "I now proudly proclaim my roots from the rooftops.", + "I will even show them my house in the village or the slum tenement I grew up in on Google maps\n Upvotes: 273", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 7:\nText: Money makes money.", + "We're buying some land that has a waterfall. We could build our dream house, airbnb it, and it could potentially pay for the house within 10 years.", + "The money to buy the land came from \"diversifying\" our assets, our financial portfolio.", + "We would take on some risk to build this house, getting another mortgage. But theoretically, if everything works, we wouldn't have spent anything but would get a free dream house, and more. For what? For almost nothing.", + "If we fucked up and lost our investment, burned the entire property down or what not, it'd still be fine. It wouldn't be life-ending. It'd be unfortunate but survivable.", + "When I was growing up, my mom would make ramen for a special family meal, and she would use 3 ramen packets for our family of 4. She would add rice to the ramen broth after when we were still hungry.", + "Once we used something, it would disappear. So we were frugal.", + "A financial disaster meant starving, losing your home, etc. I spent my $10 for the week wrong? I can't afford lunch anymore and gotta starve for a week.", + "I could have never imagined that once you get enough money, it just makes more money.", + "Einstein said that compound interest is the world's eighth wonder.", + "\"He who understands it, earns it. He who doesn't, pays it.\" ", + "You know when you're playing the Sims and in the beginning, you have to be careful about every dollar you spend? But after a certain point, when you're rich enough, it doesn't matter anymore, it's just numbers? That's what it's like for the most part. ", + "And you know how the game gets boring after you've bought everything in the game? ", + "The trick to getting rich life is that there will always be more expensive things that you can aspire to. Like I felt pretty good until I watched Owning Manhattan and was like hmm that Bad Bunny penthouse sure looks nice. ", + "But the key is to appreciate the things that money can't buy. Literally life, health, people, relationships, our planet, etc. ", + "Gratitude is a muscle, use it or lose it.\nUpvotes: 1522", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I need an IRL “rosebud” cheat code\n Upvotes: 128", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Great insight. Thank you.\n Upvotes: 107", + " Reply 3:\n Text: On buying the land: this. My family was pretty well off when I was a kid, but my grandfather literally, I mean LITERALLY, grew up in a shack with a dirt floor, no running water, and my great grandmother decided to marry my great grandfather because they had a pump and she no longer had to walk a quarter mile to the creek to get water. ", + "That was THREE generations ago. THREE. My grandfather went into the Navy, used the GI bill for college, joined a steel mill and eventually became president of one of the largest in the country. He taught my dad and his siblings how to save, how to invest, and my grandparents were pretty damn frugal in the early days. My dad and his siblings never wanted for everything and they did some awesome things (ski trips, boat ownership, trips to the cape) but it wasn't until my grandfather retired around 55 that they became really well off.", + "Generational wealth is extremely helpful. When my grandfather died I took my inheritance and invested it. ", + "My wife and I own a home, are looking at adding a deck and hiring a landscaper to make our backyard look amazing so we'll spend more time in it, and are considering buying a gorgeous Victorian in either NE or California. ", + "We're NOT what would be considered ultra high net worth, probably not even high net worth. But because my family took the time to show me how to invest, we are far better off than we'd be if I didn't know. Investing should be a high priority for anyone who can save a little.\n Upvotes: 83", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 8:\nText: While not rich rich .", + "\nI still see everything as min wage value.\nA can of coke ? Shit thats like 1/5th of an hour no way I'm buying that.", + "\nEating out ? No way in paying 4 hours to eat.", + "\nIgnoring the fact I earn way more than few times over min wage..can't get myself to spend stuff.", + "\nFunny is that people who never came from poverty don't seem to value  money as much. ", + "\nI had a guy going out to lunch at work .\nHe grown up in a home with a private swimming pool.", + "\nH  ordered a meal at lunch in a resturaunt..took one bite and said..nah I'm not hungry.. and paid the bill and we left..", + "\nBlew my mind.\nUpvotes: 1208", + " Reply 1:\n Text: When I was in college I worked at UPS unloading the semi trailers in the mornings. It took one hour to unload a full semi with packages stacked tight in every square inch. I was being paid $8 an hour at the time. ", + "For the longest time, every purchase I made was in Semi Trailer trucks. Like if I saw a shirt for $24, I would ask, \"is this shirt worth emptying 3 entire fucking semis?\" Definitely made me frugal.\n Upvotes: 505", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I considered myself successful when I had enough money to go to Taco Bell and order anything on the menu without considering the price.\n Upvotes: 192", + " Reply 3:\n Text: why do you see things in relation to minimum wage when your time is worth way more than minimum wage?\n Upvotes: 13", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 9:\nText: The richer you are, the more free stuff you get. Your account balances are so big that maintenance and overdraft fees are waived, and you occasionally get large bonuses simply for transferring some of your money from one account to another. Companies that are eager to do business with you provide you with free samples or even trips to their exotic locales.\nUpvotes: 1065", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Fuckin Bezos came to my chorus’ concert one year. We sold holiday socks with our logo to fundraise at the Christmas concerts. They ran out and gave him like five pair for free and I was like wtf he’s literally the richest person on the planet. And I who make $15/hr had to pay for my pair???\n Upvotes: 429", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Yes! I grew up poor and made good, and it’s so much cheaper not to be poor. First investing in things that last is cheaper than replacing yearly, but also now my employer pays for my phone and accountant and gym, my credit card company gives me perks for no reason and waives any fees, etc. It’s so much cheaper not to be poor.\n Upvotes: 267", + " Reply 3:\n Text: And you dont even have to be THAT rich.", + "Because I travel for work I have the highest elite status with Marriott. That in turn gets me the second lowest United status. Even that little bump in status gets me no charge economy plus, no charge checked bag, United Club access free once a year, Club access at a discount, and more. ", + "I just booked a room at one of the more expensive Marriott properties for a mini vacation. I got it at half the normal rate because of a \"thanks for being you\" offer. Thats on top of my 5 free nights and 5 room upgrades. ", + "Last time we were on a mini vacation we had a last minute change in plans. \"Can I get a late checkout?\" \"Absolutely, what time?\" \"4pm?\" \"Dont worry about it, just let us know when you leave.\"", + "Car rental? National Emerald Club. I walk out and pick my car. $44 a day flat. ", + "Through my job I came into contact with Million Air flight services. Long story short, I had a long (6 hour) layover coming back from Afghanistan at a relatively barren airport in Indiana. I walked over to the General aviation terminal and went to Million Air and handed them a card I had been given. \"Right this way sir\". Refreshments, sleeping chairs, TV, newspapers, power, internet. ", + "Travel gets a whole lot less sucky with even a slight upgrade.\n Upvotes: 154", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 10:\nText: They almost have a very different understanding of how the world works (and often more accurate) comparing to ordinary people.\nIt's like the world is a game. And they simply have a far better understanding of the rules and hacks.\nUpvotes: 1027", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This is going to get so downvoted but it’s a refreshing take\n Upvotes: 135", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Here’s the dark second part of this: they know, and they don’t care that the game is rigged in their favor. The ultimate divide and the reason why meaningful change won’t happen unless we take a bottom-up approach is that the wealthy of this country, while they may not state this outright, believe they are better than other people. For many of them, they see poor people as almost a different species, and that it basically isn’t worth helping them because poor people are too stupid or selfish to know how to help themselves properly.\n Upvotes: 103", + " Reply 3:\n Text: That presupposes \"ordinary people\" want to play the game. A lot of people do not want anything to do with that bullshit.\n Upvotes: 67", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 11:\nText: Ok so I got a job as a software engineer, I didn't win the lottery or marry into old money or anything, but: ", + "The first few years of working in a well paid career, I felt like I was going insane. It's hard to relate to your new co-workers when your hobbies are watching tv shows with friends and writing songs on a guitar your mentor gave you, and their hobbies are international travel, credit card hacking, and investing. ", + "My former boss once mentioned off-hand that she pays all the travel costs for her family and then her husband pays her his half once a year, and they had traveled a lot that year and he was sort of shocked to find out that his half for that year was FIFTEEN THOUSAND DOLLARS. Which he did have available to pay her. ", + "At that time I'd been in tech for 6 months and was very proud that I'd scraped together a $2k emergency fund for the first time in my life. ", + "Also, you get so much stuff for free as soon as you don't need it. My job paid for my monthly bus pass, my health insurance, even my morning coffee. That first job, they had a coffee shop in the lobby with two full time baristas that was totally free. Honestly, some of the best espresso of my life, and even when I had no money I was a coffee nerd. Two of my coworkers bought coffee at the coffee shop down the street every day anyway because they liked that coffee shop a little better. It was infuriating to be given all these perks that would have been life changing the second I was also paid enough to afford them without it being a struggle. ", + "Something worth noting: if you work in a well paid field like that, watch out for the people transitioning out of poverty. They were massively underpaying me and I technically knew that, but it was still so much more than I had ever made in my life that I couldn't bring myself to believe the actual numbers for entry level tech jobs. If it weren't for the unofficial women in tech group, who did a salary sharing spreadsheet and helped a ton of people advocate for raises and eventually got salary bands implemented, I would never have been brave enough to ask for what I was worth, and since raises are percentages that can impact your pay for the rest of your career. I try to pay it forward now.\nUpvotes: 925", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Also build up your emergency savings. I am not saying you have to ignore retirement investments but there are options that allow you to to tap funds in case of emergency.", + "If your well paid job is your only source of income - income interruption can be catastrophic, more so when you have a family.\n Upvotes: 129", + " Reply 2:\n Text: What’s the women in tech group you joined if you don’t mind sharing? I’m about to get into tech and come from a family of immigrants so I often think I’m leaving money on the table\n Upvotes: 28", + " Reply 3:\n Text: “You get so much for free as soon as you don’t need it” is SO real.\n Upvotes: 9", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 12:\nText: ITT: people who don’t know what they’re talking about\nUpvotes: 481", + " Reply 1:\n Text: People hate the idea that someone can be more successful than them without cheating. It doesn’t apply just to money. It applies to fitness, dating, etc. \n Upvotes: 179", + " Reply 2:\n Text: thats this whole website. bunch of 14 year olds playing grown up.\n Upvotes: 22", + " Reply 3:\n Text: This thread sounds more like people commenting about what they think rich people are like.", + "I grew up lower middle class. Married into a very wealthy family. Multiple homes, jet airplanes, things like that. Biggest shock is how absolutely normal they are. You wouldn't know they were wealthy if you met them, and even then, besides the plane, none of their things are actually as luxurious as you would expect. They are quietly philanthropic, planning to donate tens of millions to universities upon the condition their name is never mentioned. Dress normal, act normal, expect for the fact just incredibly successful in business and created a lot of wealth.\n Upvotes: 11", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 13:\nText: Shock is a strong word, but I didn't realize the social safety net rich people have. Growing up poor, we lived absolutely paycheque to paycheque (more accurately we lived borrowing against future paycheques) and it felt like we were never far from homelessness. One job loss, one prolonged serious illness, and we would not have been able to pay the rent and would have been evicted. All of my parents' family and friends were similarly struggling, so if we needed help, they would not have had much to give.", + "Now, as an adult with more money than my parents could have imagined having, we not only have substantial personal savings, but we also know so many people who could help us if things got bad. If worst came to worst, we have multiple friends with vacation properties that they barely use that we could move into. Not that I think it will ever come to that, but life is dramatically different never having to worry financially about a job loss, illness, unexpected car expense, etc.\nUpvotes: 435", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Everything just seems different when the constant threat of something disappears. I could even go as far as saying I'm bored without the chaos of a debt collector letter or eviction or loan agent (who I thought for stupidly long was a whole ass relative who just visited every week because my family screwed payday loans to all hell for 20 years) popping up every few days...\n Upvotes: 45", + " Reply 2:\n Text: That’s a good point. I rage quit my job and chose to not jump back into working so that I could get a surgery (tubes tied) I’d been wanting. It was no big deal to just stay unemployed for 3 months. We didn’t eat when that happened as a kid.\n Upvotes: 34", + " Reply 3:\n Text: This is so true!! I grew up poor. My husband did not. His siblings and relatives are all very well off too. \nHes moderately successful compared to them, and he’s not hurting. I’ve done well as an adult and am happy with my career goals. ", + "Anyways…. \nWe recently had a warning that there was a local wildfire and we may need to evacuate. \nThree of his siblings called and offered a place to stay. The family cabin in the woods? The family condo closer to the city, that hasn’t been used in 6mo? \nOr the guest house in his oldest siblings backyard!! ", + "We wouldn’t even have to stay with relatives. We’d have our own space to wait out the disaster miles and miles away. \nWe checked our insurance? And yep. Insured up to 100% in case of total loss due to fire. Husbands dad insisted he pay the extra $100 a month for that when we bought our house. \nPoor people can’t always pay that extra $1200 a year, and would have to take what they were insured for. \nI was touched they reached out immediately with solutions to our possible problem. ", + "And blown away. I realized had that happened to my parents when I was growing up? We’d have had to go the local gym evacuation point and wait and hope we had a home with something to save. \nMaybe could’ve had a room with a relative and shared one toilet for a few weeks. Nothing like a whole other home to occupy while we decide what to do next. ", + "Pretty incredible the security and freedom money can bring to a life.\n Upvotes: 13", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 14:\nText: Rich people eat a different meal for every meal and just like, throw out leftovers. Growing up, my mom would make a giant pot of tomato sauce and we ate it until it was gone. Breakfast lunch and dinner.\nUpvotes: 301", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This makes food waste a lot more insidious.\n Upvotes: 48", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Apparently in the “new money” neighborhood near where I grew up people wouldn’t do their dishes, they’d buy target dorm cutlery and just throw em away after dinner\n Upvotes: 18", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I don't respect anyone that throws away leftover food.", + "I do admire the folks that have made it to the point there is leftover food though.\n Upvotes: 16", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 15:\nText: I see very few people actually answering OP’s question. Probably because people who grew up in poverty and are rich don’t spend a lot of time posting on Reddit or advertising their wealth online. However, I’ve been around two people in my life that started out as lower middle class (not necessarily in poverty) and ended up rich. They were both very driven, smart, and had an inexhaustible supply of energy that they dedicated to the ongoing growth and success of their businesses. In general, they are “on” or working from the time they get up until they go to bed. Always entertaining clients, potential clients, or doing something else related to the growth of their company. I have no desire to sacrifice myself to a company in that way. I prefer to have more time to spend with my family and friends.\nUpvotes: 266", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This isn't answering OPs question. That, or you've misunderstood it. It looks like you're implying that rich people work insane hours. On the whole this isn't true. At least not when you account for the fact that their personal lives and household chores are done for them by other people. Rich people only work longer hours on paper. But they typically have far more autonomy and flexibility in how they arrange their time, which is a massive boon in and of itself. With cleaners and personal assistants they can work 80 hour work weeks because all their other everyday human tasks are taken care of.\n Upvotes: 31", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Exactly! They might become very rich at 40-50, but they’ve sacrificed their prime years that they will never get back, rather live entire life comfortably, than shit for 20 years and amazing for 40.\n Upvotes: 8", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 16:\nText: Most, not all, are absolute cheapskates.\nUpvotes: 219", + " Reply 1:\n Text: My mother, who grew up poor but died boomer rich, absolutely panicked when she had to call a plumber, electrician, etc. She'd just cope with things being broken. For example, my parents had a shower that was broken. My mom told me she'd had a plumber out to look at it and it would be too expensive to fix. Once she died and I started working on their house, I had a plumber out. He fixed it in half an afternoon for a couple hundred dollars. My mom just never wrapped her mind around how much money she had. \n Upvotes: 182", + " Reply 2:\n Text: I have several wealthy friends. Whenever someone in our large group of friends is collecting for a charity, selling raffles, or collecting optional dues (to cover costs) for our social group, this one guy NEVER pays. Ever.\n Upvotes: 24", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Except in cases where their generosity will be publicized!\n Upvotes: 7", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 17:\nText: How boring it is to be wealthy.", + "After a while everything becomes dull. 3 Star Restaurants, elite travel, parties, etc. it’s amazing at first, cause everything you dreamed about as a kid comes close to true. But over time, the parties are the same, travel just means you’re bored but in a new location, and that new plate with morels and asparagus foam isn’t even worth a second glance.", + "It’s so easy for your life to lose purpose. There is no work relying on you, no family you need to be the breadwinner for, no house to fix up, no lawn to take care of. You have no goals. You simply exist.", + "Some turn to golf, some to drugs, some to the arts, some to politics, some to philanthropy. Anything to fill the days and not think about the void.", + "This isn’t a complaint, nor should you respond with “the let me have all your money lol”, cause I get it. Of course, it is better to be rich and bored. What a luxury.", + "But it was surprising to me.\nUpvotes: 201", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I'm curious about this because it seems like this would be a fairly common feeling, so why aren't there more people volunteering or going back to work? Is it purely because they don't have to? Or have they tried and it just doesn't give them any purpose? I know you only have your experience but are there others that feel the same as you that didn't get lost in drugs or something \"bigger?\"\n Upvotes: 35", + " Reply 2:\n Text: My wild theory is that those people are living these lifes for real, enjoying life to the max, total freedom and unlimited options in their whole lifes. And the rest of us are just NPC’s that is needed to make it all work… including slavery, starvation, wars, poverty and so on 🤷‍♂️", + "And even if you don’t think we are NPCs, we are being treated as NPCs wether you like it or not 🙃\n Upvotes: 12", + " Reply 3:\n Text: That's just such an utterly foreign concept to me. I've got enough hobbies now that I could easily stay busy without work - I was off for nearly four months recovering from a shoulder surgery several years ago, and even with the physical restrictions that placed on me, I never got bored. And I've got a mental list of stuff I'd like to get into if I had the money.\n Upvotes: 6", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 18:\nText: [deleted]\nUpvotes: 161", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Lifestyle Creep is the real killer for folks who make good but not unfathomable money (upper middle class typically). You have to have very defined financial goals and be pretty laser-focused on them to avoid it.\n Upvotes: 81", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Very similar situation to you but scaled back just a little. Our household monthly spending is around 7K. Having lived off a 25k annual salary for many years, this number would have given younger me a heart attack. No kids so I imagine if we had those, it would be closer to your number.\n Upvotes: 15", + " Reply 3:\n Text: A written budget will really help with this. I personally use YNAB but there are many systems and all of the big ones are good.\n Upvotes: 3", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 19:\nText: When we had our first children (twins) we were poor. We went through the process and had two healthy boys.", + "A few years later I had a stable job with medical insurance when we had our third child.", + "Everything was nicer. They didn't push us out of the hospital so fast. All the basic care was the same, but I was shocked at how much better we were treated with insurance.\nUpvotes: 155", + " Reply 1:\n Text: > shocked at how much better we were treated with insurance.", + "The sad truth.\n Upvotes: 47", + " Reply 2:\n Text: why did you have kids when you were poor?\n Upvotes: -5", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 20:\nText: They are not unusually smart. The ones I have interacted with (and dated), could not tell you much about science, philosophy, arts, than your average person. Their intellect is limited to career knowledge.", + "", + "Most don't have too many passions in life outside of maintaining their lifestyle, as in acquiring wealth and hoarding it. This includes spending less and finding good deals.", + "\nOf the families that I have interacted with, many of the children never develop the same drive that their parents had that led to their success.\nUpvotes: 151", + " Reply 1:\n Text: This makes sense. Wealth earned via luck or hard work. No time for interesting courses or hobbies.\n Upvotes: 35", + " Reply 2:\n Text: If anyone learns how to teach drive, I'd pay for that course. \n Upvotes: 16", + " Reply 3:\n Text: The ability to delay gratification is not the same as the ability to solve puzzles and match patterns. Together they can do amazing things but one doesn’t need to be a genius to work hard, save the extra, and invest over decades. ", + "Compound interest over 25 years is the REAL miracle. But you have to put in early to get later. By the time many people figure this out it’s too late for them. ", + "But even if they do they won’t put their kids in league with time either, perpetuating the state another generation.\n Upvotes: 5", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 21:\nText: How casually they talk about money, it's like discussing the weather\nUpvotes: 134", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Tbf, this is one less talked-about reason people who have money have it. While other people spend lots of time talking about sports or TV shows or whatever, people with money are talking about how to make more money. They share information with each other and help each other out.\n Upvotes: 75", + " Reply 2:\n Text: This could be cultural too. I find it odd Americans are so reluctant to chat about money\n Upvotes: 7", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 22:\nText: I grew up pretty poor. My wife insanely rich. In my house, your car breaks down, you fix it, or, take it to a mechanic to fix it. In her house, they would buy a new car. This dawned on me when our washing machine broke and I ordered the part on Amazon and an hour later saw she had ordered a new washer from Lowe’s. She’s gotten better, but her first impulse is just to buy a new one of whatever is broken\nUpvotes: 116", + " Reply 1:\n Text: My husband is like this too. To a point, our $300 vacuum nozzle broke and he just ordered a new vacuum. \n Upvotes: 3", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Comfort brings laziness\n Upvotes: 2", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 23:\nText: That most of them are nepo babies..", + "My hippy-dippy ex owns several houses in a beach resort town.. she was an ESL teacher for 10 years and now teaches the occasional yoga class..", + "At one time when we were dating I asked her about our lifestyle..", + "\"Oh I bought a house in Seattle. And then it doubled in price when I moved to another place.. I bought a house there in that place doubled\" ", + "\"As an ESL teacher how are you able to buy a house in Seattle?\"", + "Oh my dad..", + "She also has a sister who's never worked and lives a upper middle class lifestyle in Brooklyn..", + "She was always vague about how she's able to do it..", + "After 10 freaking years did she finally admit that they both got a huge inheritance from their grandfather..", + "I would go with her to the yacht club and talk to some of the other members. About 95% of them are all nepo babies whose family owned a business and they were born into a senior executive position..", + "\nEvery single one of them feels they deserved it because they work hard..", + "I know two people who made it organically.. both of them are in tech.. both of them are worth a hundred plus million.. they're both super generous and getting back to the community..", + "But the arrogant dipshit yacht club member who's draped in Louis Vuitton that was born a millimeter away from home plate and thinks he hit a home run is active in local politics and always trying to screw over the poor.\nUpvotes: 114", + " Reply 1:\n Text: You know two ppl worth 100m+? Did they found their own companies? Even mag7 tech mid level leadership it's tough to get there. I am self made multi millionaire and work with wealthy ppl but might only know 1 worth 100m+ who ironically was a farmer lol\n Upvotes: 18", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 24:\nText: That rich people think bananas cost $10.\nUpvotes: 95", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Lucille Bluthe has entered the chat.\n Upvotes: 35", + " Reply 2:\n Text: There’s always money in the banana stand.\n Upvotes: 5", + " Reply 3:\n Text: I don’t think a banana costs $10, but my SIL was complaining about the price of chips and I honestly didn’t know how much they were. If my housekeeper doesn’t get our groceries, I just grab whatever and pay at the end without looking at the price of each item. It was a real wake up call.\n Upvotes: 2", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 25:\nText: Not. I'm not \"rich rich\", but my husband and I make well over a half million a year. That sounds like a lot until you learn that we live in Mountain View, California. He works at Stanford and I work for \\[social media company here\\]. We do well, we have no kids, and we save a lot of our income. I grew up super poor on and off until I was a late teen. Like, my father hunted for our protein and my grandma mended my brother's hand-me-downs for me. My husband grew up reasonably upper middle class, maybe bottom level of wealthy. ", + "The biggest things I've learned?", + "(1) That \"the desire to be rich one day\" is itself a religion. A kind of religion. It's a dogma that we say prayers to. There are rituals around it. There's this almost spiritual believe in an \"I'll be rich one day\" afterlife of imagining one's post-scarcity paradise. In reality, once you get rid of all the things that drive you (by occupying much of your time and energy) you are left with your own demons. I'm a gay guy from one of the poorest parts of Ohio, and from a right-wing, Pentecostal family. Under normal circumstances, my needy kids, a job, a wife, and the stuff of life would keep my mind occupied. Freed of that, I've had time to unpack an incredibly painful childhood, which has not really been the paradise I hoped for. ", + "Until I arrived at this place, this myth about \"one day I'll be rich and happy when I have X amount of savings\" was a lie. It was myth. It was like a religion that kept me working and kept driving me forward. One day, I reached the promised land and discovered that it's mostly sophistry. Happiness is the pursuit of happiness, it is in belonging to others, and in having a purpose to those we love. ", + "(2) Miserable people are mostly miserable no matter what. Happy people tend to be happy no matter what. There are exceptions. Below a certain amount of income, the circumstances of life drain and destroy you. If you earn enough to \"buy back\" all that suffering (waiting in lines, crappy healthcare, clipping coupons, worrying about rent), what you're left with is a space where you can thrive. People born to be miserable cunts will be miserable no matter what. People who would be happy but can't because of poverty may probably thrive. And those who are happy will just be happy no matter what happens. ", + "(3) Rich people, I mean REALLY rich people, really are different. Since I'm surrounded by SV wealth and have a few friends with 8 and 9 digit worth, they just are different. I have a friend in the 8-digit range. She is utterly obsessed with her \"earthiness\". \"I'm just like everybody else.\" We were strolling down the street in San Francisco after lunch. She went on and on and on about how she's not disconnected from reality. Then, in one moment, she took a call from her husband, \"Okay, well, just call 'Bob' and have him charter us a jet. We can get to Las Vegas in like an hour.\" I was like that Indian football coach meme staring at her. \"Scuze me 'Marsha'. That statement was not a 'just like everybody else' statement. Next to nobody else ever says the words, 'Well, charter a jet' when getting to Vegas in under 4 hours becomes so inconvenient that they don't want to drive.\"", + "(4) No matter how rich you are, you are out of touch with some one struggling at a less entitled position as you. I'm not rich, but the luxuries to which I've become accustomed are hard for me to live without. (My husband works at a hospital and we have great \\[tech worker\\] insurance. So when we go to the hospital, we just go in and any doctor will see us. We fly mostly business class and anything other than that is quite literally painful.) Maybe you can't afford those things, but if --say-- you live in the US and have a house, food, clothing, and not much else, there's someone far worse off than you, somewhere on Earth. They're suffering. You're not. And the hardest thing about our reality is that there is only so much of our time and energy any one of us can spend thinking about it. ", + "(5) The greatest joy you get from having money is the freedom from worry that it buys and the ability to do really great, kind things for your loved ones. It's nice being able to afford doing stuff for our friends and family. It's nice being able to not have to do so many of life's super annoying things. It's nice getting time away to go on vacation. Buying stuff? Not worth it for me. It's all about the time I get with my husband.\nUpvotes: 95", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I’m truly moved and grateful for your lovely insights. And also, I hope this doesn’t seem weird but can we please be friends 🤗\n Upvotes: 5", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Thank you for sharing.\n Upvotes: 5", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Beautifully written.\n Upvotes: 4", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 26:\nText: It's expensive to be poor. Much cheaper to be rich.\nUpvotes: 94", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 27:\nText: When I married a doctor from a wealthy family, I thought the large family would be intellectually challenging and fun.", + "I quickly discovered that the main topics of conversation focused on keeping people from getting their money, and stain removal. They loved to talk about stain removal!\nUpvotes: 79", + " Reply 1:\n Text: 😂😂😂😂WTF stain removal from what?\n Upvotes: 6", + " Reply 2:\n Text: So it looks like they failed ???\n Upvotes: 4", + " Reply 3:\n Text: Keeping people from their money?\n Upvotes: 2", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 28:\nText: If there is one thing redditors love, it’s talking about growing up poor\nUpvotes: 78", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I think this is an American thing (although I am sure not exclusively). But my UK friends say their rich acquaintances don’t feel the same need to justify themselves.\n Upvotes: 3", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 29:\nText: I'm not rich, but I spent the first half of my life working class poor, the second half destitutely poor, and now am comfortably middle class (wow that is wild to think).", + "Many upper middle class and up folks genuinely believe they are working class or middle class or just getting by. I've had people getting 50k kitchen renos done by interior designers tell me they're poor. Or people with brand new cars they bought in cash. Or people who travel to Europe for weeks at a time, several times a year. ", + "They will say things like \"well I bought the car in cash but I had to save for several years to afford it\" not realizing that a working class family could try and save forever, they aren't ever going to be able to afford a 75k vehicle in cash. Or \"well the kitchen before was so disgusting and was falling apart, it had to be upgraded\" not realizing that for actual poor or working class people, they just keep the disgusting kitchen.", + "I used to argue with these people when I was poor because I would get so angry at how clueless they were. Now I still get annoyed, but I've learned to just smile and nod politely and let them live in their \"woe is me\" world.\nUpvotes: 70", + " Reply 1:\n Text: I've had terrible anxiety all my life. When I was little, one thing I did that helped was make a \"worry box\". Any time something was bothering me, I'd write it down and add it to the worry box. Articulating the problem helped me understand why it upset me and sometimes even helped me find a solution.", + "The first few papers were about how I couldn't get regular meals. How I couldn't have sleepovers because I was afraid my parents would hurt my friends. How my clothes didn't fit and it was causing bruises or joint pain. Once I was on my own I worried about rent or projects at work. Nowadays it's that I had a bad interaction with a cashier or had a headache. ", + "What really surprised me is no matter how well my life is going, my worry box is always full. Life's never perfect, I'm never completely happy, and my to do list is never finished. It's just that the baseline for what upsets me is higher. I honestly wonder if I could still deal with the things that set off my anxiety when I was a kid.\n Upvotes: 25", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "Comment 30:\nText: Your poor friends will kind of resent you for it. Never ever ever tell anybody how much money you have. It will only bring sadness and misery. ", + "Also, the desire to become rich can be a kind of mental illness the is the result of being raised in poverty. I am not super rich. My net worth puts me in the top 10%. I have enough to retire and live the rest of my life in comfort if I chose to stop working. But I still feel this constant anxiety that I don't have enough or something is going to happen and I will lose it all and be homeless. ", + "I think what we are experiencing in the US today is that the ultra wealthy billionaires have become mentally ill. I mean if someone is worth a billion dollars they could spend $100,000 a day for 30 years and still die with money. But all they can think about is 'how can I get 2 billion.\" These mental patients would rather destroy democracy than to have to pay taxes. It is madness what they will destroy to do it.\nUpvotes: 63", + " Reply 1:\n Text: Eh dunno about that. I have nothing and I'm still fucking stoked to hear that my friends are doing well.\n Upvotes: 7", + " Reply 2:\n Text: Ngl, I had a rich friend that I constantly had to push myself to not resent them. It never really worked because it was just so easy to label everything they say as “how would you know, you’re rich.” or something similar.\n Upvotes: 3", + "--------------------------------------------------", + "" + ] +} \ No newline at end of file